How can you control the fear of death that small children develop?

What are the ways to control this kind of thinking?　　Li Zixun: In fact, 4-6 year old children's thinking about death is the first stage of life, there are three stages of life thinking about death, starting at the age of 5, the child is particularly fearful, the child will say a lot of silly things, mom and dad do not want to die, you die, what do I do. Generally at that time, the concept of death cannot be resolved, he simply does not understand. Or why the concept of death comes to mind? It is observed from the death of small animals, at this time the mother and father do not worry, the child perceives death at this stage, the parents do some childlike explanation, do not use the eyes of adults to explain. Maybe when the child reaches the age of six or seven, due to the learning task, the worry about death, the fear of darkness, the fear of loneliness will be submerged down, and he doesn't have the energy to think about it.　　Li Zixun: By the age of fifteen or sixteen, death will interfere with human development for the second time, and at that time it is deeper than that, the fear of getting a disease, whether he will get AIDS or not, whether he will be able to go to war if he sees a war scene and dies. A child at 15 or 16 faces heavy studies, including social interactions, but the concept of death will come out a second time. Until he is 55 years old, all the time has suppressed the thinking about death. When he is 55 or 60 years old and facing retirement, he will rethink about death at that time, and once the concept of death is regarded by him as a natural phenomenon in his life, he will suddenly have different ideals about life, and he will cherish life very much.　　Li Zixun: Why don't many people treasure their health? It is because they were unable to face it when they were young. If a child is afraid of death, you can explain to him that you don't have to talk about it so y, and that it is a natural phenomenon. There is renewal in everything, when a beautiful puppy passes away, a new dog will come out, balance life and death, let the child feel that there is the joy of life along with the fear of death, but don't do the explanation, what is death a thing. Foreign western society says there is a heaven, not to die, but to get to heaven. But many of our mothers and fathers nowadays also guide their children in this way, the death of grandma no longer suffers, religious concepts are like this. All can be guided, this time do not deal with complex thinking about death, no use, will only bring the child a lot of confused concepts, that is, playful dissolution of the past can be.　　Yang Fengchi: There is another attitude that can be mentioned, almost all people have a fear of death, and it is a normal phenomenon to have a fear of death. A small child is afraid of death, and an adult is also afraid of death. Mr. Li and I are also afraid of death, and if everyone is afraid, then the child's saying that he is afraid, we should first of all recognize its reasonableness. If we accept that the child is afraid of death, the child accepts that he or she is afraid of death. The child accepts this emotion in himself and it has less effect on him. In addition, from the perspective of psychoanalytic psychology, human individuals who are usually particularly afraid of death are likely to have suffered from inappropriate traumatic experiences of separation, such as suddenly waking up to the absence of mom and dad, and shouting that they are not coming back. For example, if mom or dad suddenly runs away because grandparents are sick and locks him up in a house, or takes him to the mall or a public **** place, and accidentally or loses him, and when the child realizes that his parents are gone, he is surrounded by strangers, and the child is so small that he feels he can't live without his parents. This obligatory forced and sudden reaction to separation can cause him to feel the fear of being isolated from other people. Fear of death is pathological or not the norm Fear of death is often related to one's past traumatic experiences.　　Fengchi Yang: Every parent should take care that their children are well taken care of when they are young and not neglected or unintentionally abandoned. Children who feel this way have a much stronger fear of death than other children.　　Li Zixun: As a basic human emotion, fear is the basic emotion. A lot of fear is directed toward death, or being hurt, fear is a primitive emotion, including loneliness, the source of loneliness is mainly who I am, who I should be considered, he has no sense of belonging. When there is no sense of belonging, loneliness will envelop him, why do people have to fight for social identity in society, loneliness forces people to keep searching for meaning in society. Fear comes from insecurity, death, and being hurt. Fear and death are inescapable, and no matter how much psychologists try to help it, it won't go away, and it will stay with you from life to death.　　Li Zixun: You perceive that you are alone, all cultural construction is to escape from loneliness, desperately doing things I forget that I am alone. A lot of human development comes from the fear of loneliness, because of escaping loneliness, not letting yourself feel lonely go and do something messy, of course there are good things. From an early age, make your child realize that you can't escape it, you just have to accept it be aware of it and deal with it.