Reasons for the poorly ordered pattern of worldliness

1. Limited capacity of actors. According to the judgment of sympathy and behavioral appropriateness, the main reason why our concern for the well-being of others exhibits a differential pattern is the limited capacity of human beings, which leads to a sympathetic understanding of the welfare of others confined to a certain range, that is, the range of one's own familiarity.

2. Reciprocity is a universal principle of human interaction. Reciprocity is an important basis for people's concern for the well-being of others, and concern for the well-being of others is really still motivated by concern for their own interests.

3. The need to weave one's own safety net. The compelling need for a social support and safety and security system prompts people to help each other in a small way, **** together to resist risks and safeguard their personal safety.

Fei Xiaotong believes that Western society's interpersonal relationships are like bundles of firewood, a few into a handful, a few into a tie, a few into a bundle, into a group state, belonging to a clear, clear boundaries; while the Chinese vernacular society's interpersonal relationships is the kinship as the main axis of the network relationship, is a poorly ordered pattern, the boundaries of the fuzzy, and the "stretching free! ". Specifically, it has the following four main points:

First, the differential pattern is centered on each person himself;

Second, the size of the differential pattern depends on one's social influence;

Third, the differential pattern varies with time and place;

Fourth, there are affinities and deffinities between one's self and others in the differential pattern.

The differential order pattern is closely related to the concept of "Lun" in traditional Chinese Confucian culture. Confucianism talks about human relationships, Lun is the differential order; Confucius "good push only", from himself to the world is a circle to push out; son said: "for the administration of virtue, such as the North Star, living in its place, and all the stars arch of the", this is exactly the differential order pattern of the metaphor, he is always the center, all the other people rotate with him. others rotate with him.

The pattern of differential order not only exists in the reality of life in the vernacular society, but is also embedded in traditional Chinese culture, reflecting some of the basic concepts of traditional culture.