What is the definition of love?

Love is a strong attachment, closeness and yearning between people, and it is also an emotion of selfless dedication. In China culture, love is to seize each other's heart, which has the attributes of intimacy, lust and commitment. We have confidence in the durability of this relationship and can also share our private life with each other. Love is an inseparable part of human nature. In a narrow sense, it refers to love between lovers, and in a broad sense, it also includes love between friends and love between relatives. On the emotional basis of love, love develops different characteristics in different cultures.

Love has different definitions in different times. The modern definition is that two people, based on certain material conditions and the same ideal of life, form the most sincere admiration for each other in their own hearts, and the strongest, most stable and single-minded feelings of longing for each other to become their lifelong partners. But in ancient matriarchal society and ancient paternal society, love has another experience, not simple monogamy. Love is the vision of life, affection is the imagination of youth, and the significance of love lies in: let wisdom and diligence brew the fragrance of life, interpret the movement of life with expectation and persistence, and write the belief of life with sincerity and understanding.

Love is an emotional dependence, and the cultural process of love is a game, the result of which is affection. Love and kinship are a physical image of things and souls, defined as love, which usually refers to the special feelings expressed by people in the love stage. Love is also the strongest form of interpersonal attraction, which refers to the advanced feelings of individuals with a certain degree of psychological maturity to the opposite sex. Love is a strong, pure and single-minded feeling between men and women, which is based on a certain social foundation and the same ideal of life. They are eager to develop close relationships and become their lifelong partners. Sex, ideal and responsibility are the three basic elements of love. Women usually fall in love with healthy, peaceful, interesting, kind and generous men. When men choose short-term partners, they often ignore women's wisdom, education, loyalty, sense of humor and age; But men value basic virtues when choosing long-term partners. The concept of love will also change in different stages of life, especially in different stages of marriage. Men tend to fall in love with women's young beauty, while women tend to fall in love with men's wealth status. But the love that everyone needs to find is different, and the experience of adolescence is the most important influence on a person's choice of lover. The essence of love is a chemical reaction, which is the feeling that hormones and hormones emit special smells recognized by the brain and know their preferences. Some feelings are innate, such as parents' feelings for children, and some feelings are acquired, such as friendship, brotherhood, love, love for national conditions and so on. Love in a broad sense: all emotions related to love are called love. The affection between father and son, relatives and friends, teachers and students, etc. Love in a narrow sense: usually refers to love between men and women. Love is a kind of mutual snuggling, giving rather than one-way taking. Love (narrow sense): The feeling of love between men and women is supreme, pure and beautiful aesthetic feeling and emotional experience. Love (in a broad sense): the feelings of mutual admiration between people, including platonic more sincere and pure feelings, which transcend gender, region and time and space. Love (legal definition): It is a strong, pure and single-minded feeling that men and women form mutual admiration in their respective hearts based on the same ideal of life and desire each other to become their lifelong partners. Love (definition of good or bad): Good love is free and easy for both parties with freedom as the highest gift, and this freedom will never be abused.

The true meaning of love is beauty, so it has the universality of beauty: 1 Attribute: attractive and attractive to people. 2. Derivative behavior: giving, appreciating, cherishing, moving, understanding, protecting and possessing, so that it can exist better. 3. By-products: joy when you get it, anxiety at ordinary times, sadness after you lose it, and helplessness when you can't get it. 2. The physiological basis of this aesthetic feeling is more often gender differences and reproductive instinct. Reasoning: 1. If you want the other person to love you more, then you should constantly increase and continue your various aesthetic feelings, especially "beauty of mind". Cleanliness and beauty are also very important. 2. You can do something with the other person with aesthetic atmosphere, which can enhance your feelings, which is also the reason why "romance" is pleasing. It is also a necessary skill. 3. After marriage, you can increase your aesthetic feeling and other hobbies for your family and minimize the possibility of extramarital love.

