Ezhou Traditional Folk Custom and Its Implied Culture

The most important thing is how to discuss between the two families, as long as both sides agree not to hold a banquet.

The following is Baidu's, you can refer to it.

First of all, your parents must give her money when she comes to your house for the first time.

Then there is the "toll" or door-to-door fee you mentioned, that is, when you go to her house, all her relatives will come to his house to hold drinks that day. Keeping his relatives waiting to see you is equivalent to getting engaged. This cost is very big and important. You should give it to his mother. As for how much, it depends, but generally the more the more glorious. At least 10000. This money is very important.

Then she officially comes to your house, usually in the same trade, such as brothers and sisters, and all your relatives will come over for a drink. Your father or mother will give money to relatives who accompany her. Everyone, such as her brother and sister, must go out of 500 yuan at least. Don't worry, the money will be paid back to you later. At the same time, your relatives will also give you money, usually not much.

After this process is over, it's money's turn to get married.

After marriage, according to the rules, we should go to her house one by one and go to her relatives' house to "make up gifts" during the Chinese New Year holiday. Actually, it doesn't cost much, but it's complicated. Running around is very tiring.

Tired of coping. But the specific situation should be dealt with in detail. You should ask his family, mainly her mother, to see which relatives are "walking" in her family. (The dialect here means relatives who come and go frequently. ) They are mainly close. You should do some shopping during the Spring Festival. Her mother said that all relatives who "left" should leave. But generally you don't need to buy some cigarettes, wine or fruit. I really can't go. Ask her mother, because her parents are here, and it's not your turn to urge some relatives. Don't care too much about this. Just ask her mother before the festival. Some of them can be exempted.

By the way, when I go to her relatives' house for the first time, I have to "send" money, that is, I usually give it to their children. This is not much, 100 200 will do. Remember that when you go for the first time, no matter which one you go to, you must keep your word. This is a custom. Maybe her family conditions are not good, and so are you.

After you get married, their relatives will invite you to his house for a formal dinner according to the rules. They will also give you money to be a son-in-law. Generally, relatives don't give much, but if they are close relatives of her family, such as her brother and sister's, they should give you no less than 500. If the family is poor, it may be less.

Similarly, if you get married, your relatives will invite you home for dinner one by one. At this time, your relatives want to give money to your new wife, generally according to the depth of the relationship.

After marriage, when both relatives have left, these aspects are basically over. In the future, when she meets an important festival, she can buy some gifts and visit her relatives.

Every family is different. Some parents are very face-saving and care about this, especially those with many relatives and rural areas.

In fact, her mother will tell her and she will ask you. (Many times, whether her mother asks you directly or she asks you, there are actually plans. At this time, you should try not to understand. Let her family arrange everything.