What are the four great blessings and four great misfortunes in life?

1. Teenagers lost their parents.

2. Widowed in middle age

3. Losing your only child in old age

Few children have no good teachers.

The four great misfortunes in life are:

1.

Meet old friends in another country

3. Candle Night

4. Four blessings when nominating the Golden List:

"Zengguang Xianwen" lists "a long drought meets rain, an old friend is met in another country, the wedding night is spent, and when the gold list is nominated." Four blessings, life is rare. If these four blessings are lucky enough to come, it's really hard to say. Not to mention the envy and pursuit of the ancients, even today, not everyone may be lucky enough to take it in. It is not so much the envy and pursuit of the ancients, but rather a kind of desire, hope, prayer and longing to some extent.

Some of these four blessings are not rare, such as Wedding Night. If it weren't for extreme poverty, serious illness or some special reason, people would have the opportunity and possibility to marry a man and a woman all their lives, and almost all of them would have that exciting night, which they would never forget. "Meeting an old friend in a foreign land" and "meeting the rain after a long drought" can be met more or less in one's life, but that "being the first time" is the luck that everyone can hardly work hard to get.

It is not difficult to see that the four blessings mentioned by ancient sages are aimed at ordinary people except "long drought meets rain".

Let's start with "wedding night". Under the circumstances at that time, ordinary people obeyed feudal ethics, kept their distance, and had little freedom to fall in love. Unmarried men and women can't meet casually even if they are engaged, and there is almost no phenomenon of unmarried cohabitation. Most of them don't know how big their husbands and wives look at the moment when they lift the big red veil, let alone have premarital sex. Therefore, it makes sense to list the wedding night as one of the four blessings. How can the most unforgettable night in life be a blessing?

The second is "meeting an old friend in another country." At that time, the level of productivity was low, technology was underdeveloped, transportation and communication were extremely inconvenient, and few people left their homes and wandered around. It is rare for people like Xu Xiake to have money to travel all his life. Under such circumstances, it is very gratifying to meet a fellow villager or acquaintance in a foreign country or other provinces far from home. It can be said that whether you are near or not, people in your hometown will be filled with tears when they see your hometown. This is, of course, a blessing.

The third is "doing it for the first time". Only "being the first time" is quite difficult. To get this honor, you need more than sincerity, diligence, hard work, diligence and hard work. This is closely related to everyone's talent and intelligence. Only those scholars with high talent and hard work are expected to be on the gold list. Just like today's college entrance examination, those who can get into Tsinghua of Peking University or Harvard, Cambridge and Oxford are, after all, very few, the elite, the essence and the outstanding among the students. Of these four blessings, being the first is really dependent on your own ability and level. Generally speaking, others can't help him, money can't help him, and the relationship is difficult to control. It all depends on his own strength. Of course, it is not excluded that there are cheaters in ancient and modern scientific research, but that is an alternative situation after all, a few or very few. If you are on the list, you may be the best of the four blessings.

The fourth is "a long drought brings rain." This sentence is not difficult to understand, but some people have another explanation, saying that husband and wife meet after a long separation. This article is literally said by the former. This drought, this long-awaited thirst-quenching rain, is undoubtedly a life-saving rain for thirsty people, crops and livestock. How can it not be a great joy and blessing?

Four great misfortunes:

Teenagers lose their parents, middle-aged people lose their spouses, old people lose their only children, and few children have no good teachers.

In Mai's Four Poems of Rong Zhai: Proud and Frustrated, he summed up "the mourning of the widow, the general being captured by the enemy, falling out of favor with the tears of the ladies-in-waiting, and the heart of the son" as four sorrows. Whenever people think about this, they are not only sad, but also unspeakable.