China's parents' methods of educating their children

At present, there are three kinds of doting education in China.

Reason: Spoiling has become the mainstream because of the improvement of the overall family income level in China and the family planning policy implemented since the 1980s, which has caused the whole family members, including parents, grandparents and even uncles and aunts, to pay excessive attention to their children. This is the reason of the times, not the case of any parents or families.

Results: Spoiling education will make children lack gratitude and have no concept of boundaries. In school and social life, it is easy to be isolated, which is very unfavorable to the development of study and work, and when it is serious, it will produce persecution paranoia.

A strong education

Reason: This kind of education mainly occurs in two extreme families, namely, poor families or rich families. The parents of poor families have low social status, so the family has become the main position to reflect their authority and sense of accomplishment. Therefore, they are tough in the process of re-educating their children, and they also pin their hopes for future life on them. They expect too much, so they demand too much. Parents of wealthy families, because of their successful life experiences, are very confident in all aspects of themselves, including the way of educating their children, and it is difficult for them to accept different opinions from the outside world or their children.

Results: Children who grew up under power education generally lacked the ability of independent thinking and could not undertake the core leadership function in affairs.

Exploration education

Cause: Exploratory education is a concept put forward by China family education professional organization and Run Wanqing, which refers to the education method generally adopted by parents of new middle-class families with higher education under the background of Internet. Because we have the experience of educating children under the traditional Confucian culture, but we have no experience of educating children under the multi-city culture, these highly educated parents unconsciously explore and practice themselves between the traditional education model and the modern western education model. Learn piecemeal knowledge of teaching children through internet tools.

Results: Exploratory education is a gratifying phenomenon in the development of fundamental education in China, that is, family education. However, inquiry education will lead to uncontrollable and uncertain educational results because of the mixture of various educational ideas, which is actually irresponsible for children's future.

Education for growth

Reason: As a middle-class family with higher education, some well-structured parents regard the long-term development of the family and educating their children as major events in their life planning, and regard growing up with their children as an important opportunity for self-improvement. They attend parents' training classes in professional family education institutions and conduct systematic study.

Results: Growing education has a healthy and harmonious parent-child relationship, parents and children respect each other, and children have strong independent ability, which often reflects the valuable qualities of self-confidence, sunshine and friendliness to others. Parents' living conditions are also very positive and full of hope for the future. At the scene where Mr. Jia, the director of China Family Education Committee, taught, the reporter of China Education News felt a warm and positive state from his parents.

Conclusion: Growth-oriented education is a suitable educational method for parents in China, and it is also a scientific and effective educational method without sequelae. Its essence is like the title of Jia's best-selling book-"Change your children first".