Love is often expressed by kissing, hugging, caressing and sexual behavior between men and women. The most important expression of love is what a person does to his lover. Confucius said: if you love him, can you not work hard (if you love him/her, can you not work hard for him/her? )? Love will bring psychological changes to both parties in love. The first is idealization. Two people in love will ignore each other's shortcomings and exaggerate each other's advantages. Idealization can convince both parties that they have made the right choice. The second is to endure pain. Even if rejected by the person you like, this person will put up with the pain to justify the behavior without asking for anything in return. The third is fantasy. People in love will have some fantasies about the future, even unrealistic fantasies. In addition, love can also make a person highly sensitive, especially the emotional response to each other's behavior. This brings not only insecurity, but also satisfaction. The quality of love can be judged by the above characteristics. Love makes a person emotionally and physically dependent on another person. Losing a lover is often accompanied by chest tightness, loss of appetite, insomnia, anger, depression, nostalgia, emptiness, loneliness, despair, depression, fatigue, nausea, crying and loss of confidence. The best way to deal with lovelorn is to divert attention and force yourself to focus on what you are good at, so as to increase dopamine concentration in the brain and increase confidence and hope. In addition, exercise and sunshine are also good ways to treat lovelorn. At the same time, it is also important to help the lovelorn to confirm the rewards and costs that love can bring.

The key points of producing and maintaining love are: cherish the process of producing love: 1. The gradual transition from friendship, affection and other feelings to love. 2. Love at first sight is because if you cherish a person, you can forgive him/her no matter how much he/she doesn't understand you, doesn't trust you or does something wrong. When a person doesn't understand, trust or respect you, it doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't love you. But when you never cherish each other, then you never love each other. At the same time, maintaining love also requires close contact between the two sides. Long-distance love is unrealistic and difficult to maintain. Although modern communication technology has greatly expanded the way to keep in touch with the rest of the world. Technologies include mobile phones, e-mail, instant messaging software and video conferencing, so some people think that long distance has little effect on the feelings of both parties. But long-distance love can never have intimate contact, and it is difficult to observe each other's movements. People with insufficient concentration are easily attracted by third parties, betray their partners and lead to breakup. There are also couples who divorce because of long-term separation, which leads to one or both of them cheating. Even if there is no third party, couples may be weakened by gathering less and leaving more. Different living environments between the two parties may also increase differences and conflicts in getting along, leading to breakup or divorce. Case: 1. When a loving couple doesn't understand each other in some things, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. After all, it is difficult to know a person. When a husband doesn't trust his wife in something, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love her. After all, if the other person is doing a stupid thing and you still trust her, it is equivalent to pushing the person in the opposite direction into a fire pit, and the final result is very tragic. 3. When a couple have a little conflict and start quarreling, they naturally don't respect each other so much; But this doesn't mean that they don't love each other, because many quarrels are just temporary anger, or because they love each other too much, they are jealous and start quarreling. When you no longer cherish each other, ask yourself if you love each other, and you will find that you have no feeling of love. After all, love is worrying. If you don't cherish each other, how can you miss each other? Reasoning: 1. To make the other person fall in love with you, you need to make him/her feel that he/she wants to cherish you besides having some aesthetic feeling; First of all, you should "touch" the other person, then attract the other person's "attention", and finally make the other person feel that you are special, such as being particularly kind to him/her, trusting you, being particularly honest, being particularly considerate, taking special care of you, being particularly suitable and so on. Then the other person will naturally have some feelings of cherishing you, and then find more aesthetic feelings for you, produce love and maintain love. 2. When there are contradictions in love, and the other person doesn't understand you, trust you or respect you, you can keep a "cherish" attitude to tide over the difficulties of love. If you don't cherish him/her in your heart, it means that you don't love each other anymore. At this time, you can find something worth cherishing, continue this love, or give up this love under various considerations. The logic of complete civilization: any "event" is a "guide" (the event that leads to existence). If we want to test the "importance" of each "derivation element", we can judge the function and position of each "derivation element" by comparing it before and after with "whether there is any experiment in derivation element". Finally, I found that the most important thing in love is to cherish.

Impulsive love

Impulsive love is also called romantic love. Being directly and strongly attracted by each other's body, always thinking about each other, always trying to be with each other as much as possible, and often evaluating each other objectively. The conditions are as follows: a certain cultural background provides an individual with a real or fictional model of loving each other; Have a love object; Have your own emotional stimulation, and understand that this emotion is caused by the object of love. Researchers have different views on whether this kind of love can last.

Self-centered love

Self-centered love. The individual who loves does not want to be bound by the object of love, nor does he want the object of love to be bound by himself. He regards love as a series of challenges, solving problems to avoid the burden of commitment.

Rely on love

By love. People who have this kind of love often show anxiety, sleepless nights and strong jealousy, and the ending is mostly tragedy.

Actual love

Actual love. Lovers look for lovers who match each other in personality, religious beliefs, interests, background and other conditions, hoping that once they find the right lover, their feelings can be further developed. This form of love is more common in marriages arranged by parents.

