When a wedding or funeral is held in the countryside, why does the oboe player have to go and say hello to the chef?

There are quite a few seemingly strange rules in rural red and white wedding ceremonies, which can make the uninitiated feel dismayed at first sight.

For example, in some places when marrying a daughter-in-law, will be at the dinner table in advance to wrap up a red envelope, and so on the people carrying the plate over, people do not say anything, directly take away on the line.

The money in the red packet bread has more or less, before most of them are twenty dollars, and now it is sixty.

The money is not really for the person who serves the dishes, but for the chef who cooks. The person who serves the dishes will give this red envelope to the cook. But the chef doesn't get this money alone either. When it's done, they'll buy the money as snacks and share it with everyone.

A lot of people don't really understand why they have to give the chef money.

In fact, in the countryside, no matter whether it is a red or white event, the cook is very respected. As the previous red and white wedding do banquet in the main family in the home to organize, so please cook is inevitable. Even now changed to the hotel table in the restaurant to do banquet, but still will give the hotel chef a red envelope.

Some people wonder why these cooks are so important in rural red and white events. For example, some people say, people blowing oboe came, but will go to say hello to the chef. But the people who write the accounts don't give the cooks a greeting.

Is there something to this?

We have to talk about it separately, first why the oboe player has to greet the cook, and then why the bookkeeper doesn't have to greet the cook. (Personally, I'm too interested in these rural customs, and the photos are my own.)

Ⅰ: Why does the oboe player greet the cook?

According to reason, the cook is invited by the main family, and the oboe player is also invited by the main family, although they do different jobs, they are both invited, so why does the oboe player have to say hello to the cook? Why should the oboe player say hello to the cook?

In fact, this is just a kind of popular rural human feelings, but also a kind of politeness in the people who run outside.

The oboe in the countryside belongs to eat a hundred meals, who have something to ask them to go, they eat here today, tomorrow in the dinner there, most of the time in the year on the road.

They belong to the people who go out.

They are the ones who are on the road for most of the year.

Over time, these people have developed the habit of being smooth, and talking all the time, usually do not offend people.

After a long time, they know all the people in three miles, five villages, eight miles, and usually run on the road, in case they encounter something, they can find someone to help, and because they are very courteous when doing things, people will help.

By saying hello, they are helping themselves.

That was the rule for people who went out in the past, and that was their experience.

But there's also a human cunning to it.

Why do you say that? Because the chef masters the eating problem of all the people in the office, you eat clean or not, all mastered by the chef. No one dares to offend them, and those who play the oboe dare not offend even more.

Because in these things, basically on the oboe is an outsider. The helpers are all from the village, relatives and friends are related to the main family, and the oboe player is an outsider.

So, when they arrive, they greet the cook first, meaning they are here to beg for food, so please take care of them.

So when they came, they greeted the chef, saying that they had come here to beg for food, so please take care of them.

But the oboe players have a lot of heart, they are afraid not to greet the chef, the other cooks hate them, in case they spit in the meal for them, they know?

That's why we say there's a little bit of out-of-house savvy in there.

Ⅱ: Why doesn't the bookkeeper have to say hello to the cook?

We need to know what level these helpers are at rural red and white events.

First of all, no matter whether it is a red or white event, there will be a general manager, who is in charge of everything, and there will be some sub-controllers underneath, and then there will be cooks and miscellaneous ones.

The bookkeepers are independent of these people, they are respectfully invited by the main family, and most of them are famous in the village and can write two strokes.

They are respected no less than the cooks, and the work they do belongs to the "work of conscience" and "cultural work". What do you mean by "work of conscience"?

This money should be right in the end, not more, not less, the same can not appear fake money. The lesser and the fake money, the bookkeeper is responsible.

This is the first time I've ever seen a person who has been in the same boat as me.

And this work is not everyone can do, not only need to be able to write two words, but also need some culture. If you don't have any culture, you will have to report your name to your relatives, and you won't be able to write your name.

So, these people actually usually have a face in the village, the rural people, whether in the past or now, the cultured people will always naturally with a few points of respect.

They were invited by the main family, and in the end, the main family might have to buy them a drink alone. Therefore, in the office, their status is not lower than the cook. Plus they are all from the village, the cook is from the village and the bookkeeper is also from the village, so they don't even need to be greeted in a special way.

Without greetings, the cooks would not be able to get their hands on the meals they ate, and at the same time there was no need to greet them.

Ⅲ: If you want to summarize, the oboe players belong to eating out of the house, they are going out, earning the money of the main family, and eating the food of the main family. They will show their respect to those who are invited by the main family to help.

