The difference between modern filial piety and ancient filial piety

Can only give you some reference points, some information, how to write but also your own grasp.

My personal opinion: the biggest difference between ancient and modern filial piety is that the ancient filial piety is a product of the feudal legal system below, there is a reasonable side, but there is also a very unreasonable side. Behind the existence of male superiority and female inferiority, the existence of the inside of the king's power. Nowadays, it is mainly between families, and the status of women has improved.

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Contrasts

In ancient times, women did not come out to work, that is, not directly earn money to support the family (of course, in-laws live or to do), the male parents in the marriage of a daughter-in-law to have the so-called "matchmaking", "eight carries sedan chair" and the bride price, etc., but also to the new couple in the home to set aside a lot of money for the family, and to the new couple in the home, and to the new couple in the home, and to the new couple in the home. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have the right kind of house to live in, and that you have the right kind of house to live in (this is the equivalent of preparing a house), so in ancient times it was quite reasonable to ask the daughter-in-law to be obedient to her parents.

Times are changing, modern society, men and women also earn money to support their families, many newlyweds get married in the house and the goods are their own preparations, but some "filial son" and in-laws still want to press the ancient standards to require modern people, this is not confused?

Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in-laws, as long as you can achieve enough to be polite in fact, enough, do not put forward too high requirements, otherwise the higher the demand, the greater the disappointment, and finally led to the inability to get along.

We have 20 to 30 years of life and parenting relationship with our own parents, so it is easy to respect (except for a few unqualified parents), but between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, son-in-law, it is not easy to generate this respect, so I said as long as we maintain enough politeness can be, there is no need to "cattle do not drink the water forced to press the head".

Anyway, I don't expect my daughter-in-law to have much respect for my parents, as long as we stay polite and courteous, it's fine, and my daughter-in-law also asks the same of me, in fact, it's equivalent to giving each other some face, so we get along fine, and there's no big conflict.

Some "filial son" said: modern people at best only "filial piety", that is, just spend some money and time, "smooth" is not at all.

I don't know how such a "filial son" is doing himself. As far as I can see, it seems that his daughter-in-law is the one doing all the work, and he himself doesn't seem to be doing much.

So: most of the people who emphasize "filial piety" are using it to ask others to do something, and they don't have to do anything themselves, so being a "filial son" is simply an easy thing to do!

We all know the Song Dynasty Zhu Xi, this person for the people to develop a set of "heavenly principle" (is filial piety guidelines),

But he himself does not comply with, he had two beautiful nuns cheated to give themselves as concubines, the problem is really not like that, and the results of the emperor will be called to him to train a meal, this is intended to clean him up, but the memory of his old age, he is very old, but he has been a good man. But in view of his advanced age also let it go (this is the history is recorded).

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Example 1

The story of Zi Lu, who borrowed rice to honor his parents

There is an old Chinese saying: "Hundred virtues of filial piety come first". first." It means that honoring one's parents is the first of all virtues. If a person does not know how to honor his parents, it is hard to imagine that he will love his country and its people.

The ancients said: "We should honor our own parents, as well as those of others; we should honor our own children, as well as those of others". We should not only honor our own parents, but also respect other old people, love and care for young children, in the whole society to create respect for the elderly and love the young simple folk, this is our new era of students' responsibility.

Zi Lu was a native of Lu at the end of the Spring and Autumn Period. Among Confucius' disciples, he was known for his political skills. Especially known for his bravery. But when Zi Lu was small, his family was very poor, and he lived on coarse grain and wild vegetables for many years.

On one occasion, his elderly parents wanted to eat rice, but there was no rice at home. Zi Lu thought that if he could borrow some rice from his relatives over a few mountains, he would be able to satisfy his parents' request.

So the little Zilu walked ten miles over the mountains and brought back a small bag of rice from his relatives' house. Seeing his parents eating fragrant rice, Zilu forgot his fatigue. The neighbors praised Zi Lu for being a brave and filial good boy.

Example 2

Bao Gong, known as Bao Zheng (999-1062 AD), was a native of Hefei, Luzhou (present-day Hefei City, Anhui Province), and his father, Bao Yi, who served as a minister of the Ministry of Justice, was posthumously awarded the title of Minister of the Ministry of Justice after his death. When he was a young man, Bao Gong was known for his filial piety and his straightforward and generous nature. In the fifth year of Emperor Renzong's reign, in 1027, he was awarded a bachelor's degree at the age of twenty-eight. He was first appointed as a judge of the Da Lisi, and later became the governor of Jianchang (present-day Yongxiu, Jiangxi Province). Because his parents were old and did not want to go with him to another country, Bao immediately resigned from his post and returned home to take care of his parents. His filial piety was praised by the officials.

A few years later, his parents passed away, and only then did Bao Gong re-enter the civil service. It was only after the townspeople's bitter persuasion that he went. In feudal society, if parents had only one son, then that son could not leave his parents behind and just go abroad to become an official by himself. This was against the provisions of the feudal law. Usually, the parents would follow their son for the sake of his future. Or the son and other people in the family would persuade them. It was rare in feudal times for parents to be reluctant to follow their son to retire in the place where he was an official, because it meant that the son would have to abide by the constraints of feudal etiquette - resigning from his official position to care for himself. The history books don't give a specific reason for this; it may have been that his parents were sick and couldn't take the bumps on the road, and that's why Pao resigned from his official position.

No matter what the circumstances were, the fact that Bao Gong was able to voluntarily resign from his official post still shows that he was not the kind of person who was obsessed with officialdom. His filial piety and respect for his parents is also an example for some of today's less qualified people. In the past, most stories were about Bao Gong's iron face and neglected the matter of Bao Gong's filial piety and respect to his parents.

Example 3

Huang Xiang, a man of the Eastern Han Dynasty, is a historically recognized example of filial piety. When Huang Xiang was a child, his family was in a difficult situation. He lost his mother at the age of 10, and his father was sickly. Sultry summer, he used a fan to beat mosquitoes before going to bed, fan cool father sleeping bed and pillow, in order to let his father fall asleep earlier; cold winter night, he first drilled into the cold quilt, with his own body warm quilt before letting his father fall asleep; in winter, he couldn't afford to wear a jacket, in order to not let his father sad, he never called the cold, show cheering and leaping appearance, and strive to create a joyful atmosphere in the home, so as to let his father He is a good man, but he is not a good man.

Example 4

The old revolutionary Zhu De wrote an article entitled "Memories of My Mother," in which he praised his mother's incomparable love and noble qualities with infinite affection. Mao Zedong received his mother's letter of death, starry night on the road, day and night, he stroked his mother's coffin and wept, and in grief, he wrote "Mother's Writings": "My mother's high style, the first push of the fraternity". Song Qingling filial piety to sincerity, in front of her mother's spirit, "weeping". Chen Yi visited his mother, insisted on giving his paralyzed mother to wash clothes. Li Peng's mother is very filial, every holiday, Li Peng and his wife always bring his mother's favorite food, to his mother's place to say hello.

Example five

In Shanghai Jianping Middle School, famous for implementing the "cross-century education project", a 13-year-old teenager's speech entitled "Mom, I'm your eyes" made the 26 members of the National Women Mayors' Study Group weep. This student was 9 years old, his mother was blind, his young shoulders prematurely bear the family's more responsibilities and obligations, in order to buy a mother's favorite Shanghai opera tape, he took advantage of the rest day in the streets of Shanghai ran a whole 6 hours!