Ancient father's way of educating children

In ancient times educating children was basically the task of the father. However, at that time it was not absolutely rejected? It is not the case that the father is the only one who can teach the children.

In ancient times, it was basically the father's task to educate children. Below I have collected some information about ancient fathers' ways of educating their children, I hope it will help you

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Ancient fathers cultivate their children's self-reliance methods

Sun Shu Ao, Chancellor of Chu

During the Spring and Autumn Period, Sun Shu Ao, Chancellor of Chu, ruled the country in a good way, and was good at teaching and educating the nationals. According to the records, when he assisted King Zhuang of Chu, the social order was very good, ? No officials were treacherous and evil, and thieves could not afford? The king of Chu had a very good social order, and there were no evil officials, no thieves and no robbers. No one would pick up the road and shut up the house at night, and people lived peacefully. and the people lived in peace. He was highly appreciated by the king and praised by the people. In recognition of his achievements, the king wanted to reward him with a large piece of good land, but he politely declined. In ancient times, there was the practice of? In ancient times, there was a tradition of giving a wife and a son. This means that the wives or children of meritorious ministers of the state were rewarded with official titles, titles, and fields. Sun Shou Ao estimated this during his lifetime. In his old age, on his deathbed, he earnestly admonished his son, saying: ? When I die, the king will reward you with properties. At first, the king rewarded me, but I politely declined and did not accept it. Remember, you should not accept it either. It's no good to live on your father's title. After Sun Shou Ao's death, his son followed his father's teaching and did not accept the king's reward even though his family was very poor at that time and lived on firewood, which was highly appreciated by the people of the time.

Shuguang, the teacher of the Crown Prince of the Han Dynasty

Shuguang, the teacher of the Crown Prince of the Han Dynasty, had to retire to his home when he was old. Because he had taught the Crown Prince well, the Emperor and the Crown Prince rewarded him with a lot of gold at the time of his retirement. People guessed: he got so many rewards, his children and grandchildren can benefit from it, how much land they have to buy ah! However, to people's surprise, Shuguang had other arrangements for the generous reward. After he went home, he invited his relatives, neighbors, friends and old friends, and held a big banquet for many days, inviting everyone to eat. Seeing that the gold rewarded by the emperor and the crown prince was about to be spent, the descendants looked on, anxious in their hearts, how they hoped to share some of the emperor's reward. But none of them dared to raise the matter directly with Shuguang, so they asked a prestigious old man in their clan to intercede. That old man said to Shuguang: ? Why do you just feast on others and not care about your own children and grandchildren? Shuguang smiled and said: ? I am old, but I am not so confused as to disregard the interests of my children and grandchildren. It is precisely with the interests of future generations in mind that I am doing this. The existing fields of our family are already quite a lot, enough for a family to cultivate. As long as they are diligent in their business, they will be able to satisfy their needs for food, clothing, shelter and transportation, and will be able to maintain an average standard of living. If we leave them with too much land and property, so that they can reap the benefits without working, we are teaching them to be lazy. As the saying goes: ? If a person is virtuous and has too much money, he will lose his ambition; if he is foolish and has too much money, he will gain his faults.? If a man of talent and virtue has too much money, it will kill his will to advance; if a man is dull and stubborn, if he has too much money, it will encourage his faults. I would rather leave them more virtue than more property, which would weaken their will to advance and encourage their faults. Shuguang did what he said, and really did not leave his descendants the bounty of the Emperor and the Crown Prince.

Zhou Ben, the Southern Tang Festival Minister

Zhou Ben, the Southern Tang Festival Minister of the Desheng Army, was a kind-hearted person, and was never?

Zhou Ben, the Tang Dynasty's Tecsun military governor and the official of the Central Committee, was a kind-hearted person.

Some people advised him that: ? You are old, should be more or less to future generations to leave some heritage. Zhou Ben said:? I Zhou Ben, when I was wearing straw shoes to follow King Wu to fight the world. Today, I am a general and minister, who left me this? It is all because of my own struggle. I don't want to leave them any inheritance because I want them to strive for their own future through hard work like me!

Sima Guang praised them for their? visionary and sagacious?

It is not that these ancient people did not love their children and grandchildren. What they did was precisely the manifestation of a very deep love for their children and grandchildren. As Yan Zhitui, an educator of the Northern and Southern Dynasties, said: ? One cannot always rely on one's father and brother, one cannot always protect one's country, and once one is displaced and has no one to shelter him, one always seeks for oneself.? A person can not always rely on parents, family life, the most reliable is their own sense of self-reliance and ability. Parents give their children and grandchildren? They should not teach their children and grandchildren to be self-reliant and self-supporting. , not as good as teaching them self-reliance and self-improvement, which is the most reliable? This is the most reliable legacy. These fathers should be said to be in a position to leave their children and grandchildren a rich material inheritance; moreover, none of their wealth is? unrighteous wealth? , is their reasonable and lawful? legitimate income. If they leave it to their children and grandchildren, no one will say anything. However, they believe that that is not true love for future generations, but rather harm, and will cause endless trouble. It is not that they do not want their children and grandchildren to be happy, but that they want them to be happy forever. It was not that they had no regard for the interests of their children and grandchildren, but that they had regard for the long-term interests of their children and grandchildren. Therefore, Si Ma Guang, a famous statesman and historian of the Song Dynasty, highly praised them, saying: ? What visionary fathers!?

Historical Examination of the Position of Fathers in Family Education

(I) Fathers in Ancient Families.

Ancient Chinese society was characterized by the rule of man and the rule of virtue in its mode of governance and operation. In the management of the state, monarchical autocracy was the main feature, and the monarch enjoyed absolute authority. This characteristic is carried over to the family, which is characterized by the supremacy of the father's power. Therefore, fathers were undoubtedly the highest decision-makers in both the handling of family affairs and the education of children, and the so-called feudal patriarchal system was not an exaggeration to call it paternal despotism. Morality is the most important tool to maintain the stable operation of the feudal society, and the inheritance and strict observance of feudal morality is the important guarantee for the normal development of the country. As the cell of the society, the stability of the feudal family also relies on the power of morality. The moral ideology of male superiority and female inferiority, husband's duty to the woman, and father's duty to the son, clearly reflected the dominant position of men in the family. Filial piety and fraternal duty, diligence and thrift, cultivation and study became the main contents of feudal family education, and these activities were mainly directed by the father. In addition, ancient Chinese society generally believed that a woman's lack of talent was a virtue, so the education of men and women also showed a sharp difference. Women were deprived of the right to receive school education in the first place, and even if they received a little education in the family, it was mainly about manners and domestic skills, while men learned from their fathers the skills of dealing with the world and the ability to build up their own lives, so that they could shine in the future.

(2) The father in the modern family.

The advent of the industrial age announced the end of feudal society and a major change in the realm of ideas, bringing mankind into the modern world. Since then, democracy has gradually replaced authoritarianism, and the rule of law has gradually replaced the rule of man. The modern family has also been affected by these trends, with the absolute authority of the father gradually dissolving and the status of the mother in the family being elevated. Legal provisions have made it possible for men and women to receive education on an equal footing, which has greatly improved the neglected status of women in the family. However, we cannot omit the fact that in industrialized societies, men are the main force of social production and the main breadwinners of the family, so the patriarchal color is still strong, and gender equality in the true sense of the word has not been fully realized. Male domination of the outside and female domination of the inside?

(C) The father in the modern family.