How to promote the reform of national marriage customs

How to promote the reform of national marriage customs

How to promote the reform of national marriage customs, since around 2000, people's pursuit of lively weddings has gradually changed and changed. Uncivilized marriage customs are inserted, forming bad habits. How to promote the reform of marriage customs in the Non-Aligned Movement?

How to promote the reform of 1 marriage customs is a cultural project and a livelihood project. In recent years, Lixian has made remarkable achievements in breaking the bad habits of marriage customs and establishing a new style of marriage customs. In April this year, it was established by the Ministry of Civil Affairs as the only national-level experimental area for marriage custom reform in our province. In the next three years, Lixian will give the word marriage custom new content and new atmosphere.

The new trend of "breaking" and "establishing" marriage customs is coming.

"When I got married, although there was no band or song and dance at the ceremony, both the groom and the best man sang very hard, but it was very lively. That kind of happiness is not designed, but from the heart. " Ma, secretary of the Party branch of Mengjiagang Community in Liyang Street, Li County, recalled that more than 20 years ago, they all led the "riding army" and sang songs all the way to the bride's house. After the bride takes it back, she gets off the bus and walks about a mile from the groom's house. The groom's "three steps and one respect" showed his respect and affection for the woman, which was a traditional wedding custom respected by the urban and rural areas of Lixian at that time.

"Only for some time, uncivilized marriage customs have been inserted, forming a bad habit."

From around 2000, influenced by the surrounding environment, people's pursuit of lively weddings has gradually changed. The groom was forced out of the car by the troublemaker and used a scooter instead of pulling the bride forward; Force the groom to take off his coat and dance around the pole. If he is not satisfied, he won't let go. The song and dance team at the wedding scene will also deliberately perform some vulgar programs; After the wedding, some people still make fun of the bridesmaids maliciously ... In short, in order to watch the excitement and attract people's attention, the wedding patterns are also varied, which is far from the local traditional wedding customs in Lixian County and the requirements of civilized society for "wedding events".

In this regard, in 20 17, Lixian county began to promote the change of customs in the field of marriage throughout the county, and "made every effort" to rectify vulgar marriage quarrels, sky-high bride price, dowry comparison, human relations and other issues through village regulations (residents' conventions), expert preaching, and party member taking the lead.

In Wangjiu Village, Dayandang Town, every household has a family style card marked "Diligent housekeeping and filial piety for the elderly". The village committees stipulated in the village rules and regulations that each table of the wedding banquet should not exceed the standards of 350 yuan and 300 yuan, and fireworks and firecrackers should not be set off. At the same time, it is necessary to set up a red and white Council, and all villages and groups should establish a WeChat group of "changing customs and advocating civilized new styles". Cadres and the masses in rural party member should participate in and supervise each other, and those who violate the regulations will be disqualified.

The chairman of the village red and white Council said: "In the past, weddings often took three or four days, and a wedding cost1200,000 yuan. Now, when villagers hold weddings, funerals and happy events, they must file in advance, sign applications and commitments, and consciously and voluntarily abide by the rules and regulations of the village. " In the past two years, many couples in the village 10 have married, all of which are festive and simple, and the villagers are no longer tired of human feelings.

At present, more and more villages and streets in Lixian county have set up red and white councils, formulated their own village rules and regulations, and organized villagers to self-govern bad social customs such as weddings, funerals and weddings through self-education, self-management and self-service.

The simple marriage of "assistance" and "service" is still popular.

In the Marriage Registry of Lixian Civil Affairs Bureau, a young couple Yuan, who was born in the 1990s, went into the marriage counseling room before formally obtaining the certificate and answered 15 small questions carefully prepared by the marriage counselor, including topics such as family responsibilities and parenting concepts.

In September, 2020, Lixian Civil Affairs Bureau formulated the Pilot Work Plan for Marriage Custom Reform in Lixian County, which incorporated matters such as marriage and family consultation, premarital consultation, marriage certificate service and group wedding into government procurement services, forming a long-term mechanism.

At the same time, in order to promote the reform of marriage customs in Lixian County and advocate simple and decent wedding etiquette, the county civil affairs bureau continued to carry out a series of activities such as "leading the romantic Tanabata and cultivating a new civilized atmosphere" and vigorously promoted modern civilized wedding ceremonies. In resolving the contradictions after marriage, the civil affairs department and other functional departments jointly carry out marriage and family consultation, improve the humanistic care and psychological counseling mechanism and crisis intervention mechanism, and effectively improve the success rate of mediation in handling disputes.

In April this year, Lixian Civil Affairs Bureau hired experienced social workers and marriage and family counselors. The first lesson of premarital counseling for every couple through the government's purchase of services.

Every time a link is completed, the staff will stamp the note to prove it. Solemn and romantic ceremonies have also become the standard of marriage registration procedures. After reading the wedding vows, the couple put the marriage certificate in a photo frame prepared in advance, press the love fingerprint, and finally freeze the warm moment. Newcomer Yuan said excitedly: "I am very happy. I completed a major event in my life, and the ceremony was very successful, which made us feel very happy. "

In addition, Lixian actively innovated marriage services, and held activities such as single youth blind date, collective certification ceremony and collective wedding on special days such as "520" and "Qixi".

