I'm from Xuzhou, Jiangsu, and I want to ask why we don't borrow here, marry here, die here or live here.

Borrowing or not borrowing marriage means: you can borrow other people's things when you marry a daughter-in-law, or even borrow a house, but if you marry a daughter, it is absolutely impossible. 1, the son is his own, the daughter is someone else's, and the married daughter spilled water.

2. Since ancient times, weddings have been organized by men, and women have the most dowry, so there is no reason to borrow a house to send a wedding!

3. Superstition, women should stay away from ancestral temples, so women are not good at the ancestral temples of family geomantic omen, not only do they not borrow them, but even these places can't pass. Of course, there is a preference for boys. It is a long-standing custom in Xuzhou to substitute death for life. According to this custom, if someone dies while lending (renting) his house to others, there is nothing acceptable. If someone wants to borrow a house to have a baby, that's no good.

What is the "subtext" behind this concept?

It is said that every family has "wealth" and "official", which are collectively called "room gas". When a person dies, the room gas can't be taken away, and the good luck brought by the deceased can still be left, which has not been exhausted, thus increasing the original "room gas". So you can "borrow death".

There is another practical reason. Whether people who borrow money or rent houses will die in it, such as sudden illness and suicide, is unpredictable. Since we are lending out and renting out, we should find a reason to "comfort" ourselves. It's okay to borrow death.

But "borrowing" is different. This custom holds that children will not only be illuminated by their owners, but also take away "room gas". The bigger the children become in the future, the more money they earn, which means the more "room gas" they took away at the beginning. In this way, the owner's family will inevitably be more unlucky and poorer. There is also a saying that it will bring "blood disaster" to the homeowner, because the mother will bleed when giving birth to a child. Therefore, the folk custom is that children can only be born in their own homes. In fact, giving birth to a child is a happy event and jubilant. Why not borrow it? A dead house is hard to rent and will be considered "unlucky".

The concept of "borrowing death instead of borrowing life" has no practical significance now. On the due date, pregnant women go to the hospital, and seriously ill patients are also rescued in the hospital. Borrowing life and borrowing death are all in hospitals, and hospitals don't talk about the custom of "borrowing death and not borrowing life". I'm from Xuzhou, Jiangsu, and I want to ask why we don't borrow here, marry here, die here or live here. Let's just say that people in this place are too backward in thinking. Thought is too backward, because the cultural level is too low. The economy is limited when the education level is low.