A story about how to make friends.

Please take the definition of friend seriously. When you meet someone for the first time, you are considered a friend. This is a very serious attitude. When you reduce the way of making friends to the minimum standard, it is impossible to make real friends.

The relationship between people is mutual. If you are so casual, you will not take others seriously subconsciously, and others may not treat you as a friend.

Some people are keen on socializing and enjoy the feeling of dealing with people. However, if it is not the upper class in a circle, everyone is just being polite. Compliments in social situations are basically insincere. The role of social butterfly is unpopular with others, and others will think you are frivolous.

Zeng Guofan, one of the four famous ministers of ZTE in the late Qing Dynasty, has a profound understanding of the way of making friends in life, among which "eight friends and nine friends don't make friends" summarizes his way of making friends, which is of great reference significance to us.

Zeng Guofan believes that making friends should be tolerant and generous, and "be honest and upright, compromise with macro, and be selfless and suspicious." In Zeng Guofan's family instructions, he put forward the "eight contacts and nine no contacts" in communication, which became the standard requirement and goodwill reminder of people's communication etiquette.

Those who are prosperous and calm can take it from others, so there are many people who allow it. Making friends with such people will definitely improve their life pattern and realm.

He who overcomes himself, that is, he who is better than himself in some way, learns his own strengths and advantages from him. As the old saying goes, "A threesome must have a teacher, so choose the good one and follow it." It will be of great benefit to make such friends.

Filial piety is a person who knows how to be grateful. Parents will always be our greatest benefactors. If you can't even honor your parents, it's hard to imagine that this person won't give you a knife at a critical moment. If he is filial to his parents, he will treat his friends sincerely and share weal and woe.

Chen You bluntly pointed out his shortcomings and mistakes, and dared to "throw cold water" when he was "hot-headed".