Companion love

Love in the company. Different from impulsive love or dependence on love, the two sides are friends at first, have the same hobbies, work together and gradually develop into love. The two parties who have this kind of love relationship may still be friends even if they break up later.

Selfless love

Selfless love. In other words, the happiness of the loved one is more important than your own happiness, and selflessly consider the happiness of the loved one.

Platonic love

Platonic love, named after Plato, a western philosopher, is a kind of spiritual love between the opposite sex, which pursues spiritual communication and rejects sensuality. It was first put forward by Marsilio Ficino in15th century. As a synonym of Socrates' love, it is used to refer to the love relationship between Socrates and students. Plato wrote in Drinking and Dollas that when the mind abandons the body and yearns for the truth, then the thought is the best. When the soul is infected by the sins of the body, people's desire for truth will not be satisfied. When human beings have no strong demand for sensuality, their mood is peaceful. Carnal desire is the expression of animal nature in human nature, and it is also the nature of every creature. People are so-called higher animals because human nature is stronger than animal nature. Spiritual communication is beautiful and moral. Platonic love has the following meanings: the ideal view of love (a metaphor for the extremely romantic or impossible view of love) is pure spiritual love rather than physical love. There is only one person in this world, and she (he) is perfect for you and only suitable for you (you). In other words, everyone has his perfect partner, and there is only one. The first meaning is the most commonly used, but it is actually a misunderstanding. But since everyone uses it this way, it's another meaning. This misunderstanding comes from Plato's masterpiece The Republic. This book discusses how to build an ideal country, because it may be too idealistic to be realized, so some people use it to explain what Platonic love is. The second meaning is often used, but it is basically a misunderstanding. This misunderstanding comes from Plato's metaphysics. He thinks that what we think is real, and what we see is not real. The third and fourth meanings are really Plato's view of love or gender. Plato believes that people are in the most real conceptual world before and after death. In this world, everyone is a complete man and woman, and in this world, we are all divided into two. So people always feel that if they lose something, they will try to find their own "other half" (this word also comes from Plato's theory). Plato also used this to explain why people have "relationships". In his theory, no half is more important, so men and women are equal. Moreover, your original half in the conceptual world is your perfect object. He (she) is somewhere in the world and is looking for you.

Gothic love

Gothic novels are characterized by stories that often take place in distant years and places, characters are imprisoned in narrow spaces and haunted buildings, and suspense and love are intertwined. The usual suspense means are mysterious inheritance rights, secret life experiences, lost wills, family secrets, ancestral curses and so on. Finally, the suspense was solved, the gangster was exposed, and the love barrier between the hero and heroine was removed. However, this kind of love is different from the love in romance novels. The difference between them lies in: Gothic novels usually describe mysterious adventure stories, and their love obstacles often come from gangs; Romance novels describe ordinary family chores, and their love obstacles often come from the hero and heroine themselves.

Branch of love psychology

In today's life, pure love is as impossible as pure gold, but whether it is a student who has not been deeply involved in the world or a person who has entered the age of no doubt, there is always fantasy and yearning for ideal love in his heart. Like love, only intimacy, no passion and commitment, such as friendship. Obsessed love, only passion, no intimacy and commitment, such as first love. Empty love, only promises, lacks intimacy and passion, such as love purely for marriage. Romantic love, only passion and intimacy, without commitment, this kind of "love" advocates the process and doesn't care about the result. Partner love, only intimacy and commitment, no passion. This refers to a stable marriage with only rights and obligations and no feelings. Stupid love, only passion and commitment, no intimacy. Passion without intimacy is a physical impulse at best, and commitment without intimacy is just a blank check. Perfect love includes passion, commitment and intimacy. Only in this type can we see the true face of love. Sociologist J.A.Lee divides love into six categories: (1). Sex is a typical passionate love, focusing on sexual attraction and sensory satisfaction. (2) storge: It is a typical model of friendship and love, characterized by mutual care and sharing of the same interests and ideals, and it is a long-term relationship based on mutual trust. (3). Mania: It is a kind of possessive and compulsive love, which is characterized by insecurity and considerable dependence. The lover is possessive and jealous. (4).agape: I don't have my own love, and I am willing to sacrifice myself for the other half. I just need to pay anything in return, share everything with my lover and make the other half happy. (5) pragma: Practical love is characterized by paying attention to return. (6) Roders: Treating love as a game, playing with love, the relationship is unstable.

