12 golden sentence put into practice

Exercise 1: I am not a picky eater myself. My wife will have several things that she doesn't like to eat, such as persimmon pepper and carrots. He is a southerner and doesn't like to eat sesame sauce or fennel buns in the north.

At first, it was difficult for me to understand why some people are picky eaters and why people with relatively difficult families are picky eaters. Later, I gradually accepted that others were different from me. I'm not picky about food, but others have the right to be picky about food. This is a reflection of their different living habits and bodies since childhood. I should allow others to be different from me.

Practice 2: Mom is very kind to others. Sometimes I hate her. I think she hurt herself for the benefit of others, which I don't want to see, so I will oppose her in a more direct and intense way, but she is ungrateful and angry with me. What I think now is that I want to allow my mother and I to have different ideas and different practices; Besides, if I want to protect my mother, I have to express it in a way that is acceptable to her and the other person. My mother still has the final say in what to do.

Practice 3: Eat faster, have a better appetite and eat more by yourself. My son eats small mouthfuls, especially delicate, and eats very little. At first, I was very dissatisfied with his state. I hope he can eat fast, eat more and be in good health, just like me. Now I have given up this unpleasant idea and let him eat and grow at his own pace.

Case 1: When I get along with my lover, he will discuss some things at work with me. I don't agree with some concepts. For example, he always emphasizes that others have backgrounds, so he is better than him. But I think we should try our best to do a good job at the core, and don't consider those uncontrollable factors. Later, it was found that all three brothers had the same idea and blamed the failure on external factors.

In the future, I will explain my point of view, but I will not force him to agree. I can share my thoughts, but I can't ask him to think the same as me. After all, our backgrounds and experiences are different.

Case 2: When getting along with colleagues, some colleagues will be clear. For example, I invite you to dinner today and invite you back tomorrow. When we are together, for example, buying a popsicle or a sugar-coated gourd will be clear. My habit is not so clear, as long as everyone is happy. This time you pay, next time I pay, a small amount, popsicles or Sugar-Coated Berry, whoever you invite, never mind.

After this happens, if I go my own way, the other party will feel uncomfortable. It is better to respect each other's habits and get along in her comfortable way. Instead of trying to change her and let her handle it in my comfortable way.

Case 3: When working with colleagues, people will handle things in different ways. Some people like to go to the scene to prepare materials. My habit is that most of them are arranged in the company, so it will be easier to arrange the venue. If I force my colleagues to work like me, they won't want to. This is also our own border. I can make some reasonable suggestions. What colleagues should do is their business.

Case 1: Children are always sick when they are young. As mothers, we must try our best to improve his health. From this, I will review whether many of my ideas and practices are appropriate. For example, the quality of family relationships will affect children's mood and body. At first, children saw more western medicine, but the effect of western medicine was not ideal, so they turned to Chinese medicine for help. It is true that the method of TCM maintenance is very effective for children. If it weren't for this fate, it would be difficult for me to think about my own problems and family problems, so I came into contact with Chinese medicine, Buddhism, Waldorf and other fields.

Case 2: I am a person with poor concentration. Gallup's advantage has been tested, and its concentration actually came last. Interests are easily dispersed. I like this one today, and I like that one tomorrow, and it changes. My wife and I are just the opposite. I bought a big stack of classic books, which are really thick. I copied it for two days and put it there. My wife thinks I'm a loser and starts copying classics every day. It has been at least three or four years now. He continued to copy the classics every day. Even during the New Year, even when he is on duty, he will not stop or care about other people's eyes. I really admire him for that. Besides copying famous books every day, he also reads professional books and listens to English for a while every day. I know it's important to do these things, but I can't. My lover is a true and recent role model around me. I want to learn from him and exercise my concentration.

Case 3: In the third year of high school, my father died suddenly due to illness. This incident has dealt a great blow to my mother and me. But my mother is optimistic about many problems in life. Later, cancer hospitalization and spinal surgery did not cause great pressure on others. She always faces these things optimistically. I really admire my mother's attitude towards life and problems. Including my father's special diligence when he was alive and his special love for his family, all of which gave me a lot of warm feelings. It also taught me a lot.

Case 1: A while ago, I rented a residential area to install an access card at the entrance of the building. Because it is a military residence, it is not allowed to be rented out. I need the owner of the house to get a card, and every time I enter the door, there will be a camera to check my identity. As soon as things came out, my wife panicked and told me, let's go out and rent another place. I was in no hurry at that time. Is there any other solution besides renting a house? For example, you can ask the landlord if you can help us with the card; Or can I continue to use these cards in other buildings?

When I met this thing, I didn't panic directly, thinking about acting quickly, but thinking about whether there are other ways to solve it. As a result, the doorways of the community have not been changed, and they still live here.

Case 2: Some time ago, my wife was very anxious about her children going to junior high school. We don't want to send them to learn olympiad. The children are too tired, but there seems to be no other way. Lovers can definitely get it. I asked him, if the goal is to go to a good middle school, is there any other way? Later we analyzed that there are several possibilities. In addition, a person's life is a long-distance running. What kind of middle school he went to can't completely define a person. There are some hidden and inestimable things that affect a person. For example, whether he can appreciate the fun of learning, whether he has the habit of reading, and whether he has a positive and optimistic attitude are all more important than the last good middle school.

