Women's thinking-"knowing people, being kind and resisting blows", is committed to the new realm of those who enter the game.

2065438+Autumn of 2009,1Jin Zhiying, a Korean film born in 982, was released. The story frame of this film is based on real events. After reading it, we will find that Jin Zhiying is the epitome of some women in China. Influenced by the Confucian culture in East Asia for a long time, "the man is the master outside, and the woman is the master inside" is solidified in the family dogma. In the film, Jin Zhiying also gave up her job because of her family, became a full-time mother, and suffered from mental illness. Why did Jin Zhiying get sick? Is it really because of your body? I think the real cause is the long-standing family and social rules for women.

With the passage of time, women began to rush out of traditional ideas, and more and more women entered the workplace; Although women hold up half the sky now, there is still prejudice against women in the workplace. They are often asked how to balance family and career, and they are often asked about getting married and having children when looking for a job. Nowadays, the society looks at equality between men and women on the surface, but it imprisons women's souls in a corner where they can't break free.

However, changing the status quo depends not on others, but on ourselves. We can fully understand women's way of thinking, avoid bad women's thinking, give full play to women's thinking advantages and change women's situation in the workplace.

Before we understand women's thinking, let's first understand what thinking is.

Thinking is initially a process of generalization and indirect reaction of human brain to things by means of language. It explores and discovers the intrinsic relationship and regularity of things, which is an advanced stage of cognitive process.

As the name implies, women's thinking is the attribute, ability and process of women's logical deduction with their minds.

In primitive society, because women are not as strong as men, women are mainly responsible for collecting and educating future generations, relying on perceptual thinking; Men mainly go out hunting and need very rational thinking to judge when to start throwing their own traps and when to shoot their own sharp spears accurately to raise their female spouses and offspring.

Hundreds of millions of years of development, because of the different physiological structure, social division of labor, identity positioning, thinking is also different.

Simply put:

Male thinking = problem-solving thinking = rational thinking

Female thinking = emotional thinking = perceptual thinking

Male thinking is suitable for solving problems and contradictions, while female thinking is suitable for dealing with interpersonal relationships. The advantage of men's thinking is that they have a strong sense of purpose and direction, and their mission must be achieved. However, the implementation is often too radical, only thinking about how to order everyone to act immediately, without understanding the importance of cooperation and maintaining the relationship network; However, women are born with affinity and strong empathy. Although they are easily entangled, their mode of action is gentle.

There is no right or wrong between the two ways of thinking, mainly different; For women's thinking, if we seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, and make full use of our advantages, we will certainly be able to by going up one flight of stairs in the workplace.

1, self-limited-defined since childhood

Girls have been defined since childhood, what you should and should not do; In the workplace, people usually define what women should not do and what they can't have.

Today's modern women should break this inherent thinking. As long as you like and are willing, you can also engage in any major and any occupation through your own study and efforts.

For example, Zhang Weili, a mixed martial arts athlete who defeated a Polish star some time ago and successfully defended the UFC champion, is what she is today because she doesn't think fighting is a sport that only men can play. She said in an interview with the media: "Women should not be defined."

A few years ago, The Full Moon Blossomed That Year, which was broadcasted on the screen, told the story of Zhou Ying, the richest woman in Shaanxi Province, who lost her husband and aborted, and her life was blocked. She didn't think that women shouldn't go to sea, so she bravely took over her husband's business and spread it from Jingyang Town to the whole country. The contact she knew changed from a servant around her to a celebrity of the Chamber of Commerce, and another Zhou Ying was born again.

What men can have, women can have; For example, money, power and profit may sound masculine to many women, but those who have experienced the workplace will find that these are the necessities that can really influence themselves and change the world.

For example, last year's "Everything is Fine", Su Mingyu was unfairly treated by her family's "preference for sons over daughters" since she was a child, and she had to do all the housework. She was also asked to give up the dream of Tsinghua for her two brothers and go to a normal school free of tuition. From then on, Su Mingyu cut off the relationship with his family and worked to make money, thus meeting a master who changed his destiny. After years of hard work, Su Mingyu has finally become more independent and powerful, with the right to have money and the right to speak in the face of the company's business; I am more confident in the face of trivial matters at home.

