What behaviors are polite and what are impolite in traditional Chinese culture? For example, if you want your elders to move the chopsticks first at dinner, etc.~~~Fast!

There are many differences between Eastern and Western eating habits, especially in formal Western banquets, where there are many rules. If you don't know the rules, you'll be in for a rude awakening.

The famous scholar Mr. Qian Gechuan once gave two examples.

One of them is a banquet held by Hitler, a Chinese envoy in accordance with the custom of Western food in the country, with a napkin to wipe the knife and fork, unaware that this practice is extremely impolite, as if to blame the knife and fork is not clean. Hitler saw, immediately ordered the waiter will be all the guests of the tableware all over again, so that the Chinese ambassador embarrassed embarrassed.

The second is Li Hongzhang mission to Germany when the appearance. Li Hongzhang was invited to Bismarck to go to the banquet, due to the lack of understanding of Western etiquette, he put a bowl of fruit to eat after washing hands with the water Rui up and drank. At that time, Bismarck did not understand the reality of China, in order not to make Li Hongzhang shame, he also will wash his hands and drink the water, to see this situation, the other civil and military officials had to endure laughter. Today, more and more frequent interactions between the people of the East and the West, to understand the etiquette of the table is also very necessary.

To participate in the Western banquet should pay attention to the following matters:

l. Should wait for all the guests in front of the dishes, the hostess signaled before the start of the meal. Before the hostess picks up her spoon or fork, the guest shall not eat any dish. This is an American custom, unlike that of some European countries.

2. The napkin should be laid on the lap. If the napkin is large, it should be double folded in the lap; if it is small, it can be opened all the way. Although the napkin can also be wrapped around the neck or tied in front of the chest, but it does not look generous, so it is best not to do so. The corner of the napkin can be used to wipe off the mouth or fingers on the oil stains, but never use the napkin wipe dishes.

3. Eating body to sit upright, not too forward leaning, and do not put both arms across the table, so as not to collide with the guests next to.

4. When using knife and fork, you should use the right hand with a knife, the left hand with a fork. If you only use a fork, hold it in your right hand. When using a knife, do not turn the blade outward. Do not use the knife to send food into the mouth. Avoid cutting meat with a knife that makes a loud noise on a china plate. When eating noodles, you can roll them up with your fork and eat them without picking. When you put down your knife and fork in the middle of the meal, place them on the plate in a figure of eight. If you put your knife and fork together, it means you are finished.

5. Bread should be taken by hand and placed on the side of a small plate or on the edge of a large plate, and never with a fork to fork the bread. Butter should be taken with a butter knife, not with a personal knife. Butter should be taken out and placed in a small dish next to it, not directly onto the bread. Don't cut the bread with a knife, and don't butter the whole slice; instead, pull off small pieces at a time and eat one piece and spread it on the other.

6. Eat salad with a fork only. The fork should be held in the right hand with the tines facing up. If the salad is served with bread or crackers, take a small piece of bread or cracker with your left hand and help push the salad onto the fork.

7. When eating fish, you can hold the bread in your left hand and the knife in your right hand to dislodge the spines. Already populated meat bones or fish spines, do not spit directly into the plate, but to catch with a fork and then gently put the plate, or as far as possible not to introduce the attention to remove the hand, placed on the edge of the plate, and can not be thrown on the table or the ground. Fruit cores should also be spat out in the hand before being placed on the plate.

8. When you want to drink water, swallow the food in your mouth first. Do not rinse the food in your mouth with water. When you drink from a glass, be careful to wipe off any grease from your mouth first so as not to stain the glass.

9. Don't tuck your dishes away when eating. For soup, you can tilt the plate and then use a spoon to take your food. Don't put the spoon in the cup for tea or coffee.

10. Don't make loud noises when eating, especially when drinking soup. You should shut up when chewing.

11. Do not blow your nose or burp at the table. If you sneeze or cough, apologize to those around you.

12. Do not pick your teeth at the table. If you have something stuck in your teeth that must be removed, cover your mouth with a napkin and wait until no one else is present to remove it.

13. When eating, it is not polite to remain silent all the time, you should talk to the person next to you. But don't talk while you are chewing your food. Even if someone talks to you, you should swallow your food before answering. You can talk without putting down your knife and fork, but you should not shake your knife and fork in the air.

14. At the dinner table, all food should be taken with a knife and fork. Only celery, baby carrots, green fruits, fruits, dried snacks, dried fruits, candies, fried potato slices, corn, tandoori chicken legs, and bread can be eaten with the hands.

15. When the waiter serves the guests in turn, walk to your left before it is your turn to pick up the food. If the waiter is standing on your right, do not take, it is the turn of the guests on your right to take food. When taking dishes, it is best to take a little of each, as this will please the hostess. If you really don't like a certain dish, you can also say, "Thank you, no."

16. When the hostess wants to add food for you. You can pass the plate to her or to the waiter along with the knife and fork that are placed on top. If she doesn't ask you, you can't take the initiative to ask for additional food; it's rude to do that.

17. Some of the food on the table, such as bread, butter, jam, pickles, dried fruit, candy, etc., should wait until the hostess proposes to take. When you take turns to take food, the male guest should ask the female guest next to him to take first, or ask her if she would like you to take some. When eating, you should not cross in front of others to take food. If you need something, you should pass it behind someone else's back.

18. At the end of the meal, the guests should wait for the hostess to get up from her seat, and then leave the table together. It is not polite to leave the table in the middle of the meal or before the end of the party. After rising, the male guests should help the women return the chairs to their original places. Napkins are placed on the table and not folded as they were, unless the host asks you to stay for the next meal.

To make the banquet from beginning to end full of pleasant and harmonious atmosphere, not only the guests should behave properly and courteously, the attitude of the host and hostess is also very important.

After the banquet begins, it is the responsibility of the host and hostess to make the conversation lively and interesting, and each guest is not left out. If someone talks about something inappropriate, the host should immediately and skillfully try to change the subject.

During the meal, the host should wait for the guests to finish a dish before changing to the next one. The host should not eat too fast, if the majority of people have eaten, and a few people have not eaten, should slow down, so as not to make the guests feel uneasy.

The host should do his best to make each guest feel comfortable. If a guest drops his knife and fork on the floor. Should immediately and politely for him to change a hand. If a guest accidentally breaks a plate or bowl, the hostess should calmly clean up and comfort the guest, and never show a color that does not say anything.

Finally, the host should never calculate the cost of the treat in front of the guest.

Depending on the place in China, various traditional behaviors of politeness are different, and some are opposite.

If you are trying to be polite to your elders in your life, which is very rare, it is recommended that you find a more affable old man and ask him, he will tell you.