How to see the college students love consumption concept?

There are some problems in the motivation and concept of love of college students: using love to transfer the emptiness of thought; immaturity and instability of thought, prone to conflict; only care about the process of love; the material conditions as the basis of love, and these problems show that college students on the understanding of love in the ideals of the reality of the oscillation between or very blind to love.

I. Opinions and suggestions for college students to establish a correct concept of love:

1. We should correctly deal with the relationship between love, study and career. Love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. College students should emphasize their studies, because learning is the main purpose of college students. Career is higher than love, and it is advocated that career is the main thing, so it is not suitable to fall in love too early. But don't think that love is a stumbling block to career, if handled well, love can also play a catalytic role in career.

2, to be able to bear the frustration of love. Face up to reality, love is a two-way, mutual, based on the love of both sides, the loss of any party, love will lose the * balance, love is terminated. At this point, no matter how deep the love for the other side of the lost party, are unrealistic, as a reasonable college students should face this reality. To put yourself in the other person's shoes. This will help you understand the reasons for the termination of the other side of the love, help you accept the painful reality of the loss of love and get out of the shadow of the loss of love as soon as possible. Don't overly hide or suppress the pain caused by the loss of love, to find appropriate ways to vent. To a trusted teacher, classmates, friends, teachers, etc. to talk about their heart troubles, but also can write a diary or letter. If you feel that the depression in your heart is too deep and cannot be dissolved, you can also find a psychological counselor for psychological counseling. You can make more friends, participate in some collective recreational activities, or you can find someone to go shopping, traveling out to disperse, etc., which will help the mood of the open. On the other hand is due to the loss of love after a sense of emptiness, temporarily difficult to adapt, so you can use the work or what other methods to enrich themselves, do not let in there is spare practice nonsense. As soon as possible to sublimate the loss of love into a kind of upward momentum, as soon as possible into the study or work. Do not be devastated by the loss of love, that life, life has lost its meaning. To know, love is an important part of life, but not lost all of life, we must correctly look at love, correct the position of love, deal with love in learning, love in life, love in the relationship between marriage.

3, correct love motive. Love is the future of the search for like-minded, life-long partner, rather than to comfort and relieve boredom, looking for stimulation, not simply for sexual fulfillment. The choice of the object of love is a complex process, can not ignore the economic, political, cultural, personality and other factors, but *** with the ideal point, *** with the character and sentiment is the most fundamental. Love motivation is good or bad, directly related to the success of the relationship. College students as a bridge to the new era, its concept of love should be an organic combination of ideals, morals, career and sex.

Second, for the school's comments and suggestions:

1, strengthen the college students' sexual knowledge education. College students are still in the excessive stage of life, although they have received more than ten years of education, but there are still few aspects involving sex education, for the opposite sex is also still only in a kind of envy and yearning stage, a lot of knowledge is still ignorant, and is not very understanding. If there is a lack of sex education, it is easy to make mistakes in the process of interacting with the opposite sex, or even transgressive behavior. In the absence of certain common sense, for their own wrongdoing is not a good understanding of the consequences of the behavior is not capable of resolving. Thus, it will cause psychological or life pressure and obstacles, for the healthy growth of college students is very unfavorable.

2. Strengthen campus culture construction. To enrich students' spare time by utilizing board newspapers, knowledge contests, speech contests, karaoke, cultural performances, cartoons, various cultural and sports activities, etc., active body and mind; to strengthen college students' heart health education. Make full use of the university's network resources, and actively carry out psychological counseling activities and sexual health counseling services, to help college students to correct the attitude of love and marriage, and regulate the psychological conflict and psychological imbalance caused by the students due to love frustration, so as to cultivate a sound personality.

3. Strengthen the education of students to become successful and guide students to establish ambitious ideals. Students in love or not and students' ideals, career closely linked. We have to guide students to pursue career, ideals and future, so that they realize that love is only a part of life, not the whole of life, and therefore can not just focus on the children's love, waste of study very future.

Sincerely hope that college students can be guided by a healthy concept of love, so that their love flowers can open more beautiful.