The names of three ancient idioms and stories that teach children well.

Qiu's family educated his children well. Fame hangs for thousands of years and repairs pillars. He raised Qiu's child when he lost his father at a young age. "In Meng Mu, I chose my neighbors, but I broke the loom without learning." This classic story contains a lot of hardships. Motherly demeanor, carefully cultivate a generation of virtuous.

Meng Mu knew: "If you dye it into the sky, it will be pale; if you dye it yellow, it will be yellow". Choose a good environment for your son and change places, not afraid of rushing. Meng Jia originally lived in the suburb of Zoucheng under Ma 'anshan. Graves are everywhere in the foothills, and funerals are also common. Meng Mu was heartbroken and moved to Miaohuying Village, ten miles away. Businessmen in this village clamored that Mencius was convinced by Confucianism, and the game must be compared. Six months later, Meng Mu moved again, because he was afraid that his son would get into the philistine habit. When I came to Zoucheng, Gong Xue, although I lived in a terrible place, the sound of reading made Meng Mu feel relaxed.

Meng Mu knew that "diligence is a barren drama, but diligence" taught children to build perseverance. Mencius was born with spirituality and playful nature of children. When I played truant and went home, my mother cut the brocade and taught me to "abandon school like a broken silk!" " "The scene of" Broken Weaving Inspector "is deeply remembered in the mind of teenagers. From then on, Mencius studied hard day and night and finally became a master.

Meng Mu knew that "it is difficult to learn without seeking a teacher". During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, a hundred schools of thought contended. Meng Mu personally sought inspiration for his 15-year-old son. At that time, Confucius' grandson Zisi set up a library in Qufu to teach six arts, which was well known. Encouraged by his mother, Mencius came to Qufu and began to study Confucianism. After five years of hard study, he made rapid progress in his studies and finally inherited the mantle of Confucius and became the "Asian sage" of Confucianism.

A great woman-Qiu; Raising children and understanding life. Like a candle, it burns all the energy and illuminates the son's journey at different stages.

2. Sima Guang's frugal godson

Teacher Su Shui, a model of educating children, teaches by example. A generation of masters, historians, cultivate one's morality and cultivate one's character, and future generations respect his promise. Taking care of children is not gold and silver, but doting on children and grandchildren is a disaster. From ancient times to the present, there are many lessons, and thrift is defeated by luxury.

Sima Guang, an outstanding historian in the Northern Song Dynasty, was born in Sushui, Xia County, Shaanxi Province, and was known as "Mr. Sushui" in the world. In the first year of Baoyuan, Song Renzong was a scholar. He used to be a lecturer at Tianzhangge, an imperial consultant, a servant of Shangshu, and later became a Duke of Wen. Mr. Wang lived a simple life and wrote a book Zi Jian, which is very famous in history. He has been teaching his children all his life. Self-cultivation is the most important, and frugality is the most important.

Life is kind, frugal and simple, sir. Sima Guang "used clothes to keep out the cold and food to fill his stomach all his life", but "he didn't dare to change customs with disadvantages". He often teaches his son: "Abundance of food leads to luxury, and luxury leads to luxury." . He also wrote an article about frugality in the form of a letter from home, warning his children not to be extravagant and to respect frugality.

Career, sir, be careful with enlightenment. In order to complete the historical masterpiece "Learning from the Same Experience", Sima Guang once asked Sima Kang to participate in this exercise. Watching his son grasp the pages with his nails, he patiently taught the rules of caring for books: before reading, clean up the books; Sit up straight when reading; When turning the page, your side finger is light. His love for books and rigorous style have benefited his son for life.

Teaching is based on reason, and a gentleman is convinced. Admonish the son: "frugality, virtue is also * * *; This is a waste and a great evil. " "People who speak with virtue come from thrift. A thrifty husband has few desires. If a gentleman has no desire, he will not do anything. If he can be straight, he will be straight. If the villain has nothing to ask for, he can use it with caution, which is far from being a heinous crime. " "A little more is a little more desire. If a gentleman wants more, he will be greedy for money, and he will waste his way and suffer quickly; If the villain wants more, he will ask for more and lose his family. " Sima Guang's epigram "from frugality to extravagance, from extravagance to frugality" is widely read by the world.

Sima Kang followed his father's instruction and learned something through thrift and self-discipline, learned something from the past and learned something from the present. He served as a school librarian and a part-time lecturer, and was praised by later generations for his honesty and frugality.

3.

Li Shimin teaches well.

Li Shimin (599-649), namely Emperor Taizong, was an outstanding strategist and politician in the Tang Dynasty, the second emperor of the Tang Dynasty and the second son of Tang Gaozu, Li Yuan. He was one of the most significant emperors in ancient China.

His extraordinary courage and complicated family life enabled him to deeply explore the laws of family education.

On the basis of predecessors, Li Shimin further explored the relationship among teachers, parents and students, the influence of family environment on children's education and its countermeasures, and the ways and means of education.

In order to educate his children well, he painstakingly wrote the first monograph of the emperor's godson, Twelve Models of the Emperor, which was regarded as a tutor's Bible by emperors of past dynasties. Many of his ideas are still worth learning by parents.