Aunt Wu of Zhanjiagang Village, Chengtoushan Town, told the reporter happily, "Thanks to the new marriage advocated by the party and the government, my son's marriage is happy and carefree." Aunt Wu's family has poor economic conditions. Although her son is hardworking and kind, she has never found a suitable partner. I didn't expect to meet a bosom friend at the single youth meeting organized by the Youth League Committee. In August last year, the two registered to get married and participated in the collective awarding ceremony held by the county civil affairs bureau. The young couple vowed to become actors and communicators of changing customs, and only held a simple wedding.

According to the relevant person in charge of Lixian Civil Affairs Bureau, a collective wedding will be held on September 26th, which will provide a new choice of wedding form for the marriageable youth in the county, further promote the reform of marriage customs, change customs, and make the simple and gentle new concept of marriage and love deeply rooted in people's hearts.

How to promote the reform of national marriage customs? There is no Kyushu cloud mirror in 20,000 miles, and the most reunion night is Mid-Autumn Festival. The Mid-Autumn Festival symbolizes reunion and full moon, which makes the new people looking forward to happiness choose this day to join hands in the marriage hall. The city's marriage registration authority strictly implements the management requirements for the prevention and control of the epidemic situation of marriage registration, and combines the work of the National Marriage Custom Reform Experimental Zone to handle marriage registration for citizens on the Mid-Autumn Festival, providing a variety of marriage registration services, and sharing the festive joy of Mid-Autumn Festival reunion with newlyweds.

Strengthen security forces and do a good job in registration services.

In order to fulfill the promise of "I do practical things for the masses" and meet the needs of the masses for marriage registration on special festivals, the marriage registration offices in all districts of Guangzhou opened their doors for marriage registration in the Mid-Autumn Festival. By adding a registration window, increasing staff, pre-examining materials in advance, improving work efficiency and other measures, all the parties who met the registration conditions on that day were able to register, and the city registered 58 1 pair.

Strengthen epidemic prevention and control and implement normal management.

The marriage registration offices in all districts of Guangzhou strictly implement the management requirements of epidemic prevention and control, strengthen the management of personnel in marriage registration service places, strictly implement epidemic prevention measures such as wearing masks, checking health information, temperature detection, ventilation and disinfection, and send more personnel and joint volunteers to do on-site service guidance and security work to effectively protect the health and life safety of marriage registration parties and staff.

Promote the reform of marriage customs and carry out a series of service activities.

In order to carry forward and inherit the excellent Chinese traditional culture and family virtues, advocate the new fashion of modern civilized marriage customs, vigorously promote the construction of the national experimental area for marriage customs reform, and guide the masses to establish the new fashion of "attaching importance to registration, strengthening responsibility and advocating frugality", Guangzhou Marriage Registration Office launched a series of rich and varied marriage services in the Mid-Autumn Festival.

One is the proposal of love. The Civil Affairs Bureau of Guangzhou, together with the Municipal Civilization Office, printed the Proposal for Civilized Marriage and Family in the New Era, which was distributed in the city's marriage registration offices and urban and rural communities, advocating the general public to attach importance to the construction of family education, abandon the stereotypes of high bride price, establish a correct view of marriage, advocate new happy events and simple marriages, and create a healthy and progressive new trend of civilized marriage customs.

The second is the message wall of love. The Marriage Registration Office of Panyu District Civil Affairs Bureau set up a "message wall" in the waiting area to make post-it notes with Mid-Autumn Festival elements, so that newlyweds can post "the voice of love" on the message wall, show their love interactively and share the sweetness and happiness of entering marriage.

The third is the Mid-Autumn Festival of love. There is an interesting custom in Guangzhou. Every Mid-Autumn Festival, lanterns are tied up and hung high, which is called "Mid-Autumn Festival on a Tree" or "Vertical Lantern". The Marriage Registry of Panyu District Civil Affairs Bureau, in combination with the custom of "planting Mid-Autumn Festival" in Guangfu, hangs Mid-Autumn Festival lanterns in the service places, and attaches cards such as riddles, poems and blessing sentences. Each newlywed couple can get a beautiful lantern by picking up their favorite cards. Newlyweds will also be invited to make lanterns. While feeling the traditional culture, they will experience the support and companionship of their spouses through the process of cooperation, thinking and consensus, thus enhancing their sense of belonging to home.

The fourth is the punch point of love. The marriage registration offices of civil affairs bureaus in Liwan, Panyu, Nansha and other places have set up outdoor punch points for newlyweds and citizens to take photos and create a festive atmosphere.

The fifth is the question of love. The Marriage Registration Office of the Civil Affairs Bureau of Huangpu District has launched an online publicity campaign on the culture of civilized marriage customs. Newcomers receive task cards to participate in online questions and answers about marriage customs, and learn about civilized marriage customs through online videos, which enhances the sense of marriage registration ceremony and improves the awareness of building a happy family.

The sixth is the love cram school. The Marriage Registry of Nansha District Civil Affairs Bureau has set up a marriage navigation online wedding lecture hall to help new people understand marriage, realize the transformation from love relationship to marriage relationship, effectively handle differences and contradictions in marriage and family, and improve their marriage management ability.