"Can not brake the car" of the village of human relations, why the world of human relations will also become a burden?

The reason why it has become a burden is mainly because it is too much of a waste, while some old customs have not been changed. After all, the Spring Festival is approaching, and for many of the workers who work outside, they choose to go home, in which case the village will become lively all of a sudden. Some people work outside to save up a year's money, go home just to set up a banquet, in fact, in the countryside if you do not have a banquet at the end of the year, the white always feel that the family did not have anything to live, so it will lead to the rural humane exchanges have become a heavy burden in the family. These years the gift is also rising year by year, for example, an old man died, then we have to big dozens of tables, these need to spend money, for the gift money that can be received, the books are still a loss.

It's simple, when you ask someone to sing or do some traditional custom rituals you need to spend thousands of dollars. To our side to invite some Taoist priests to do a ceremony for the deceased, then it should reach more than 3,000 yuan a gang, usually to invite two gangs, two packages of discounted calculation will reach more than 6,000 yuan. But also invite some people to eat, our side of the death of people in general, each family should send a person to come to help, catch down to have to invite dozens of tables of people to eat, a table is about 10 people, a table also need 10 dishes, this expense is really not low.

Nearing the New Year, many villagers will focus on banquets, feasts and wedding banquets. The main reason is that usually want to handle this wedding banquet, people are certainly not all the way to concentrate, the gift naturally can not receive much, so for a lot of people, they will be in the New Year's Eve, in some of the field personnel are choosing to come back, hurry up to the banquet to invite, so as to be able to receive more gifts, to not be a loss, it will be more lively. In fact, in the countryside has formed a kind of unwritten rules, you send out the favor money in fact in the future you still have to return, after all, when others to do wedding, you still have to give others favor money to return, may also be because of the growth of the years and have to carry on the increase.

There are places where the annual expenditure on favors reaches 10,000 yuan a year, for example, there are areas where they have to buy a new house and have a banquet in the new house. Just to enter the new house, then certainly want to share a few hundred or even seven or eight hundred to 1,000 yuan of red packets, sealed red packets after you have to invite everyone to dinner, set up a banquet may have to set up more than a dozen tables, each table also want a few hundred dollars. Now the wage income of about 6000 ~ 4000 between, a year is also tens of thousands of dollars, if you take tens of thousands of dollars out to do the exchange of favors, will indeed become a burden.