The best way to get along, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to master which words to get along?

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Since ancient times, the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is a headache for men, so that women worry about the relationship, it seems that many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law before becoming a family, there will not be too many contradictions, and even love each other to talk about the future together. But into a family, between the two because of differences in living habits, cultural thinking to accept the different, in turn, breeding a contradiction, so the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along has become a major problem. The new dating conference", Mr. Meng Fei so described the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with the model: mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, we do two keep on good, keep a little distance, keep good manners.

As long as you do these two things, the family can be smooth. The way to get along with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, no need for the mother-in-law to do to the daughter-in-law as a daughter, daughter-in-law also no need to take the mother-in-law as a mother to filial piety, after all, the real mother and daughter of two even if the quarrel can quickly and good, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to say heavy words between the relationship will be stiff. Too many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, so that women fear of marriage, afraid of marriage and mother-in-law do not get along well, so as to lead to the rupture of the couple's relationship. But in fact, as long as you master the way to get along with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, all the contradictions will no longer affect the relationship. Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the best mode of getting along, in fact, these four words: mutual respect.

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The relationship between Qin Juan and her mother-in-law is very good, because they do respect each other. Her family is not rich enough to buy two suites and live separately, much less the kind of mother-in-law who hires a nanny for her daughter-in-law. They are ordinary people, since the child weaned, the husband took the mother-in-law over, the mother-in-law during the day to help them take care of a child's three meals a day, the night is still a small couple with their own. Although she hadn't read many books, she had bought a few parenting books in order to bring up the child well, and usually exchanged scientific parenting styles with Qin Juan, so there were no disagreements between the two of them in terms of educating the child. Of course, Qin Juan and her mother-in-law's tastes are different. Her mother-in-law likes to cook with a lot of flavor and oil, while Qin Juan likes to eat light food, so every time she comes in from work and smells the fumes, she doesn't have much of an appetite. There were several times when she swallowed her words after they came out of her mouth.

She thought that it was hard enough for her mother-in-law to help her with the kids, but now that she was doing a good job with the food, it would be hard for her to pick at it, so she ate a few bites every time, and of course, her mother-in-law noticed this, and when she was cooking, she also took care of Qin Juan's tastes, and there were one or two lighter dishes. Qin Juan felt her mother-in-law's respect for her in her daily life, and she became more and more kind to her mother-in-law. In the end, respect is a mutual thing. If you respect me, I'll return the favor, and the two of them will get along well. Although Qin Juan and her mother-in-law have conflicts over many small issues, they usually put themselves in each other's shoes. Because she has been with Qin Juan for a long time, her mother-in-law has been exposed to many young people's ideas, and she respects Qin Juan as a daughter-in-law in her daily life. There were even times when the mother-in-law relied on Qin Juan, and she wanted to hear Qin Juan's opinion on many things, trusting her daughter-in-law more than her son.

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This is the magic of mutual respect, and it's hard for mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law to be like mothers and daughters-in-law, after all? A mother-in-law is not a real mom? Therefore, mutual respect is the best mode of getting along, so surely many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law want to ask exactly how to do it? Do? Compare the heart to the heart? The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will have conflicts between them, largely because of the different eating habits, lifestyles and thoughts. It's actually quite simple to get the mother-in-law to adapt to a stranger, while it's difficult for the daughter-in-law to adapt to a large family, plus it's even more difficult to remember the interests and hobbies of each family member.

So, the mother-in-law has to think differently, think more about her own pain when she first got married, treat her daughter-in-law not harshly, and give each other some time to get used to. Of course, this kind of thing, is the need for both sides to do with heart, can not just ask the mother-in-law sympathetic daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-law do not do anything. In ordinary life, the daughter-in-law should not go to smack the mother-in-law thinking old, mother-in-law thinking wrong do not let the husband to communicate, rather than face to face accusations, leading to the fermentation of conflicts.

Mother-in-law to do? Keep the distance? As a mother-in-law, must remember, after the son married, the first role in his body is a husband, a father, in fact, is the son now. He has his own small family, have their own new life, at this time parents should do, is to keep a distance from their small family, do not go to meddle in the small family matters. Many mothers-in-law just because they do not keep a good distance, in the son and daughter-in-law get along with the life of the finger, feel that the daughter-in-law can not take care of their own son. Remember, the daughter-in-law is also someone else's baby, she was not born to take care of others, life between husband and wife is the need to take care of each other, the mother-in-law's meddling, will break this balance, naturally, the daughter-in-law heart will not be comfortable, the contradiction arose.

Daughter-in-law do? Keep polite? To let a woman to know not long mother-in-law as her own mother to see, really is difficult. In the end, itself has not met many times, then why the first few meetings can still be peaceful? That is because the daughter-in-law did to keep polite. If the daughter-in-law can maintain the most basic courtesy, respect for the mother-in-law, the natural mother-in-law will restrain their own behavior, come up with elder style. Therefore, the woman must remain polite after marriage, between the hands and feet to maintain the attitude of an elder, do what is to the point, not to go deeper, naturally, the two of you will reduce the contradiction.

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Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a natural enemy, you can stay friendly with a friend guest, that is to do with mutual respect.

So, as a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of the two, also to do mutual respect, get along with each other to maintain their own cultivation, to give their own courtesy and grace to each other, such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will also produce conflicts in life? In fact, there is no great contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, three different views, habits are different people living under one roof, it is impossible not to have friction and quarrels. Yes, in the face of these conflicts, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are able to uphold? Mutual respect? The principle, can step back, do not fight, all the problems can be solved. Because fate came together two people, with the love of the same man, I believe that all the purposes are for the family's future can be better, as long as you find the right way to get along, the day will be able to live in peace and beauty.