[Edit this paragraph] Love Quotient

IQ, EQ, FQ and AQ can all be improved through guidance, so can love quotient. Unfortunately, parents and schools rarely educate their children to correctly face the attitude towards love or dating, and let them seek help from peer media temporarily or afterwards. In recent ten years, people began to write books to guide the improvement of love quotient. For example, when guiding blind date, we should make clear the degree of cooperation and various potential problems; Correct progress, correct attitude, strategy and so on. There is also a semi-educational and semi-entertaining pursuit of game love in the form of computer games. Some people with low IQ in love beg for death or hurt others as soon as they are lovelorn. If we can allocate time and energy to various things, we can reduce the occurrence of tragedies and help love, such as personal appearance, health knowledge, entertainment of intellectual undertakings, love hobbies, and partners and relatives reflecting on their social beliefs, beliefs and religions.

[Edit this paragraph] Discrimination between love and liking

There are four differences between love and liking: ① Love has more illusions; Like is not aroused by others' fantasy, but by others' realistic evaluation; Love is not as fanatical, intense and urgent as love, but always stable, quiet and objective. ② Love is associated with many conflicting emotions; Liking is a simple emotional experience. ③ Love is often related to sexual desire; And like does not involve this demand. Love has exclusivity and exclusivity, while love does not. Some social psychologists have designed love scale and liking scale to measure the degree of love and liking between individuals. Some items in the love scale are as follows: ① If I can't be with him or her forever, I will feel distressed; I will forgive him or her anything; I think I will believe everything about him (her). What I like about the scale are: ① I think he (she) is easy to get along with; ② After getting to know each other, most people have a good reaction to him or her; He (she) is the kind of person I want to be. Using these two scales, we can not only roughly reflect whether the attraction between individuals belongs to liking or liking, but also reflect the degree of liking and liking.