If women have no power, money and influence, how can they talk about fairness and justice? As a woman, we should also treat "money power" in a neutral way, and never think that it does not belong to women.

In fact, every era has a group of "special" women who seem to be out of tune with the background of the times. They have their own life logic and values, and live outside the public eye, but they have become role models for women.

Therefore, as a woman, instead of living in a world defined by others, it is better to break the restrictions and live the true self.

2, often self-sacrifice-put others first.

As can be seen from the data, it is really difficult for working women in China. They not only have to go through hardships in the workplace, but also bear gender discrimination and age prejudice against women. When they get home, they have to do all the housework, cook and take care of the children.

Papi sauce tells the order of life in a program. She said that she should boldly put herself first, which also caused a lot of public opinion at that time. Many people may think this is a very selfish performance. If you have children, of course, you should be child-centered. However, children don't need you so much in life. In their long life, they need an interesting, intelligent and respected mother as a role model for women. Whether boys or girls, even after our death, they still need their calm and powerful mother as their guide.

As mentioned at the beginning of the movie1Jin Zhiying born in 1982, family and career are ordinary. After they married their husband Dae-hyun Jung, they lived a quiet life. After marriage, they had a daughter, and Jin Zhiying resigned to stay at home as a housewife. Everything seems to be fine, but leaving the workplace for a long time has caused her to suffer from postpartum depression, and she will be "possessed" by different people from time to time.

Where have you been in the movie Bernadette? Bernadette was originally a talented female architect. She gave up her career and moved to Seattle with her successful husband. In Bernadette's family, she and her husband have the same career ability, but only women can make sacrifices to achieve family balance, which seems unfair and causes her pain.

If you are eager to return to the workplace, don't sacrifice yourself; As a professional woman, we should never try to monopolize all family affairs bravely. You can discuss with your family and cooperate with each other, which is more conducive to your child's growth and your own development.

Many times, women's self-sacrifice is not the best way to solve problems. Sometimes you can get a happy ending without self-sacrifice.

3, often self-denial-lack of confidence, demanding perfection.

Dr. marshall Goldsmith, the most expensive executive coach in the world, pointed out 12 bad habits that hinder the rise of women in the workplace in his book "Being a woman in the workplace", which mentioned that women often "lack confidence" and "demand perfection".

This is because women's perceptual thinking, which has been cultivated since ancient times, often likes to pay attention to details and carries too much, resulting in no energy to look at problems from a macro perspective. At the same time, it will also bring great pressure to colleagues, and your personality will become negative because you only pay attention to shortcomings.

I once saw a netizen say: My leader has worked in our company for 10 years. Now we are the same age. She is actually very motivated and eager, but she is a perfectionist. Since what happened to us, the company leaders and employees can't find anything wrong with her. She is not very satisfied with the present situation. We all know that there is no absolute perfection, and people often deliberately modify or pursue the perfection of one thing. In the process of pursuing perfection, some people's achievements, opportunities or affirmations are also sacrificed. This is unfair in the workplace and has lost its perfect meaning. Because this perfect result process may not be perfect for some people.

For another example, Zhou Ying, the richest woman in Shaanxi mentioned earlier, was careless and informal since childhood, and often paid more attention to the overall situation in the process of doing business; Even in this process, she has always believed that she can break through obstacles and difficulties, expand her business and never deny herself.

In fact, as long as you live on the earth, there is no such thing as perfection, so don't deny yourself and don't be too demanding of perfection.

Perhaps many women have discovered their own mode of thinking, but they often feel overwhelmed and don't know how to avoid it. According to the suggestions given by working women and my own thinking, I summarized the following methods:

First of all, we must have the belief of change. If you find it difficult to change, you can find an ally to supervise each other, or choose the right object to supervise.

