My colleague didn't invite me. They moved illegally to hold a banquet and didn't inform the unit leader. Should I go or not?

Don't let weddings and funerals get married

For thousands of years, weddings and funerals have become the most important ancient custom in China. No matter who gets married, relatives, friends and neighbors should get together to accompany gifts, or send blessings, or mourn. However, in a recent interview in the countryside, the reporter found that this custom has changed in some places. The more famous and famous things, the higher the price, and the worse the etiquette. Individual cadres and real power departments actually use this as a way to make money and become a "new variety" of corruption, which not only seriously affects the social atmosphere, but also tarnishes the image of the party among the masses.

"Gift money" is overwhelming.

Yongfa township Advanced Village in Gongzhuling City, Jilin Province is a typical "empty shell village". All kinds of debts in the village are more than 10 thousand yuan. Every year, we should make alms everywhere to ensure the payment of all kinds of overall funds and daily expenses. The cadres and the masses are worried. However, what makes these village cadres feel more stressed is that all kinds of weddings, funerals and weddings are overwhelming all year round. The village branch secretary Qiao Wancai bitter face said:

"I am not afraid of jokes. I am busy for a year now and my salary is not enough. "

In the northeast countryside, in the past, villagers in Shiliba Village were willing to join in the fun. Normal human relations make neighborhood relations more harmonious, and gifts are also common. General weddings and funerals are 10 yuan and 8 yuan. But not these years, the more gifts, the more prominent rural cadres, 10 yuan and 8 yuan have long been out of control. Take at least 50 yuan at a time, and give one or two hundred yuan to those who have a better relationship. Qiao Wancai told reporters that there are dozens of things that need to be accompanied by relatives and friends in a year, and none of them can be done. Wages became gifts, and in some years there were deficits.

The problems encountered by the village party secretary are not isolated, and many rural grassroots cadres have similar feelings. They generally reflect that all kinds of weddings and funerals have become a heavy economic and spiritual burden in rural areas, and to some extent, people have reached the point of talking about weddings and funerals. Cui Guoqing, the head of Advanced Village, said, Now I am most afraid of who will post to handle affairs. As long as I go, I have to pay 180 yuan. Every year when festivals and college entrance examinations are relatively concentrated, people start to hide because they can't afford them.

In Heilinzi Town, Gongzhuling City, a cadre said sadly that the money they spend on gifts every year is about 6.5438 million yuan, and at most it is almost 20,000 yuan a year. Many people say that we advocate spiritual civilization. How can we not stop this unhealthy trend?

There are many famous places for weddings and funerals.

Referring to the ritual style in rural areas, a financial system cadre said angrily: "The more tricks you engage in, the more dazzling you are."

According to insiders, the popular work in rural areas has expanded from less than 10 in the past to dozens of kinds now, which can be mainly divided into the following categories: first, traditional weddings, funerals and other happy events; Second, birthday, baby's birth, children's full moon, wedding anniversary and other quasi-red, white and happy events; Three, children join the army, personal promotion, moving and other hitchhiking projects; Fourth, activities such as unit anniversary celebration, establishment of new departments and mobilization of cadres are carried out under various pretexts; Fifth, go abroad for business trip, farewell, study, train and graduate.

Some grassroots cadres and the masses reflect that there are many reasons for the current reciprocity. For example, people have increased their contact with each other and compared with each other. However, some leading cadres have also played a role in fueling the flames. They think that the amount of gifts between ordinary people is relatively small and the scale is limited. But leading cadres are different. First of all, no one dares not go. Secondly, if they go, they will certainly spend a lot of money. A township cadre told reporters that some people now enjoy doing this kind of thing. Whether they know it or not, they all send invitations or make phone calls, and even arrange special personnel to handle it, one by one, making this folk custom very vulgar.

In some places, the intervention of individual real power departments has made weddings and funerals more tasteless. A powerful department in a major grain-producing county took the opportunity of "supporting agriculture through science and technology" to set up a service department for supporting agriculture, nominally providing scientific and technological services for farmers, but actually operating agricultural materials stores. Before the opening, the department began to invite all units in the county, as well as township party committees and governments, to call and warmly invite everyone to join. On the opening day, dozens of tables were set for the banquet alone, and everyone pushed a cup for a change. As the saying goes, there is no good banquet without good wine, and the guests know it well. They left "red envelopes" to express their congratulations. Dozens of township bureaus range from several hundred yuan to several thousand yuan. As soon as the service department opened, it made a lot of profits. Who doesn't want to do more?

During interviews in rural areas, some cadres privately told reporters that in the face of the growing trend of big-scale weddings, funerals and weddings, some units or departments secretly included gifts as annual normal expenses in projects that can be reimbursed with public funds, especially some real power departments. In order to get convenience at work or in other aspects, some unit leaders even acquiesced in giving gifts with public funds. In the countryside, some cadres began to play tricks on farmers. Because of insufficient wages, they tried their best to ask the farmers for money. A village party secretary bluntly told reporters:

"It is said that wool is on sheep. I think wool comes from farmers. Whoever has no money will go up and rob it. The same is true of red envelopes. Farmers are the most honest sheep. "

It's time to deal with it

In the face of the increasingly fierce etiquette in rural areas, local party committees and governments have not stood idly by. The discipline inspection and supervision departments have discovered this problem, frequently attacked and inspected, issued documents on holidays, resolutely stopped all kinds of violations, and achieved remarkable results. For example, dehui city once carried out a major inspection in the whole city, exposing cadres who made a big fuss about weddings, funerals and weddings, and handled several bad cases, which were welcomed by the masses.

However, the reporter found in the interview that although the ritual wind has converged, it has not stopped fundamentally. In some places, new methods are adopted for weddings, funerals, birthdays, exams and childbirth. According to the masses, some leading cadres simply take a circuitous approach, arrange activities in rural areas, and issue invitations as usual. Not only should there be no less than one person, but the operating expenses have been passed on to the grass-roots units, and money has been saved.

Why are some people so interested in doing things politely? The cadres and the masses contacted by the reporter believe that there are many reasons. First, the vulgarization and monetization of human feelings have affected. Nowadays, it seems that it is not a matter to attend weddings and funerals, which turns normal human relations into naked money relations; Second, the tendency to compare is serious. Some people think that others do things with courtesy, and if they don't do it themselves, they can't recover their investment, gradually forming a comparison and the price is getting higher and higher; Third, comrades who have changed their taste or the relationship between superiors and subordinates, especially leading cadres, feel that this kind of acceptance is not a bribe, so they accept it calmly.

Many grassroots cadres said with emotion: "Now some people set up a venue for everything, so that everyone can follow the ceremony. Old people have to celebrate their birthdays twice a year, because it has become a way to collect money. Whoever doesn't do it is a fool. Many people don't want to do it at first, but they have to bite the bullet and do it. The problem lies with leading cadres and power departments because they have the right. If you don't go to others, you will say that you are unreasonable, arrogant and unable to carry out your work. "

The words of a cadre of the Commission for Discipline Inspection are even more thought-provoking. He said that the prevalence of courtesy at the grass-roots level is not only the corruption of social atmosphere, but also the manifestation of the unhealthy party style. For some leading cadres, reciprocity has become a hidden corruption in a sense, and it is time for governance.