How to communicate with traditional conservative women?

Dear experts, hello, my name is Ma Genping, and I am 27 years old. I live in a small town in Jiangxi, where people are traditional and enthusiastic. People live a life of inheriting the superior system. If you like a woman, you must get her father's consent before you make your feelings for her public. I like my neighbor's daughter Xiaoxi now. Her father is more prestigious in the town, and she listens to him very much. Last year, before I read your column, I tried to chase her, but I was rejected. Later, I gave up, but now I think she has a little interest in me again. She makes a lot of eye contact with me, smiles at me, laughs at my jokes and has a lot of body language for me. Besides, last time I saw her, she gave me a big hug. As far as I can remember, she has never done it. Besides, at a neighborhood party, I saw her glance at me several times in the mirror. And what makes me most hopeful is that one night, I helped her take care of her twin sisters. She's going to class that night. When she left, she told me that she had prepared some sweets on the table in her room. When I entered her room, I saw romantic photos of her parents, which were photos of them kissing deeply at the wedding. Then, to my greatest surprise, I saw a little poem I wrote for her last Valentine's Day on a heart-shaped piece of paper. Expert, is she trying to express something to me? But there are also negative signals. When I talk to her when there are many people, she is always brief and leaves soon. I once thought it was a sign that she was not interested in me, but I suspect that maybe she was afraid of rumors and she didn't want to be the object of discussion. Expert, is my guess reasonable? She is only cold to me when there are many people, and she is friendly to me at other times, especially in her house. What is her real interest in me? Another month is the Spring Festival, and we will hold traditional dances here. Is there any way to make me more challenging to her at the dance? How can I set my own challenges without real communication and openly making romantic moves towards her? Before asking her father's permission, I must ensure that her interest in me is above 80%, otherwise her father will definitely say "she is not interested in you at all" and I will be finished. "Thank you for your advice. -Niu Nan netizen: Ma Xiao 2013/108 expert answers Ma Xiao, hello, first of all, congratulations on doing two things right. First of all, you are pursuing a traditional and conservative girl. This kind of girl is hardworking and honest, that is to say, she has been taught to stand on her own feet since she was a child. Second, and more importantly, you should accurately identify her interest in you. Many people are always too subjective when writing to me, but I think you are still very observant, Ma. When a woman is interested in you, she can't come up to you and say, "I am interested in you." "Why not? Isn't that too challenging? Isn't your a little boring? So, what would she do? No matter what, she will let you take the first step. Many people call this process "flirting", but I prefer to call it "throwing an olive branch". Pony, this girl has extended an olive branch to you, and you still have hope. Let's see: First of all, she has more eye contact with you, and she smiles at you. When a girl doesn't care about this man at all, she won't do it. When she hears your jokes, she will laugh. All these show that she is 80% interested in you. As for hugs, many women don't like being touched. She gives you a big hug, which shows that she has a good impression on you. You just need to find out one question: "does she do the same to other men in town?" "If she does the same to others, it doesn't mean that she has a good impression on you. Assuming that she is not only friendly to you, then we can conclude that she has a good impression of you. You saw her looking at you from the mirror. Do you peek at her from time to time? This is a very strong signal. Don't interrupt her peeking, you just need to pay attention to the number of times she looks at you. Now, her interest in you has reached 85%. Finally, it is important for her to keep your poem, but she doesn't care whether you know it or not. Yes, she wants to tell you something. You see, now her interest in you has reached 90%. Generally speaking, if she is not interested in you, it is normal to be cold to you when there are many people. However, now that her interest in you has reached 90%, she is just a means of flirting. She knows it's impossible to flirt with you in public, so she always keeps your's conversation as short as possible. So, Ma, this girl is really interested in you, and you have great hope of catching up with her. And what I'm doing now is to help you keep your score in her heart. Pony, the most important thing now is to keep you challenging. Don't always stare at her direction when there are many people. You can visit her house more often, but choose when she is at home. Then, about your dance, you danced with all the young girls and finally went to see her. Whatever you do, don't give her a sense of oppression. Instead, you should relax Doby and see if she will blush. Love is like playing a game, you can't be too serious. Men who are too serious are often rejected.