Regarding love and marriage, I am trapped in the shackles of traditional morality and lost in the pursuit of modern love.

With regard to love and marriage, married life is the deepest field in emotional life. Emotion in marriage is the most acute emotional nerve in people's hearts. The tremor caused by external social changes is like a huge booster, which brings severe pain. In this intense pain, young people began to reflect on the emotional way in marriage and measure their emotional orientation in marriage.

In the process of reflection and measurement, young people fall into the dilemma of traditional morality and love, obligation and emotion. Some educated youth returning to the city are faced with the emotional choice of obligation and love and marriage.

After some young people who have been admitted to universities enter the city to study, the estrangement between husband and wife in the original marriage has increased their sense of emotional alienation. They also face the dilemma of marriage reservation and separation.

Regarding love and marriage, there is an in-depth discussion on whether a young man studying in the city should give up his original wife. In the discussion, young people look at the emotional choice of marriage from two dimensions: kindness, compulsory worship and love pursuit, and follow the binary opposition of bourgeoisie or proletariat, socialism or capitalism in their way of thinking.

In academic circles, there are several main points in the discussion about marriage ethics.

First, marriage "emotional breakdown is the condition of divorce" has triggered a debate on love and family obligations and responsibilities, criticizing the capitalist egoistic view of marriage.

Some people think that there should be divorce without love, and it is moral to divorce as long as love breaks down.

On the contrary, if love breaks down, it is immoral to abide by morality, take responsibility and maintain marriage. Some people think that this is the bourgeois egoistic view of marriage.

They believe that under socialist conditions, both husband and wife have the obligation and responsibility to raise their children and support their parents. They should not only consider divorce from whether there is love between husband and wife, but also consider children, parents and social factors.

The second is the discussion about the "third party" of marriage.

Some people think that it is understandable for those whose relationship is broken or their love life is not harmonious to find a new partner before the marriage breaks up. We should not criticize the "third party". Some people think that this view is the poison of bourgeois selfish thoughts and an immoral marriage behavior, which should be condemned.

Under the new cultural concept, young people are eager to pursue the unity of marriage and love, and regard the blending of love and being loved as a higher level of self-realization.

However, in the collision between the traditional moral marriage view and the pursuit of new marriage values, they are attracted by the new ideals and can't get rid of the specific historical confusion.

It is not only inspired by its own needs and choices, but also can not completely eliminate the tragic color in its pursuit. They must use great psychological pressure to balance this dilemma and seek the best fusion point of the transformation of the two values.

At the beginning of reform and opening up, people's enthusiasm for building the motherland was very high. China youth who call for "striving to build the four modernizations and become socialist successors" devote themselves to the cause of reform with high fighting spirit.

With regard to love and marriage, under this strong spirit of reform and participation, young people unconsciously associate their enthusiasm for the motherland and the four modernizations with their personal love pursuit and marriage life when dealing with marriage and love issues. When dealing with the relationship between love and career, young people regard like-minded ideals as the driving force of love.