Then, learn the mode of "outsider thinking", pull away from yourself, examine your own thoughts and write them down: what restrictions have I set for myself, have I sacrificed myself at home and in the workplace, and in what ways have I denied myself; Classify the problems that need supervision in detail, pay attention to only one change at a time, step by step, and set clear goals that are not too high.

Women's thinking has both advantages and disadvantages. By observing and consulting a large number of materials, this paper summarizes three advantages of female thinking for your reference, which can play a role in your work and build your core competitiveness.

Advantage one

Networking ability: Good at interpersonal emotional links, cross-border integration, and coordinated communication.

A woman with network awareness can make full use of her good interpersonal and emotional connection, cross-border integration, coordination and communication, coordination of all complicated affairs and communication with different people.

Although most women have strong interpersonal skills, I don't know if you have found that many women are not good at giving play to this advantage at work. Many women feel embarrassed when they need contacts at work to find opportunities and seek benefits for themselves. However, although most men are not as good as women in terms of contacts, as long as they can establish contacts, they will certainly seize the opportunity to make full use of relationship resources.

So, don't feel embarrassed, and boldly play your networking skills at work. The exchange of interests between them is itself the driving force of communication. If there is no exchange of interests, the relationship is dead. Therefore, relationships are all used. Relationship is a kind of resource, you can use it if you like, and others will use it without it!

Advantage two

* * * Emotional ability: strong empathy and influence.

When there are contradictions at work, women tend to be guided by "harmony is the most important" and pay more attention to feelings and emotions than men. Being good at empathy, rather than blindly asking the other party to obey, having empathy and influence will give women extra points on the road to promotion.

Generally speaking, women can actively listen to what colleagues or subordinates are saying. A man usually concentrates on his own work task, and he won't notice the other person's emotional changes. Even if there is, it will feel too melodramatic.

In this hurried era, if someone in the workplace is willing to listen to others' feelings and moods with an inclusive eye, this feeling of being cared for will be very good, and they can establish deep trust and cooperation and become mutually recognized partners.

For women, they are more patient, more able to feel each other's emotions, and can have a sense of empathy with each other. This ability will make women more influential in the team, and even form an invisible and non-power influence in the organization, commonly known as "high prestige of the masses."

Advantage three

Frustration ability: meticulous and comprehensive, with strong toughness and endurance.

Women in the workplace can often find problems effectively. Generally, women are meticulous and thoughtful, and they can pay attention to details in their work, so it is easier to find the key to the problem. Moreover, women's observation ability is also relatively strong, and they can always see what men ignore. Although we can't be too demanding of perfection, we can't ignore the details too much. Sometimes one detail may lead to the failure of the whole project.

May be due to the mother's nature and patience in October and the long pregnancy process. Women usually don't treat people and things as rigidly as men, and they are very resilient. At the same time, they have strong endurance and are good at fighting protracted wars. This feature makes women more persistent, can always focus on a certain field and cultivate deeply for a long time, and eventually become an expert, instead of repeatedly switching wheels to be a "panacea" like waiting for the fetus to grow up little by little in the stomach.

Humans are always unable to have a clear understanding of themselves, and often do not realize their own advantages. We can also write down our advantages in the second part. If we don't know, we can also ask people around us: What are my unique advantages? What are the areas suitable for your long-term development?

With these direction lights, it will play a very important role in our future career choice and career growth.

This paper summarizes three aspects: what is female thinking, the difference between female thinking and male thinking, the disadvantages of female thinking, how to avoid them, the advantages of female thinking and how to give full play to them.

Although the struggle for women in the workplace is still very difficult, as Hua Tuo said, we should not live up to the opportunities given to women in this era; The biggest dividend of this era is that most people are not ready for the rise of women. Take them by surprise!

Research shows that women's thinking can better adapt to the era of artificial intelligence, but if women want to remain competitive, they must keep learning and throw themselves into the game. I believe that through their own efforts, they can avoid the disadvantages of women's thinking, give full play to their advantages, think like men, act like women, and continue to build their own brands, so that no matter what era comes, women will be competitive in the workplace.