Wisdom of Love and Marriage from Lao Tzu

Modern love marriages are really colorful and very diverse and open. Let's not talk about anything else, just from some of the words that are popular among us today, we can see.

Let's take a look at some of the words that are popular now: early love, girls, online love, second wife, second wife, package, third party, interloper, one-night stand, extramarital love, twilight love, sexual harassment, dream lover, Chinese divorce, "just want to have once, do not ask for a long time", "men with money will be bad, not for long". "Men will become bad if they have money, and women will become bad if they have money."......

These various modern words reveal the background of our modern love and marriage to be such a frivolous and manic one. Let's take a look at our ancient people in the marriage of love is how to use words? Our ancient people in the marriage love is so teach you:

Lifelong affairs, white head to old age, long days, mountain alliance and sea vows, lifting up the case, respect each other like a guest, married couple, "chaff wife does not go down to the hall", "in the sky would like to be more than a bird, in the ground would like to be even the branch! "......

Completely two different mentality, is a different cultural atmosphere. The first one is to call you "the sky is the limit", a talk of "one night of love", we say do husband and wife to do husband and wife what is it? One day husband and wife, a hundred days of grace, a hundred days husband and wife of the sea-like deep, so we use these words can be seen, modern people in modern love and marriage on the kind of restlessness, that kind of mentality.

One of the wisdom of Laozi's love and marriage: Knowing people is wise, self-knowledge

Laozi said, know others, you are wisdom. You know others, you are wisdom; you know yourself, know yourself, this is brilliant. Comrades think, know others is wisdom, know yourself is brilliant, together is wise, you this person is very wise.

How advanced! Comrades think about it, we now have a lot of young friends here, we also have a lot of people have a certain social experience, have a rich social experience, our people to the old, sometimes think about my life to suffer in what place? The loss is not the wisdom of these two words, do not know people, all my life, do not know people, do not know this person is a good person, do not know which person is a bad person, and do not understand themselves, deceived. So many people look back in their old age and think, "Why didn't I do well in my life? Why was my career unsuccessful? Why did I fall down there? Why did I fall into someone else's trap? It is less of these two words: first, do not understand others; second, do not understand themselves, so on the other side of the pawn, by the other side of the fraud.

So, we are now young friends listen to this lecture to remember these two sentences, has been a lifetime enough. "Knowing people is wise, self-knowledge is wise", wise.

To be wise, how not easy! Well, think about it, comrades, if you can be wise in your love, your marriage, to be able to understand others, but also to understand themselves, then your love, your marriage, your family is certainly happy and successful. Comrades think about it, we know, the old society can not ah, you again understand the useless, because the old society is not your own master, called "marrying a chicken with the chicken, marrying a dog with the dog, marrying a monkey all around the mountain. There's no way out. See, it's so agonizing. Today is different, today let you find a partner, we are here are looking for a partner, we are here the oldest is also looking for a partner, not that kind of picking a square scarf type. You see, ask you to find, give you freedom, then you have to open your eyes to find.

Comrades, we come from life, we all have heard such things, husband and wife quarrel, the civilian population a lot, two people how to quarrel? Two people quarrel to the end, two people cursed. What does the man say, heh, I'm blind, I'm haunted to marry a woman like you. What did the woman say, hey, it's not that you're blind, it's that I'm really blind, it's that I'm really deluded to marry a man like you. Too dramatic, two people are saying what, both say they are blind; two people are saying what, ghost obsessed. So, may I ask, what does it mean to be blind? To be blind is to be looking blindly! Why didn't you go blind in the first place? Why didn't you open your eyes and look? Why did you lose your mind in the first place? So you see, Lao Tzu has taught us so well! "Five colors make the eyes blind." What do you mean, "blind"? Blindness. So looking for objects must not "five colors make the eyes blind", we must open your eyes, to polish your eyes.

We have to ask, Laozi has no specific can tell us, how to wipe the eyes? How to be able to "know the wisdom of others, self-knowledge" ah? Yes! Lao Zi taught you four words, Lao Zi said, "clean up the mystery". What does "cleanse" mean? It means to wash, to remove, to wash and remove the dust from your eyes, to polish your eyes. What does it mean to "see the world"? "Xuan see" means mysterious insight, you have to have a kind of mysterious, deep insight. You have to have a sharp eye, you have to have a subtle insight. But some people have said, you say that we still have no operationalization, we hope to have a little operationalization. OK, I'll tell you about operationalization. But Lao Tzu was only speaking in an abstract, generalized way, and we have a saying, "Heroes see things the same way". So it's very useful for me to share with you what Confucius said about operationalization.

Confucius is very interesting, Confucius look at their own daughter grew up, to be married, I'll help her find, a search, find a what? I found Gongye Chang, one of his students. Then he said to his daughter, "Daughter, daughter, dad found you an object, this object is good, I fancy, will not let you be fooled. So what kind of person was Gong Ye Chang? Gongye Chang is a man who has been in jail. You see, he's been sentenced. Confucius is very wise, you don't look at him as having spent time in jail, but this man has a good character, good learning, and spending time in jail is not his personal fault. Therefore, he was going to make this student his son-in-law. Later, his niece was also going to marry, Mr. Kong was very interesting, and again he chose himself, and helped her to choose one of his own students, called Nangong Xie, and helped her to find another one. So how did Confucius come to choose for his daughter and niece? It's not directly stated in the Analects, but the Analects tell us how to keep our eyes open and how to recognize people. Well, here's how we look at his wisdom.

Confucius said, one is "see", two is "view", three is "check", together is "see", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view", "view" and "view". "The first is "vision", the second is "view", the third is "inspection", together is "view", "view", "view", "inspect", "inspect", then "view" what is it? "What does it mean to "see its so"?

The first one, it is very important, you have to understand this person, you will see this person always with which group of people, great ah!

The first;

The second? "Observe the reason", the second one is to observe that person he in order to achieve a certain purpose, he used what means, what way, awesome!

The third one, called "to detect their security". What does it mean to "check his security"? You go to the examination of this person his heart to rest in what place, his heart in what he was thinking, what he rested in the heart.

These three we have mastered, you want to examine a person, all examined out.

Let's take an example, female compatriots to find a boyfriend, I do not look at his other, I first look at his old and which group of people together, you secretly observe. If your boyfriend is always with the gentleman, always come here to listen to the lecture, he will be wrong? He's not wrong. Would he be wrong if he loves to learn? Your boyfriend if always go to eat, drink, whore and gamble, taboo, never.