What is the core of etiquette

Originally, Lin Fang asked about the core of etiquette, and Zi said, "Great question! Ritual, with its extravagance, would rather be frugal; mourning, with its ease, would rather be chi."

Lin Fang asked Confucius what the essence of rites was.

Lin Fang saw that people had all kinds of rituals and saluted each other and wanted to know the nature of rites. Confucius exclaimed, what a meaningful question.

Rather than being extravagant, normal etiquette should just be simple.

Ritual consists of two parts, the inner spirit of the rite and the form of the rite, which are complementary and inseparable.

For example, the ritual of ancestor worship, both the concept of filial piety, but also offerings, libations, bowing and other rituals.

Sometimes, some people worship their ancestors purely for the sake of going through the motions, without thinking about their ancestors, but the form of worship should not be abolished, as long as this form is retained,

for the inheritance and even revitalization of the culture of worship has an extraordinary significance. If even the ceremony is gone, the ritual of sacrifice is completely lost.

The ancient rituals are still preserved in modern times, but they have changed a lot. For example, the Spring Festival and the Mid-Autumn Festival, these can be regarded as remnants of ancient rituals.

These festivals and celebrations, even in their pure form, should be preserved, which may mean more to a people and a nation than the average person can imagine.

In modern interpretation, ritual is system, rule and order. As the saying goes, there are no rules. There are times when the necessary rituals still have to be in place.

For example, if you invite people to dinner, there is no need to talk about etiquette all the time, and as a result, we are not comfortable eating dinner.

For example, who is the leader, who ate first, the leader does not move chopsticks, we do not move chopsticks, the leader does not drink, we do not drink, this is too much ceremony, dinner is bound to eat bad.

How about a simple expression of etiquette, and then we eat happily on the line.

This paragraph, in fact, is still an extension of the previous paragraph, that is, we have to pay attention to the inner feelings of the heart, rather than the surface of the etiquette, the surface of the program, which is the essence of etiquette.

This paragraph is actually an extension of the previous one.