1. Support teachers' strict discipline.

How to choose teachers and how to cooperate with teachers is an important matter related to children's growth.

Li Shimin believes that the environment and teachers have a great influence on a person.

In order to educate his children, on the one hand, Li Shimin emphasized respecting teachers and improving teachers' status, and ordered him to write a note on the treatment of the third division by the prince, teaching his children to "be respectful and not slack off". On the other hand, he encouraged Shi Bao to remonstrate with the fault of the prince, and he himself strongly supported Shi Bao.

For example, in the fifth year of Zhenguan (63 1), Li Baiyao, the illegitimate son of Taizi Stone, saw that Li Chenggan had played too much and wrote Zandao Fu as an allegory. When he met the envoy, he said to Li Baiyao, "I saw the Fu written by the Qing Dynasty from the Crown Prince, and it is very important to tell the prince two things in ancient times. I chose Qing to assist Prince Bi, so I am proud of it, but I will do it well from beginning to end. " So Li Bai was rewarded with a good horse and 300 colorful objects.

Li Shimin's understanding, support and encouragement are the reasons why CTV can firmly perform its duties.

Li Shimin's practice still has positive reference significance for today's children's growth. Today's children, although not all princes and ministers, are mostly only children. They have been spoiled since childhood, and some children don't respect their teachers enough.

As parents, we should be like Li Shimin. On the one hand, we should be good at choosing high-level teachers so that children can receive better education. Take the law; Take the law; If you take the road of law, you will get it. Choosing a good teacher and a good educational environment can make children receive better education and get better growth. On the other hand, parents should support teachers' work, especially support teachers to be strict with their children and educate them strictly.

Only through strict management and education can we not indulge our children too much and form their inertia and other bad habits. This is the truth of China's old saying that "strictness is love, and drowning is harm".

2. See the big from the small, and you will be embarrassed when you encounter something; Take history as a mirror and correct your words and deeds.

As an emperor, Li Shimin is very busy, but he always spends time educating his children.

Especially after the abolition of Cheng Gan and the establishment of Prince Li Zhi, it is even more "there must be instructions when something happens."

Once, father and son were eating. Li Shimin asked Li Zhi: Do you know "rice"? Li Zhi said he didn't know. Li Shimin told him that it is very difficult for farmers to grow food, which requires a lot of labor and effort. As emperors, they can't abuse the people's power at will, especially pay attention to "don't seize the farming season", so as to "eat this meal often".

Seeing Li Zhi take a boat, Li Shimin taught him that the monarch is a boat and the people are water. "Water can carry a boat, but it can also overturn it." You are going to be the host soon, so you should know this and pay attention.

On another occasion, when Li Shimin saw Li Zhi resting under a crooked tree, he taught him that although the tree was crooked, it would straighten up as long as it was tied up with ropes and other things to correct it. "Although a gentleman has no way, admonition is sacred ... you can learn from yourself." This shows that Li Shimin is good at moral education in a simple way, so that his children can gradually cultivate the qualities necessary to become a wise monarch in their daily lives.

In addition to teaching everything, Li Shimin also paid attention to combining historical facts to educate Li Zhi. He even asked Wei Zhi to record the story of the success or failure of the emperor's children, entitled "Records of the Good and Evil of Ancient Governors", and gave it to scholars of all walks of life.

It should be affirmed that it is a very good way of education to teach when something happens, to see the big from the small and to educate with historical facts.

A person's personality, habits, especially the cultivation of moral literacy and the accumulation of knowledge are not formed in a short time, let alone overnight. This requires parents to pay attention to guiding their children in daily life, educate them from trivial matters, make them realize the advantages and disadvantages, form good habits and cultivate noble thoughts and sentiments.

History is the root of all events in reality. Today is a continuation of yesterday. Taking history as a mirror can help children learn from the successful experience of their predecessors and accept the lessons of failure, so as to learn from the past and avoid repeating the same mistakes. Naturally, history does not have to be long. What happened yesterday has become history.

3. Pay attention to practice and cultivate true ability.

Theory and knowledge are important components of a person's abilities and qualities, but these are only potential abilities and qualities. It takes a practical process to turn these into abilities. At the same time, social practice and life experience itself is a big book, which needs people to learn and understand.

Li Shimin's family education thought is very far-sighted.

Since the 1990s, a project of "Taking Daughters to Work" has been popular in the United States, and all girls aged 9- 15 can sign up. The purpose of designing this activity is to let girls feel the taste of work in advance. Taking girls to work has made girls realize the unfairness of the real society in advance, overcome many psychological obstacles and achieved good results. This activity has achieved great success in many European countries, with 300 schools in Britain alone. US President Bill Clinton also said that his daughter Chelsea also needs to know how her father works. In fact, not only girls but also boys need exercise. The content of exercise is not only work practice, but also many other contents, such as the new "hardship education" and "learning agriculture from the army" In Japan, even many parents encourage their children to take risks, with the purpose of letting them experience more setbacks and get in touch with more practice, so as to cultivate and exercise their tenacious will and strong viability.