It's always good to be polite when you're out and about. Whether it's the cooks or other helpers, people who play the oboe are so polite, so naturally they won't make things difficult for them. Said to eat out of the meal, but not how far, most of the eight villages, who will also have to go out of the time, head down, who is difficult, in the future, in case they go out and fall into the hands of others how to do?

So, there is a human condition in which rural people work.

And the bookkeeper and the cook also belong to the main family invited, can not say who is higher level, but at least are a village, do not need to greet each other.

That's why the suona player needs to greet the chef, but the bookkeeper doesn't need to.

It is customary to play the suona to express the memory of the deceased.

suona: suona is a folk instrument, convenient, economical, practical, the poor in ancient times can afford, in addition to the more economical flute, xiao, erhu, and these instruments only erhu and suona sound can reflect the sadness of the mood, but the burial of the erhu is not convenient to play in the walk, so only the suona is the most suitable, and suona can express the family of the deceased sadness, grief, and sadness.

In our southern side of the situation, if you do not greet, cook things either not cooked or out of the accidental appearance, the kitchen and its not smooth, the kitchen may be chicken and dog. If you follow the process to do through this aspect of the formalities will be fine, so into the local customs. Some things, science can not explain.

Say hello to the kitchen chef, should be the people to food, respect for food and clothing parents and other translations. So we young ones should respect the customs and habits, but not blindly follow the trend.

Suona a folk instrument, it is "small and exquisite", easy to carry, the price is not expensive; suona playing the tune, frustration and frustration. The suona playing, at least two or more people to ride into the "class", the joy of blowing out of the tune is cheerful and heroic, showing the atmosphere of celebration; funeral will be as sobbing as crying, reflecting the sadness of the feelings. It is in today's new countryside, as long as the family did a happy event, or funeral, there is always a pleasant sound of suona sound up.

We must have noticed that, in the happy event, or funeral banquet opened table, under the guidance of the master, suona team will be invited to the chef to play some, very interesting. The chief steward is invited, the chef is also invited, how the chef is so "flavorful", "write accounts" also have to go. @Tishen that there are these three reasons:

In rural areas, there are "happy to invite only to come, the funeral does not invite their own" custom. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world, and you'll be able to do that with the help of your own personalized products. Always want to help the more people, the more guests come, the more it seems to the host family goodwill, things have been lively. So first find the "chief executive", and then discuss the matter of the event. The first thing you need to do is to decide on a chef, and the oboe and other performing arts teams are not missing.

Things are big, many people, the most critical thing is to let neighbors and friends eat well, to meet the tastes of everyone, dedicated to help, enthusiastic with gifts. A large number of diverse meals are to be carefully cooked by the chef; the banquet is the same time to open several tables, the chef is busy, but also the spoon does not mess up, the amount of labor and labor intensity is also big enough.

At the same time, to do a banquet, there are people from the north and south, the health of the meal and the taste of the chef to personally check. The better the chef cooks, the higher the evaluation of the neighbors and guests to the host family, the more popular. It also ensures that the meals are healthy and that the proprietor will not have to worry about them. The sound of the suona is a testament to the chef, and it is a way of refreshing the chef.

The chef of the wedding and funeral, usually spend money, there are relatives, neighbors are chef, they do not charge money, or only receive gifts. The suona class, on the other hand, this is a non-spendable. Between the two, although both are service industries, but with the difference between the thin and thick interests. As a suona class, they are afraid of attracting the disdain of their peers for their money-mindedness. In order to cater to local etiquette, customs, but also in order to eliminate the chef these "peers" on their "look down". There is also a really take people's money, for their own elimination of word of mouth meaning.

The oboe class is most afraid of the time, is to open the banquet "point of time" and guests come and stop the "point of time". One song after another, dry mouth, not even the time to drink water. If the oboe sound is small, stop, the chief manager blame, the proprietor muttered, still want to get the "service money" smoothly? Not to mention when you want to sit on the table to eat, only waiting for fewer guests, vacate the space, will invite the suona class on the table to eat.

Often a few songs, or the end of various ceremonies, to drink and starve. The chef reserved down the meal are cold, tasteless in the mouth. Want to eat hot, you have to chef re-heated. The suona troupe would take advantage of the popular custom to greet the chef and ask him to "give us a favor and finish the hot meal". The chef also understood the intention of the suona troupe and accepted their manners. They cooperated with each other and gave face to the master of the house for the "big event". "Enchanted" in the sound of suona.

