Older generation of parenting ideas, what else is unacceptable

Many of them must be with the family of the elderly children have been shopping in the supermarket together. I don't know if your family has ever seen this scene: children see the supermarket inside a variety of delicious will not be able to bear the checkout want to eat, the general practice of the parents will say that can not eat, now things are not ours, to wait for the checkout, become our things you can eat.

When mothers try to stop their children from doing this, older people often say, "It's okay, it's okay to take one. This gives the child the mental suggestion that "it's okay as long as you don't take too much!" and becomes like a "thief". The child will then become a "thief"!

2, you don't get, I'll

We all know that the elderly for children are very loving, intergenerational pro is even more so. Therefore, we see that some of the elderly on their grandchildren are very spoiled, what work are not allowed to do, but also help the child wash his face, brush his teeth, clean up the bag, feed the child to eat, give the child to wear clothes and so on. In fact, this kind of spoiling of the old generation will lead to the child can not be independent, affecting the child's development. Therefore such old people are not suitable for bringing up children!

3, if you don't listen to the police, the police will come to get you

In fact, no matter how old people are, even young parents will use "if you don't listen to the police, the police will come to get you" to scare the children, which is a lie in itself. The police is to protect the people, with the police to scare the children, one is to demonize the police, and secondly, this is simply a will not be realized "intimidation". Older people should not use a lie to scare their children just because they are disobedient. If the child is in danger and needs help one day, but he is afraid to call the police for help, it is likely that he will miss the opportunity to be in danger.

4, don't talk to children in general

Elderly people with children, the most common shortcomings, as long as the child is out of trouble, the old man is sure to harbor their own children, but also said: you are an adult, but also with the child in general. In fact, this behavior will make the child think that they have done something wrong, but because of their own age, and was exempted. I believe it is easy for the child to develop a sense of irresponsibility, and will inevitably suffer when he or she grows up. Such an old man is not suitable to bring up a child.

As a parent, you must realize that educating your children is an unshirkable responsibility of being a parent. We can not rely too much on the elderly, more or more need to accompany our own children, more understanding of the child, more praise and affirmation of the child, pay attention to the development of the child's mental health, so that the child grows up in an atmosphere full of love.