Will a marriage arranged by parents be happy?

In the old society, most marriages in China were arranged, and all they said were the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. The so-called arranged marriage is that the matchmaker proposes this marriage and the parents decide the object for their children. On the wedding day, the man holds the red cloth over the woman's head, and both parties will know who their lover is, what he looks like and how his temper is. Whether you are willing to accept each other at that time or not, you must spend your life with this person (he or she). Arranged marriages disappeared after liberation. The most famous Ju Ping's "Little Black Marriage" tells the story that Er Qiao pushed aside the object decided by his parents and found the right one himself. People think that marriage in free union is happy, which is the beauty and difference between the new society and the old society. That sounds like it. Actually, it's not. When I played the game of marriage, I realized that love and marriage are two different things. Free love before marriage is called love, and getting along after marriage is called marriage. Free love only satisfies the love feelings of men and women for a short time before marriage, but not necessarily for a long time after marriage. Arranged marriage sounds terrible, but it is actually a responsible attitude and practice for marriage. The reason why it can last for so many years must be reasonable and can't be attributed to feudal thought. Think about it carefully: 1, parents are experienced people and have experience in judging people and things. Marriage emphasizes family, rationality and reality, and emphasizes growing old together. Parents must choose a partner for their children with a very responsible attitude, because they will also come here and will consider the family, future, appearance, figure and so on. Will not push the child into the fire pit (except for some interests and purposes of individual parents). Therefore, the object that parents choose for their children is more suitable for their long-term marriage. Not allowing children to choose freely only saves the pursuit of external things when men and women meet, and external things are often deceptive. Passionate love does not necessarily lead to a good marriage life. Young people are inexperienced and thoughtless about free love, so there are many contradictions after marriage and they will not last long. 2. Arranged marriages are all suitable and have the same appearance, which is too important for maintaining marriage. It sounds terrible for men and women to meet on their wedding day, because they are afraid of each other's ugliness, but in fact they generally don't. If you are good at everything, your parents will find you a good partner. If you are ugly, your parents can't find you a flower. Even if your parents agree, their parents won't do it. So they are suitable for each other and avoid a lot of troubles such as jealousy, paranoia and discrimination in the future. It is a rational choice that parents can make. Young people themselves may not understand this truth. Climbing high or trying to look good will not lead to good results. 3. Arranged marriage is marriage before love, sex before affection. When men and women meet on the wedding day, they may be a little uncomfortable, and they may be a little reluctant to give their bodies to the person in front of them. But once you get married, you can't change it. At this time, sex is very tempting, especially for young people. Under the trend of desire, they will accept people who are dissatisfied with their appearance, but in fact they are ok in all aspects. Sex makes both men and women have a strong love, making the content of marriage even more unforgettable. So you can stay married for a long time. Imagine that at the moment when the veil is lifted, the strange and fresh fantasy and speculation mixed with emotion and sex is not necessarily a kind of happiness and happiness. Hahaha, it's easy for me to speak standing. 4, free love marriage is to get along with love and sex first, and then ask to maintain it forever. Nowadays, when young people fall in love, they soon get into the substance. Some have been in love since middle school. After eight years of marriage, they have lost their feelings. They often get married for the sake of getting married. There is no fresh love and no fresh sexual content after marriage. Although you can fall in love freely, you can't talk about happiness after marriage. In the long run, it is easy to talk about happiness. Long-term love has exhausted feelings, and the solidified feelings and sex of two people have also been used up. The rest is to grow old together. How much perseverance does it take to restrain new desires and temptations? How can you grow old completely by reason? So the divorce rate of modern people is getting higher and higher. Free love and arranged marriage are two different things. In fact, freedom of love only allows freedom before marriage, but this freedom will produce many hidden dangers after marriage. Because love and marriage are not the same thing, I say that arranged marriage is not necessarily a bad thing. Modern people confuse these two issues, thinking that free love and marriage are perfect, but they don't know that while pursuing freedom before marriage, they ignore the long-term marriage. It is impossible to advocate arranged marriage in today's society, so I want to warn young people that partners should not be too long, not too complicated with each other, and it is best not to have sexual content. Maintaining each other's innocence and leaving some fresh contents for marriage are the secrets and medicines to maintain a long-term marriage.