Case 3: When I was young, I had an idea, that is, to do something for public welfare. Later, because of some things at home, I couldn't go to some non-profit organizations. This matter has always been my regret. Later, when attending class, the teacher said, "Business is the greatest public good." It suddenly dawned on me that besides going to non-profit organizations, the scope of public welfare, or helping others, can be broader. For example, doing career counseling is also a way to help others, and it will also promote your own growth; In daily life, one more smile and one more warm-hearted word can help others. Living well by yourself, not causing trouble to your family, is also helping others. There must be three solutions to everything. With this belief, I don't have to worry about doing public welfare things.

Case 1: I think the most classic sentence for me is to lose weight. I call myself to lose weight every day, but my actions have not changed, such as not exercising, not controlling my diet, or adjusting my diet structure. So, the result is to continue to gain weight. Repeating the old practice will only get the old results.

Case 2: A few days ago 1 1 I brushed American TV dramas and watched videos at home every day. I can't help myself and waste a lot of time on entertainment. While telling people around me that I want to make progress and succeed, I waste a lot of time watching videos and variety shows, so I always struggle on the edge of life and do things without depth and quality. My son saw that I couldn't control myself, so he encrypted all my video software. I couldn't open it, so the efficiency was much higher these two days. After work, he doesn't brush videos at home, but attends classes, reads books and improves himself. Therefore, the old practice will only get the old results. The new method will lead to different results.

Case 3: These days, I studied small system with Yong Cheng, and found that some of my work habits were very bad. I didn't do my master's degree well, so I wasted a lot of time on repetitive work. If the process can be sorted out clearly, it will improve efficiency and avoid many low-level mistakes. Therefore, the significance of learning courses lies in changing old practices and obtaining new results.

Case 1: My previous career experience made me very depressed, and I felt that I had not developed well and left nothing valuable. Now I want to consult. If I had developed well in the past, consulting would be very helpful to me now, but if I have not developed well now, it will not help me.

Now I will try to find the bright spot in my previous career. For example, I have a lot of recruitment experience, and the efficiency of screening resumes and booking interviews is very high, so I can quickly judge whether a person is suitable for this unit. With previous work experience and current knowledge of career planning, we can help each other and help ourselves better understand career counseling.

Case 2: The past can be many years ago or yesterday. If you always think about what you did badly yesterday, you might as well think about how to do better today than yesterday. If I make a little progress every day, I will make great progress after a long time. For example, the last 1 1 day holiday was not ideal. If you always feel that you have wasted a lot of time and fallen into regret, it is better to think about how to make today better. Eleven is gone, but there are still 12 weeks in 2065, 438+07. If I can do this 12 week better, it will be a great gain.

Case 3: Think about it, the past experience is good, but the development is not good, and I have not been hurt too much, both physically and mentally. Now focus on what you are interested in and valuable, and have no extra energy to think about previous failures.

Case 1: I was not very satisfied with my lover before, because of some differences in the process of raising children, and also because of some differences in treating both families. Now it's much better than before, because I see more good things about him. For example, he is willing to study with his children, go out to attend lectures on weekends and learn about junior high school policies. When I was resting, he took the children to play and study, and drove us to see the furniture in an electric car. I am happy to see more of his contribution to the family. If I always find fault with him, I will be unhappy.

Case 2: Read more affirmative sentences every day and let yourself go, and you will feel much happier. If you have no business sense and can't make a lot of money, then do what you can, don't be kidnapped, and worry about why you are not rich.

Case 3: The weather in Beijing is very good today. Riding a bike all the way to work, I can clearly see the mountains in the distance, and I feel particularly good. If we have a grateful heart every day, we won't feel unhappy about what we already have. Think about why people are unhappy. Part of the reason is that they want too much, their abilities can't match and they can't get it, so it's miserable. If you have less desire and more efforts and actions, I believe there are not many things that make you unhappy.

Case 1: Before I quarreled with my lover, I always focused on those fixed problems, such as that he was leaving Beijing to develop in other places; He wants to leave the unit to work. He knows what I care about and how to hurt me. After a long time, I feel bored. If I didn't have such a big reaction and fierce opposition, he wouldn't irritate me with the same pain point. As long as I let go of these things and expectations, I can accept whatever he says and decides, and it will not bring me pain.

Case 2: It's hard to change things for work, and I feel marginalized and have no chance to do valuable and important work. I don't care so much about it now. I can't control how others treat me, but I can't control what kind of response I make. If I allow it to hurt me and don't take it to heart, then I won't be hurt.

In addition, no matter what job I am assigned to do, as long as I concentrate on doing the thing itself, I can exercise my ability and make beautiful achievements.