In our local area, when the banquet table, the proprietor hand-held plate, more or less on the end of the point "meaning money", and bottles of wine, wine cups, red quilt face. Under the arrangement of the master, the chef is given a toast, red, and firecrackers are also sounded. Then the suona band played the music. This is in line with local etiquette, but also to meet the proprietor, the chef, the oboe player's respective psychological needs.

"Ten miles of different winds, a hundred miles of different customs", one side of the people have a side of the people's rules of conduct, nowadays, rural red and white wedding are constantly simplified, but this etiquette and rules need to be inherited. Because these rules is everyone's word of mouth, but also the content of the evaluation, otherwise, the proprietor can not afford to lose people; chef and suona class and each mind, the heart will understand. In this case, this is not a wedding, funeral a landscape?

However, it is also worth saying that suona class, before being invited, we have to talk with the owner of the "introduction fee", even if not to talk about it, people in this line is also a "connoisseur". You give people, as to how much they charge people say. Not at all like the subject said, "write the account does not go", you "do not go", do not follow the heart of the host, "service fee" will be discounted, and even guilty of tongue, may be?

Not blowing the suona to the chef to go to greet, but at noon to open the meal to guests, to blow the suona form, on behalf of all the guests to eat, to the chef to work hard for them to express their gratitude for cooking.

This is called (thank the chef).

While thanking the chef, the counter that collects the gifts, seals a red envelope for the chef. For funerals, it is offered to the head chef on his knees by the great filial son on his head, and then distributed to the individual chefs by the head chef. Happy events by the guest of honor to take the red envelope and a few boxes of cigarettes personally handed over to the chef (head chef).

After all the forms, the chefs began to serve food and rice to the guests. After the wedding banquet on the strip of meat (buckle meat), and then stop for a while, by the host to take the groom to the matchmaker kneeling thank you. After thanking, the wedding banquet then continue.

Nowadays, many wedding banquets are held in hotels, and these old ways are all gone.

Ten years ago in our rural areas of Heze, basically wedding banquets are the host family of the office, to prepare their own raw materials, buy a variety of vegetables, meat and other ingredients, and then invited the village chef spoon cooking, whether it is a dozen or hundreds of tables are from the village of these folk chef's hand, these people usually have a fixed occupation inside, their Most of the occupation is not a chef, just can cook good cooking, and enthusiastic, so it took on this important task.

The reason is actually very simple, in the past, as long as our own home cooking, looking for the village chef spoon, there will be oboe team, go to the chef to say hello to the courtesy appeared.

The specific process, let's take the wedding banquet, let's say the wedding etiquette process, the groom in the morning to their parents and grandparents, the elders in the family after the head button, then there will be a large branch of the village led by the oboe, accompanied by the oboe, and then go to do the dishes, to the chef in charge of these head buttons to thank you, this is the wedding above an invariable and must be a courtesy.

And above the funeral, the general death of the person's closest relatives, such as maternal family, or brothers and so on closer relations, generally are in the salute, to the chef where to send a few packs of cigarettes, in order to show appreciation.

The reason why there is a banquet above, suona team to the chef salute this reason, nothing more than to express the gratitude of the master of the house, the rest did not say, because here we are, these chefs to help cook the village chef, are all obliged to help, they not only come to help cook, and also with the portion, and will not receive a penny of pay, so the work of the master of the house, in order to express their gratitude, the master of the house, in order to express their gratitude. The master of the house, in order to show their gratitude and show respect, will deliberately arrange for this link to appear.

We may not know much about the past of rural banquets in some cases, take the funeral, general funeral in rural areas will have three days, these three days will have a banquet, then the village of these chefs will cook, it will be three days uninterruptedly in the business of this help, whether it is from the occupation of time, and the amount of labor is very great, and the main point is that the village of these chefs are fixed, and the main point is that the village of these chefs are not the same, but they will not be the same. The main point is that the village of these several chefs are fixed, so the village of a year of big and small weddings and funerals, is very much, then they have a year of heavy task, we can imagine.

No remuneration, unpaid for the villagers service help. From washing vegetables and cutting vegetables, to spoon frying, to the configuration of dishes, as well as dealing with the banquet above a variety of unexpected things, can not be separated from the selfless help of these chefs, so in the countryside above the banquet, only to give them such a noble courtesy.

And now the countryside, these chefs basically have been old, rural banquets have gradually been looking for people to process the package table, so the rural chef this occupation has slowly disappeared, and now the banquet although do a wide range of, but I feel still childhood banquet eat up, more flavor.

