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INFJ Relationship, Love and Compatibility

Dr. Ajay Drenthe

INFJs is warm and charming. Because they are extroverted, they can easily cater to others. Although for some extroverts, establishing fast friendship and extensive contacts may be their goal, for INFJs, this is not the point at all. Instead, INFJs seeks high-quality and in-depth relationships. Among their friends and romantic partners, they seek wisdom (intelligence and emotion), honesty, openness and truth. Their ideal partner will take personal growth and development seriously-moral, spiritual, emotional and psychological.

Although they are introverted, few INFJ are more valuable than high-quality conversation. They like the opportunity to share their wisdom, theories and opinions. Unfortunately, they often find that most people (especially type S) can't fully understand or appreciate their theories and viewpoints. This may make INFJs people feel that there is no ready-made export of their wisdom, and no one really understands their basic value or value. Therefore, if it happens to a like-minded person with them, a person who cherishes and enthusiastically participates in the inner life of INFJs, it will be a godsend. David Cather's book "Please Understand Me" appropriately expresses what INFJs seeks in their relationship.

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Misunderstanding in INFJ relationship

INFJs usually reports feeling misunderstood. Considering that their identity is the rarest of all personality types, this is not surprising. People have many misunderstandings about INFJs, which may hinder the success of their dating and relationship.

A common assumption of men is that all women have similar views on romance. This is especially inappropriate for female INFJs. "Canned romance", such as receiving the same bouquet of flowers every Valentine's Day, easily affects Js, which can quickly distinguish between "true" and "fake". For INFJ, romance is cultivated every day through open communication and real actions. What you do on special occasions is just icing on the cake. However, there is no point in taking away the cake and icing it.

Another common misconception is that INFJ is controlling or closing the mind. This usually stems from INFJs's tendency to judge extraversion (Fe). But as I have described, IJs is usually better understood as a perceptor, because their dominant function (such as Ni) is a perceptual function. In fact, INFJs, especially INF js, which has gone further in type development, has amazing adaptability and openness. Although it is rare to wear open clothes on the sleeves as ENPFS is used to, INFJs is surprisingly open to unique or less traditional relationship practices.

Another misunderstanding about INFJs is that they "need help" emotionally, which may be due to their extroversion and easy to express their feelings through Fe. INFJs is different from cultural norms in this respect, because Fi is presented in a restrained way among women. However, just because INFJs can express their feelings faster, we can't think that they are more needed than FP type. In fact, since most men (TP men) use Fe instead of Fi, they may realize the fact that they don't have to guess their partner's feelings when pairing with INFJ.

Another misunderstanding is that InJS's accusation of "reading something that doesn't exist" or "making a mountain out of a molehill" may make InJS feel uneasy, because reading things through Ni is what they were born to do. In many cases, this accusation is not from any misconduct of INFJ, but from their partner's assumption or self-sensitivity. For example, by saying, "Are you okay?" Or "You don't look like yourself today", INFJs tries to collect more information to get to know their partners better. But their partners may think these attempts are subjective or aggressive and respond defensively. If this kind of communication happens frequently and is not corrected, INFJ may start to introvert to his feelings and doubt his intuition, which will undoubtedly lead to personal and relationship disasters.

The Inferior Function in INFJ Love and Relationship

Without a full understanding of each partner's "weaknesses", no relationship can be best handled. Inferiority may be problematic because it is attractive and underdeveloped. Just like a child driving hard, because driving looks interesting. Therefore, INFJ and its partners must try their best to understand the nature and challenges of the inferior function of INFJ-extroversion perception (Se). In my electronic book, I have listed the nature of their Se, 16 personality type, and our focus here will involve all aspects of their Se, especially those related to their role in interpersonal relationships.

Although there may be problems in many aspects of INFJ relationship, money is the most prominent one. I like being placed in a beautiful environment. They like food, furniture, clothes and accommodation. Their attention to beauty and attraction to worldly things are somewhat similar to ESFPs, although their tastes will eventually be different. But unlike ESFP, INFJs is difficult to adapt to the modern working environment and make big money. In addition, the matching speed between INFJs and S-type is slow, and it is often natural for S-type to make money. Therefore, they will feel stuck. They may yearn for and even envy haunters's lifestyle, but they are unwilling to sell their souls to get it. This love-hate relationship with money and other desires is very important to INFJs and their partners.

