What are the requirements and standards for the relationship between men and women in rural areas of China?

At present, China's costume drama is quite popular. The audience not only likes its imaginative story, but also revels in the romantic love story between men and women in ancient times. However, the real history will surprise you. Under the dominant cultural background of ancient rural society, the feelings between men and women are dull. Not only are they not as loving as you think, but even simple heads-up will be considered obscene or humble.

Why is there such a big contrast? Chapter 7 of Native China, the differences between men and women, gives us the answer. From the perspective of sociology, let us have a deeper understanding of that distant era and the feelings between men and women. Next, I will focus on introducing the Asian cultural model mentioned in the article and expand my interpretation.

What is the cultural model of Yabao Road? The Apollo cultural model is one of the two cultural models mentioned in The Fall of the Western Land. The culture of this model thinks that the arrangement of the universe has a perfect order, which human beings can't create. People just accept it, settle in its position and maintain it.

Faust's cultural model is contrary to Apollo's cultural model, which holds that conflict is the foundation of existence and life is the overcoming of obstacles. Without obstacles, life will lose its meaning.

Rural society is a fixed, familiar and stable society. People in rural areas abide by the rules formulated by their predecessors and form an almost isolated society. Therefore, the culture of our local society is a sub-parent culture.

In rural society, we believe that both men and women should complete their respective economic and reproductive undertakings, and there is no need to seek common ground between men and women, nor to pursue spiritual harmony. Therefore, in our culture, it is mentioned that "men and women are not close" and "men and women are different" in order to maintain a universal order in our rural society. If order is broken, society will also change, which of course we don't need to see.

The first book mentioned the problem of emotional orientation. According to the Asian Polo cultural model, the local society has stipulated the direction of personal emotional development. If you want to maintain a fixed social relationship, you should avoid emotional excitement. Emotional indifference is a manifestation of the stability of social relations.

Through this model, we can imagine that in ancient society, ordinary men and women would not make vows like we do now, or cuddle at every turn, as seen in TV dramas, or you would cultivate our seeds. As mentioned in Native China, couples in rural society don't even say a word every day, and they maintain each other's indifference in a familiar way.

At the same time, the article expresses concern about same-sex feelings. It holds that the different boundaries between men and women make China's traditional emotional orientation biased towards the same-sex development, and it also comes up with organizations with the nature of male affiliations and sister organizations of women in South China. In addition, for the narcissistic tone in women's literature, from the expression in the article, Fei Lao uses "pervert" and "self" to express this same-sex relationship, which is somewhat contradictory.