Chinese tradition has always attached great importance to family ties. Why do you feel that relatives are becoming less and less "close" now?

We often say that blood is thicker than water, and the relationship between relatives is often unbreakable. But now, the love between relatives is getting weaker. No matter how good the relationship is, it needs to be maintained. After the brothers and sisters get married,

Now that I have a family of my own and people I need to take care of, the exchanges gradually become less and less. The only problem in time is the relationship between relatives.

It's getting lighter.

In addition, people nowadays are very considerate of others. When you are poor, relatives rarely interact with each other. Once you become prosperous, even if you live in a remote area, people will come to you. Human relationships have always been warm and cold since ancient times.

Remembering relatives, blindly asking for them in the name of family affection, and being ungrateful can only attract people's disgust.

There is mutuality between people. Only by supporting each other can we go further.

Officials are difficult to deal with, but family affairs and relationships between relatives are constantly being cut and managed, and they are still in chaos.

When getting along with relatives, you should neither be too distant nor too close. Only by maintaining a sense of proportion and knowing how to be grateful can the relationship between relatives be warm and lasting.

I don’t know if you all have this feeling, but there are far less interactions between relatives than with friends. According to common sense, relatives are more reliable relationships. Why are these relationships becoming more and more unreliable?

We are indifferent now. We used to pay more attention to family relationships because the social mobility in the past was not as great as it is now. Everyone’s life experiences were very similar. They grew up in the same place and had roughly the same life experience and knowledge structure. In popular words,

That is to say, the three views are relatively consistent.

In traditional society, people in a village need to help each other to survive. In spring plowing and autumn harvest, weddings and funerals, and even pig killing, relatives and villagers need help. Under such circumstances, people are more dependent on each other.

Collective independent personality and individual consciousness are not needed in such circumstances.

Now this city is a society composed of strangers. If we want to survive, although we also rely on others, the logic has changed. We only need to do our own work well and get the company to buy help or services from others. No need

Communicate more, and there is no need to obtain the approval of others. In a society composed of strangers, it is the law that restricts people's behavior, not the spit of the aunt next door, nor the authority of the elders in the village.

In this atmosphere, people's psychological self grows up, their independent spirit begins to awaken, and there is no need to suppress themselves mentally to cater to others.