Thank you. This question is quite interesting. To ask why? It is mainly a courtesy to express gratitude to the chef! In fact, it is not only the chef who greets, it is simpler on joyous occasions. And in the funeral, it is more troublesome, not only the chef to thank, outside the cabinet inside the cabinet also want to thank, Ming Jing and funeral hanging scrolls are equally thank you, the female duty guest is also thank you, and all the guests who come to the funeral to thank!

Some people would say that the oboe player is too lowly, right? Yes, let you a sentence revealed the old bottom of this occupation! In the old days, this was a kind of lowly profession! Its status was so low that whoever engaged in the profession of playing the suona was not allowed to be buried in the ancestral grave after death. Treatment can be imagined!

In my hometown, a suona player went to his aunt's village to organize a funeral, and his bitch brother joked with him: Bitch, how do you want to get up to do this, don't you know that you can't get into the ancestral grave after a hundred years? After hearing this, Bitch contemplated for a moment, then got up, took the suona and left with Bitch, walked to no one's place, and destroyed the suona on the spot! To Bitchy's astonishment! What are you doing? I'm messing with you! Bitchy says seriously, No! I have heard this before, but did not take it seriously, today let you say this, I feel the seriousness of the matter, in fact, the family does not agree with me to do this, wash their hands on this.

In fact, this is the traditional saying, just as that singing opera, the past theater is also no identity, now this family that family are red all over the sky! So in a word: the past imperial calendar can not be seen!

In the past, blowing suona, or chef they are artists, artists and artists are comparable, but suona is to make the most noise, but also the most can get the main reward, 'chef it is often out of the effort to bother, people eat well also over, eat not good easy to scold the oboe craftsmen's rice is also the back of the kitchen to them, so oboe craftsmen are afraid of the back of the kitchen have a jealousy of fear of a little tampering with the meal, usually In the main home to eat on the first dish after the first thing, suona smiths go to the back of the kitchen to let the smoke to toast, on behalf of all of us are serving the main house, are not easy to meet are friends, and so on the hot dishes but also to honor the chef wine,

This problem said, not good enough to say out loud. Said civilization is the etiquette. There are a lot of hidden broker, red and white affair I am the accountant, write elegiac account, elegiac words, elegiac couplets. Times have progressed. Let's just say that there is politeness.

Rural wedding or funeral, blowing oboe to pay a visit to the chef first, blowing oboe to eat a full meal. Because the oboe class table food can be casually different from the main table, the chef is not happy with less food, the oboe player may not be able to eat. Including the main family of the office, the day of the office before the opening of the table should be prepared on the good tea and red packets to honor the chef, otherwise the chef is not happy to give the main family waste of ingredients, the appearance of the table and the quality of the table will be discounted, the main family of the office would like to do things well to get a good reputation for the chef will be very respectful, when things are done beautifully, after the end of the main family to prepare a good gift also have to thank the chef!

These are traditional customs, with the progress of social civilization, the big fuss is very wasteful, nowadays advocate thrifty work. The oboe class is also getting less and less popular.

I started in my hometown from the twenties to help do red and white wedding, the size of the scene has seen a lot, but also hosted a lot of netizens of this statement and mention or the first time I heard of it, maybe it is around the way of the different customs it! But the red and white two things of that set of basic etiquette and etiquette or more familiar. I personally believe that they only so they have to greet the chef, mainly for the following reasons: the past drummer artists drummers are categorized into the "lower nine streams" ranks, they are not into the mainstream, the proprietor of the treatment of them will be very low, playing and singing is not allowed to enter the courtyard, not allowed to enter the home to eat, on the table on the more likely, even if it is now there are still places to inherit Even now, there are still places where this tradition is still practiced, and the low status of these people can be seen. Reform and opening up after the abolition of the rank difference, the status of the drummer artist straight up, first to eat and drink, and to the east of the office staff and relatives, friends to enjoy the same treatment, and eat into the home to sit at the table, cigarettes, alcohol and tea, as much. But there is a point, the past abbreviated and omitted French blowing scene and resurgence, coupled with the people now have money on the grand show, so these drummers artists are also very hard, some French is done in the family and friends eat, as the saying goes, everyone ate, they drummers artists blowing. Because before blowing is not able to eat, for fear of making tired, so that people's health is not good, can only tell the chef or the kitchen, our table food first not, we first work for us to put the meal hot on the stove, but also for fear of blowing the cold does not catch up to eat, that's all. Then there are other sayings that is purely superstition. [Thank you for your attention friends, please pay more attention, there are questions though, I will give a reply]