[Edit this paragraph] The specific difference between love and liking

There is an emotion in the world called "like" and the other is called "love". Love is when he is around, he is the only one in his eyes; Everything has his shadow when he is away. I like reading in the middle of the night and suddenly think of him. I imagine what he is doing now, and I feel a faint warmth in my heart, but I never take the initiative to call him. After a few minutes, the attention was attracted by the plot in the book again! Love is in a lonely night, when thoughts pour in, but you can't finish reading the books in your hand, thinking about whether he is still working overtime, whether he has had dinner, and whether he is thinking about himself like he is. Love is arguing with him and sticking to him like a hedgehog, but in my heart I have secretly admired his insight and talent. Love wants him to keep pace with himself and connect with his heart. A joke he accidentally said can make him depressed and even burst into tears in an instant. In front of him, he is never defenseless. I like to send him short messages when I go out, telling him that the weather here is fine, then turning off my cell phone, playing alone in a strange place for a week, and suddenly appearing in front of him to scare him after being tanned. Love is wanting to be with him wherever you go. You can call him at the seaside and let him listen to the sound of the waves; You can also stay where you are for a long time because you see a figure exactly like him on the street in a foreign land. Love is that he simply said "bon voyage" before going on a business trip. Looking at the back of his departure, he felt a little sad, but said nothing, just silently waiting for the news of his return. Love is telling him before going on a business trip, stuffing clothes and food into his backpack and not leaving until the train arrives at the station. And in the days after he left, he was uneasy every day, praying over and over again that he could return safely. Love is when you are hurt, you don't want him to see your fragile side, quietly wipe away your tears in front of him, and turn your head and still look happy and strong. Love is lying on his chest crying when he is wronged, telling him all his troubles without hiding his indifference, eager to get comfort from his arms. I like to eat KFC with him when he is tired of shopping on weekends. Is to grab a cup of hot coffee with him in the cold winter; Is to walk side by side with him in the street, always separated by half a meter; I played games with him in front of the computer, and they laughed like children. Love is cooking a few good dishes for half a day at the weekend and watching him eat contentedly; It is in the cold winter that the water is continuously heated for his coffee cup; Is to walk with him in the street and let him hold his hand tightly; I sat quietly next to him and watched him concentrate on his work in front of the computer happily. What I like is to listen to his funny stories when I was a child, and then laugh, which makes me feel inexplicably moved. Love is listening to him tell interesting stories about his childhood, and then smiling, showing more pity for this once naughty man. I like to meet him in the corridor, greet him happily, and then exchange a few simple greetings. When I passed by, I saw the bright sunshine outside the window, and my mood was inexplicably better. Love is seeing him in the corridor, pretending not to care about his face, but feeling the trembling air around you carefully when passing by, so I can't help looking back. I like to see him walking hand in hand with another girl. My heart hurts a little, but I will soon raise my smiling face again in Chaoyang. Love is a game that you can't afford to lose. After giving everything, all you may leave is a scar engraved in your heart. If you like a person, you want him to be your own, so you can like many people and hope many people are your own. Love is obviously inseparable from him, but I want to give him up, because he wants happiness, maybe I can't give it. Dare not possess him, I hope to see him find happiness, even if that happiness is not shared with me. I like it. When I am lonely, bored or sad, I hope I can talk to someone. Love is that you want to share with him at any time, and even want to give him all the happiness when you are happy. I like to hear from him when I haven't contacted him for a long time, and then listen to him with a smile. Love is to call him in a hurry after a few days of no contact, and then hold back tears and smile. Yes, we only miss each other when we are not together. Love, even when we are together, misses him every second. If you like someone, most of your friends will feel happy. To love one person is to have one more person, and everyone can enjoy the world of two people. It is sweet to like someone. Love a person, is bitter or sweet. If you like someone, you will be very happy when you are together. Love a person, when you are not together, you will be inexplicably lost. If you like someone, you won't think about the future. If you love someone, you often look forward to tomorrow together. If you like someone, you will always be happy together. If you love someone, you will often cry. Like a person, when I haven't seen him for a long time, I will suddenly think of him. Love someone, when you haven't seen him for a long time, you will think of him every day. If you like someone, you will smile when you think of him. If you love someone, you will stare blankly at the sky when you miss him. If you like someone, you will think that if he has children, you will like them. Love someone, and one day, you will suddenly wonder: what will our children look like in the future? To like someone is to hope everyone is happy. Love a person and hope he is happier. If you like someone, all you want is today. Love a person, what you expect is forever. To like a person is to look at his merits. To love someone is to tolerate his shortcomings. When you stand in front of the person you love, your heart will beat faster. But when you stand in front of the person you like, you will only feel happy. When you meet someone you love, you will be shy. But when you stare at the person you like, you only smile. When you talk to someone you love, you will feel embarrassed. But if you talk to someone you like, you can speak freely. When the person you love cries, you will cry with her. But when the person you like cries, you will comfort her skillfully. When you don't want to love someone anymore, you should close your eyes and hold back your tears. When you don't want to like someone anymore, you just have to cover your ears! Like is a kind of emotional love, a kind of emotional love, an intuitive love, a feeling of liking. You can stop loving and never stop loving a person, especially if you love a person naturally, especially if you like a person calmly. Sometimes you look forward to loving a person with him, sometimes you are afraid to like a person with him and argue with him about loving a person constantly. Constantly pay for him to like a person, I hope he can find himself to love a person at any time, I hope he can find him to like a person at any time, always smile for him, always cry for him, love a person, be persistent in love, be worthy of liking and liking, love is simple, love is complicated, like you, but not necessarily love you, love you, must like you very much. There is only one step between love and not love, but if you want to take this step, it depends on whether you like it or love it. Love is a faint love, love is a deep love, love is a kind of dependence, a kind of responsibility, a kind of mutual snuggling, love is a faint, inexplicable family affection, a sudden impulse, an idea that flashed through your mind. Love is a thread buried in your heart, and you don't need any. If you like someone, you don't have to love him. But the premise of loving someone is to like him. Love can easily be transformed into love, but it is difficult to say it after love, because love is inclusive; Love is selfish. Like is a relaxed and indifferent state of mind. But love is too heavy. When love is spoken, it becomes an oath and a promise. "Hold your hand and grow old with your son", but how many ups and downs do just eight words contain! There is no mausoleum in the mountains, heaven and earth are in harmony, there is Lei Zhen in winter, and there is rain and snow in summer, but dare to separate from you! This is love. Love is a double-edged sword. If you pull it out, you will hurt others and yourself if you are not careful. "Once the sea was difficult for water, it was always amber." People who have been hurt by love always have an unhealed wound in their hearts. On a moonlit night, you miss him/her in the distance. If there is only a faint joy and warmth in my heart, it is love. If there is still a dull pain, it is love. On the same theme, someone replied, "Like is light love, and love is deep love." There is no limit to the number of people you like, and there can be many at the same time, but love is different ... love ... and you can only love one, and you will be dead set on love. Just like swinging, one can enjoy it to the fullest. Love is a seesaw, and two people must be together to enjoy sweetness and happiness. Have you found anyone to play on the seesaw with?