Why is it that the poorer and more remote and backward areas have more rules of etiquette?

The rules in the countryside are not more and more, on the contrary, the rules in the countryside are less and less now. Since I was a child, my parents have often explained the rules of the countryside to my siblings. Of course different regions, each place has different rules. Today I'll tell you about some of the rules in the countryside of our hometown.

In our hometown, no matter in our own home or in other people's homes to eat wine. Only the elders are allowed to sit on the upper seats, while the juniors can only sit on the horizontal seats, that is to say, the elders sit on the top of the rows, while the juniors can only sit on the left and right sides of the rows. When you are eating, you must let your elders pick the food first, and only when your elders move their chopsticks can your seniors pick the food to eat. Otherwise, people will say you don't know the rules! But now the times have changed, now the young people have no so-called rules, how you want to sit how to sit, want to eat what you pick what. No one cares and no one will say anything. I don't understand whether the rules of the past were not civilized enough? Or is it that civilization is not civilized enough now? Anyway, too many rules have been thrown away in the countryside now.

When we were young, on the second day of the first month, we had to go and pay our respects to our grandmothers and grandfathers. No matter how high the mountains were, how far the road was and how slippery it was, we had to carry gifts for our grandparents on our backs to pay our respects. In those days, we didn't know what a red envelope was, but when we left, Grandma would give us siblings a dollar each! Nowadays, very few rural children pay New Year's greetings to their grandparents alone. They have forgotten that this used to be the rule in the countryside.

It's not that there are more and more rules in the countryside, but that too many of them have been gradually forgotten. In fact, the old ancestors left a lot of rules is the real civilization. It's a pity that in the end, it was forgotten by this highly civilized era!