Selenium can also affect INFJs's view of himself and his body. They are as easy to make harsh judgments about their appearance as other Se people. They may even abuse their bodies, such as through strict diet or exercise, hoping to achieve their desired selenium beauty level.

Sex is another area where their inferior selenium plays a role. INFJs can treat sex in a love-hate way. Sometimes, they feel like addicts, while at other times, they feel like quitters. It is not difficult to imagine that INFJs vows celibacy, hoping to avoid this extreme Se. In addition, the separation of INFJs from their bodies may complicate the logistics of sex. INFJs people often feel that they have little consciousness or control over their bodies, including the degree of sexual arousal and sexual physical preparation. This unpredictability may frustrate INFJs and its partners, especially if this issue is not discussed publicly or understood more clearly. This is not to say that INFJs can't enjoy a satisfying sex life, but it is important for partners to understand that this is another area where INFJs (and INTJs) may be different from other types.

Compatibility of INFJ with various personality types

We have discussed many qualities that Js seeks in romantic partners, such as intelligence, openness, honesty and truthfulness. They may also be attracted to people who are rich, physically attractive or skilled (for example, in terms of a certain Se performance), although these standards have little to do with long-term compatibility. What INFJs craves most is intimate and metaphysical blood relationship. They want to get together with their partners in the world of language and thought.

Once immersed in the conversation they are interested in, INFJs can make a long speech, because their Ni is getting deeper and deeper into this issue. However, unlike the Ne type, they don't like to jump from one topic to another. However, this does not necessarily exclude that INFJs and Ne types (i.e. ENTP, ENPP, INFP, neonatal autoimmune thrombocytopenic purpura) are friends, lovers or both. The main function of Ne is listening-receiving N messages from the outside world. This can make NPs a good opponent of INFJs. As a J-type, InFJS prefers to talk rather than listen. NPs is also good at asking questions, which helps to quickly start the intuitive process of INFJs.

As I have discussed elsewhere, one area where INFJs may conflict with NPs is lifestyle. Because nuclear power plants use silicon, they tend to be financially conservative (especially INPs), and INFJs, who is not so fascinated by "the good things in life", may reject some thrifty second-hand shopping methods of NPs. They may also be more eager for the seriousness of the outside world than NPs, especially in the moments or discussions that INFJ thinks are serious; Excessive stupidity will make INFJs unhappy.

Generally speaking, INFJs does not match the sensing type. As the dominant intuition, INFJs lives in an abstract world mediated by concepts and language. Because S-type, especially SP-type (environmentally sound technology products, environmentally sound technology products, environmentally sound technology products, environmentally sound technology products) prefer to be linked through specific actions or activities, it may be difficult for INFJs to find an N denominator with the same meaning. Although IstJS and ISTJs may be more abstract in concept, it may be difficult for IntJS to respect some traditions or conventions.

Pairing with other NJ types may be a success or failure for INFJs. Putting any two J-shapes together looks like facing the positive poles of two magnets. When opposing J forces collide, the relationship will become tense and intense. This may be one reason why J-J pairing is relatively uncommon. In addition, if INFJs tries to interact with interjections or ENTJ, its Fe-Ti and Fi-Te functions may further increase the possibility of inconsistency and misunderstanding.

In rare cases, one INFJ occurs on another INFJ and is paired with it. There must be a reason for attraction and intimacy. However, because INFJs is the least practical of all types, and sometimes even ignores the S problem, once children, money or other logistical factors appear, this pairing may be difficult.

INFJs may also find that he shares all the personality functions of INFJ with ENFJ. However, a potential disadvantage is that ENJS tends to project their own dominant judgment preferences on INFJs, expecting them to be more "effective" or more active than they naturally like. This may lead them to put more pressure on themselves, which will definitely bring about relationship problems. However, if the situation is favorable and both sides have enough self-awareness, there is no reason why the relationship between INFJ and ENFJ cannot succeed.