Paying attention to practical training is an important part of family education, and it is also the most important means for children to directly understand life, integrate into society, exercise their will and cultivate their self-confidence, which is very important for a person's growth.

Paying attention to practice and exercise is the innovation of Li Shimin's family education thought, which we must learn from today.

4. Write a book to teach children, thinking it is the standard.

In his later years, Li Shimin paid more attention to Li Zhi's education, and personally wrote "Emperor Fan" 12, which was sent to Li Zhi, focusing on the norms of being an emperor and how to maintain long-term stability.

Emperor Fan is China's first monograph.

In the "Emperor Fan", Li Shimin systematically expounded his systematic thought, the main points of which are as follows:

First, pay attention to visiting sages and do a good job in selecting officials. "Emperor Fan Qiu Xian" emphasizes that a country can't help the rectification without loyal officials, just as crossing the sea must rely on the power of paddles, and birds must rely on wings to fly high. Therefore, a smart gentleman must seek help from other smart people and collect smart people. Li Shimin pointed out that talent selection can only be based on talent, so that snobbish eyes can penetrate. Li Shimin also stressed that for Mingjun, the country's greatest wealth is not jewelry, but talent. With talents, how should we use them? In the chapter of inspecting officials, two principles of employing people are put forward. First, we should give full play to their talents and use their strengths. In his view, smart people should employ people like craftsmen. "A wise man takes his plan, a fool takes his strength, a brave man takes his power, a fearful man takes his prudence, and he is unwise and courageous." Use both. Therefore, a good craftsman does not abandon wood, and a wise man does not abandon scholars. "Gold is not full of red, and no one is perfect, so don't just look at his shortcomings, but use his advantages:" Don't forget one evil and one good, and don't cover up his advantages with small flaws. "Second, choose the right person and give full play to the advantages of talents.

Second, we should teach with an open mind and get rid of greedy words. In coachable, Li Shimin thinks that the emperor's coachable is an important guarantee for the emperor to make correct decisions. He believes that the emperor lives in the palace, high above, isolated from the outside world, and the information is ineffective. I don't know if there are mistakes, and I don't know how to correct them if there are shortcomings. Li Shimin also emphasized the harm of greedy words. He said that due to the provocation and frame-up of greedy people, the emperor and his son turned against each other, and upright people were tortured. Countless facts have proved that "one husband should be greedy, one husband should be inflammatory, and one husband should be a national thief!" Li Shimin further pointed out that as we all know, governing the country and keeping the country safe is defeated by greed. Why did the master refuse to give advice and believe in greed? "Good words don't sound good. If they don't sound good, just follow them." People always like to listen to nice words, and yes-men are best at reading and listening to people. Therefore, Li Shimin earnestly taught the prince to treat people who are easy to be trained as diseases: good medicine tastes bitter and good advice is helpful to the disease, while hard advice is helpful to the behavior.

Third, avoid surplus and respect frugality, and reward and punish farming. In addition, in the "Emperor Fan", Li Shimin also expounded that the rulers should combine rewards and punishments to manage the people and emphasize the basic position of agriculture; Belligerence and forgetting to fight will lead to losses, the idea that military equipment must be combined with culture and education, and so on. In the eyes of modern people, many ideas have merits.

The enlightenment of Emperor Fan is firstly the guiding ideology of Li Shimin to strengthen education in a targeted way.

This book is written directly to Li Zhi, heir to the throne. So the book summed up his own experience and only talked about how to be a good emperor. This kind of targeted education for children is also of great significance to us today.

In fact, a child's talent, what kind of work is suitable for the future, parents' expectations of their children and so on. It should be clear to strengthen pertinence. You know, people who go with the flow can never lead the trend, and generals who disperse their troops and energy can't win big battles.

After determining the training goal and direction, parents should have a detailed training plan like Li Shimin and concentrate on putting it into practice.

Secondly, although Emperor Fan taught Li Zhi how to be a good emperor and how to strengthen his rule, some good contents were generally applicable to the education of his children.

For example, coachable's idea of getting rid of greed is like this. Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action. Whether a person is good at accepting others' suggestions and listening to others' opinions plays an important role in his life's success.

Li Ka-shing, a wealthy businessman in Hong Kong, summed up the reasons for his high success rate in decision-making, and said an intriguing sentence: "I have a high success rate in decision-making because I often consult the following opinions, although I have a clear view on this matter. If 90% of people agree, then the probability of my decision-making mistakes is about zero. " This shows the importance of being good at listening to others and brainstorming.

For another example, Huang Fan Farming emphasizes that food is the most important thing for the people and agriculture is the foundation of politics, condemns the phenomenon of abandoning agriculture for profit, and advocates banning glitz and persuading people to return to their roots, which is contrary to the truth.

This idea is also an important part of modern family education, that is, how to cultivate children's ability to choose and judge. In this complex world, one has to face many choices and make many decisions every day. But people's energy is limited, so they must face the choice.

What's important? Facts have proved that what matters is those who have long-term considerations, important interests and even lifelong development. Just as Li Shimin made Li Zhi pay attention to the basic role of agriculture, many successful family education needs to train children to make choices based on long-term interests.