Why do you still have the feudal thought of son preference?

In the previous era, this kind of thought was really common and everywhere, but with the development of society now, it should gradually decrease, but this phenomenon will still exist more or less. I think there are two reasons: 1, and traditional ideas are deeply rooted. The first is the reason of traditional ideas. Tradition tells us that daughters are poured out by married daughters, and only by adopting sons can we carry on the family line. Although we have emancipated our minds and made social progress, this concept still exists, especially in some backward areas where son preference is more serious. 2. Many people mainly rely on their sons to provide for the elderly. In addition, there is a very realistic reason. Many old people have no pension. In his later years, he basically relied on his son to provide for the elderly. Once a daughter marries, she can't count on it. It is for this reason that many families prefer boys to girls. As parents, we should correctly handle the relationship between children: 1, don't judge two children by gender, don't judge two children by gender, have a boy or a girl, the son can support the elderly, and the daughter can also support the elderly. They are all their own children, and the palms of their hands are all meat. Don't distinguish right from wrong by age. In addition, don't distinguish between right and wrong children by age. Many parents always take "you are elder sister, let younger brother" and "you are elder brother, let younger sister" as the first sentence, which is not only easy to hurt children's hearts, but also not conducive to the formation of children's correct values. Obvious preference for boys over girls, I believe anyone with eyes can see it. It is also relatively simple for girls living in such families to leave home when they grow up. After all, parents' preference for their sons is so obvious that they don't feel much love, so it's not difficult to decide to leave. There is also the invisible preference for boys over girls. Parents don't think they are preference for boys, and it is impossible to admit it. Some girls, who are unaware of it, think it is "normal" behavior after being subtly influenced by the phenomenon of son preference. There are also some girls, even if they know that they prefer boys to girls, they will struggle painfully. On the one hand, parents are "good" to themselves, on the other hand, they kidnap themselves with love. When I was young, I found a strange and incomprehensible phenomenon for me at that time. Why do my elders and parents want me to do housework instead of calling me brother? Obviously we are in the same trade, why don't they do the housework when I want to do it? I won't give in until I get a convincing answer. I asked: Why don't my brothers do it? Because of doubt, I won't make a move, so I will stay put. "You than with them, you are a girl! Girls should be more diligent. " I got this answer. But I am young and clumsy, and I still can't understand why girls do housework and boys don't. This is obviously strange. Since the problem has not been solved, I'd better stay put. Finally, my mother asked me to do housework, so I had to assign tasks to my brother, otherwise she would know that she couldn't call me. This gives me the impression that I am lazy and unreasonable. My brother will be appreciated for doing housework. As for me, it's my duty. It is normal that they don't do it; I won't do it. I'm lazy and savage. The distribution of housework is only a small aspect, but we can see the big picture from the small. Caring about the distribution of housework is not a matter of haggling. Think about it a little and you will understand: why is housework the responsibility of girls and boys don't have to do it? They say that girls should take responsibility for getting married in the future. It means the same thing, housework is a woman's responsibility. So it's not son preference. What is this? To be small, it is reflected in various details of life such as housework; Generally speaking, it involves the distribution of property. The daughter got married and left the house to her son. This kind of thing is extremely normal for most people, and it does not involve son preference. Isn't it patriarchal to treat sons and daughters differently? Of course, I don't expect my daughter to support the elderly, and there is nothing to say about leaving the house to my son. Still "fair". What is equality if you want your daughter to contribute to the pension and leave all your property to your son? The existence of problems is not terrible. What's really terrible is that you can't see the existence of the problem and will never correct it. Although this society has been paying attention to gender equality, it is impossible for boys and girls to achieve real equality in many places, and many families still prefer boys to girls. However, compared with the obvious patriarchal ideology of the older generation, there is an "invisible" patriarchal ideology in many families today, which makes more girls feel wronged, because such a family environment makes girls feel bitter and unspeakable. Then let's talk about what it's like to live in an "invisible" patriarchal family today.

1, there is nothing wrong with small things, but the idea of favoring boys over girls in big things will be revealed.

In many small details, many families are treated equally. For example, sons and daughters are treated equally in all aspects of life. For example, as much as pocket money, food and clothing are as good. In this regard, the daughter is glad that her life is happy and her parents feel equal. But once something big happens, such as buying a house for my son at home, I never mention such a thing to my daughter. This patriarchal thinking is "invisible", which makes many girls speechless.

2. On the issue of providing for the aged by parents, parents always feel that their children are equal, and children should share the cost of providing for the aged equally.

Living in such a family, because parents think that we have treated you two children equally, there is no preference for boys, so when we get old, our children should share our pension expenses equally. At first glance, there is nothing wrong with this idea, but when you think about it carefully, it is full of sadness. It is said that children are equal, but in major events, the son always has the upper hand, the daughter is always the thankless party, and finally she has to support the elderly like a son. People who have not experienced such grievances will never understand.

I believe every daughter doesn't want to be nice to her parents, but she is more or less lost in the face of her parents' style of doing things.