Case 3: I have always had a bad habit, that is, some things at work are always waiting for the leader to arrange the distribution, rather than taking the initiative to practice. I still feel that leaders don't attach importance to themselves and have no chance to display their abilities. Now that I think about it, I can control my behavior and get good results, instead of waiting for external forces to push me. The leader has no specific arrangement that suits my mind. One possibility is that she doesn't know how to arrange it, and the other possibility is that she didn't see me. So, take action and do things yourself. But doing good deeds is the future of Mo Wen.

Case 1: I always feel that my parents have given me a lot. Although my family was not rich and broke money when I was a child, it never worried me. There are some bad people and things outside, and I never worry about them. I feel that my parents are like an umbrella. They always let me grow up well and never let bad things affect me.

Case 2: I am glad that I was born in such a family. My parents are my teachers. My father likes reading. I have read many books since I was a child, and my mother has bought many books for me. Therefore, books have always been my partner. Although I have a problem, that is, I like to buy books and read less, but now I am slowly changing, and I get a lot of satisfaction and accomplishment from books. Frankly speaking, it is much worse than its peers in material terms, but there is no deep sense of lack and anxiety in material terms. I think it has something to do with relative spiritual enrichment.

Case 3: At present, I don't feel that my parents have given me nothing. To be honest, I do feel that my parents gave me a lot, but I didn't inherit it well. For example, my father's love for reading, persistence in research and sense of responsibility, and my mother's frugality, optimism and generosity are much better than now.

Case 1: I have a belief that I am too old. Later, I found that there was something wrong with this belief. It was an excuse for myself, an excuse for not working hard and not making progress. This age, if compared with people born in the 1990s, is a little older, but if compared with people in their fifties and sixties, it is still very young. If you change this belief that you are old, your behavior will change, and your behavior will be younger.

Case 2: I have always had a belief that I am stupid. Because my father helped me with my physics problems when I was a child. He thinks it's simple, but I don't understand. He called me stupid, but I don't remember the rest. Just remember that my father called me stupid. So now I have a problem. If it is a little difficult, I will think, I am stupid, I will definitely not learn, and I really won't learn in the end. Because I felt stupid, I reduced my further efforts and found a bad excuse for myself. Whether you are stupid or not, you can do a lot of things by yourself with five more minutes and a little more effort.

Case 3: Because I used to do things in an anticlimactic way, I feel that I can't stick to it now, and I will stick to it. I had predicted that I would fail before I started to do things. I don't think I can achieve my goal with this mentality.

When I have this idea, I will tell myself that I can, and I will repeat my previous failures. As long as you grasp your own actions, you will have good results.

Case 1: I don't remember when I first knew that the direction of change was inward, but I still remember that feeling. I feel much more comfortable because I know that the direction of change is internal. Originally, I would focus on others and hope that others would change, but if others don't change, I feel very uncomfortable. After I realized that I had to change myself, I focused on myself, but I felt much more comfortable.

When the child was less than one year old, my mother-in-law came to me to help me take care of the child. This experience is not pleasant. Everyone has different ideas and many contradictions about taking care of children. The child has diarrhea for a long time, and his face is sallow. It was a painful time, and my wife stood by his mother, regardless of my feelings. At that time, I began to contact disciples' rules, and then I contacted Buddhism and traditional culture. I acknowledge the statement of family order. As a junior, I am not qualified to ask my elders. What I have to do is to adjust my mentality and behavior. These contents saved me. I believe it is impossible to find a way from my mother-in-law. She can't be what I want. What I can do is to change myself and look for ways inward.

Case 2: I believe that situations are born of the mind. How people around me treat me, I get my own reflection. So if I want others to be nice to me, I want more. All I can do is be kind to others and let them get more. Then, everything I do will return to myself, so I will constantly change inward to make myself better and believe that my world will be better.

Case 3: Although I have worked for many years, I have many contradictions with my colleagues and leaders when I look back on my previous work experience. After reflection, I found that many times it was my own problem, and I was easy to worry, and I was easy to communicate regardless of ways and means, causing contradictions and regretting afterwards. I am much better now, because I have changed. There is no need to express things in a hurry. Then I wonder what this thing looks like. Is it necessary to care so much? I must make sure that you are wrong and I am right. If it is not a matter of principle, there is no need to be too serious.

Case 1: In society, we all have different families, different backgrounds and different resources. If something goes wrong, we should be responsible for it ourselves, instead of putting the blame on others. When children were young, I loved to get sick. Every time my child is ill, I will lose my temper with my lover and complain that he didn't take good care of the child. When I passed the buck, I felt much more relaxed. However, I have to take care of myself and see if I can take better care of my children.

Case 2: When I first entered the society and started working, I always had a belief that I wanted to meet a great leader directly under me, who could lead me and teach me how to work better. But in fact, the company hired me because I want to do my job well, and I have no obligation to teach me how to do it better. If I want to be better, I should look for other resources and learn how to work better. That's why I'm 100% responsible for my work.

Case 3: My mother told me what my grandmother told her: "Others are not good to you, others are good to you, so you should be grateful." This sentence, I will think about it from time to time, and many things will pass. Others have no obligation to be kind to themselves. If they are good to themselves, they should be grateful. If you don't take others' kindness to yourself for granted, you won't suffer.