A middle-aged woman’s awakening: After getting divorced, she learned what is a woman’s best trump card?

Most marriages are incomplete and not beautiful.

Women who watch too many romantic dramas will become stupid.

Women who believe in romantic dramas will become greedy.

Being stupid and greedy is destined to be a tragedy in the end. I am such an example, and once I wake up, I am already middle-aged.

Only after entering a marriage do people feel that this place is different from what they imagined, and it is different from what they expected before. They argue and complain every day. In the end, domestic violence, cheating, cold violence, deception, etc. appear in the marriage.

We need to realize that there is no such thing as a marriage that has sexual life, financial ability, understanding, and time for each other at the same time.

The sooner you step out of your sweet dreams, the sooner you will be grounded.

The earlier you are grounded, the earlier you will bear all the hardships of reality.

Women who don’t have the ability can only endure it.

1. Divorced women can only be strong. After my divorce, the shadow in my heart was very strong. It will take some time to get out of the shadow of divorce.

When you feel that the shadow of divorce is not so strong, it is time for you to be strong. You must be busy, do things, enrich yourself, and drive this shadow out of your life.

Many people know the good or bad state after divorce. All you have to do is do what you think is right, insist on doing it, and force yourself to do it, so that you can get out of the shadow of divorce earlier.

The worries of divorced women are: afraid that no one will want me in the future, afraid that others will say bad things about me, and afraid that it will be difficult to live alone? However, the more you care about these, the more painful it will be. As long as you are yourself

, how could no one want it?

Even if no one wants it, so what, a person can live well alone.

We don’t expect love and marriage to teach you to be strong, you have to learn to be strong yourself.

No matter before and after love, before and after breakup, before and after marriage, before and after divorce, you must always learn to be strong.

Being strong is not only needed at a certain stage, but is needed all the time. You must be strong by your side at all times.

The so-called strength is actually more of a kind of willpower and a kind of courage that radiates from the inside out.

The best way to cultivate a strong mentality is to insist on doing the right things, doing things that are good for you, and hold on.

2. When a woman is divorced, awakening is the only way. I recalled every bit of the previous years, replaying them in my mind like a movie, and it was very heartbreaking.

The reason why my husband divorced me was initially because of communication problems. He said he couldn't get any warmth or care from me.

Later, when something happened, he rarely told me.

Later, he fell in love with going to bars and drinking to vent the troubles he encountered in life and work.

It was at that time that he met a girl.

My husband said that this girl understands him, cares about him, and is his intimate person.

Eventually, the husband and the girl got together.

He said that regardless of whether he would marry that girl, at least he felt happier with her.

It’s hard for me to understand how my husband of eight years could bear to divorce me for the sake of a girl I’d only known for a few months.

But the past remains in the past. From this moment on, you must pat the dirt on your body and move forward bravely.

No matter how bumpy and muddy the road ahead is, we must be fearless and keep going.

Because at this time, I have no time left for the rest of my life. Let me heal slowly. I only hope that in the long time to come, I can learn to love myself and please myself.

As for love and marriage, they are hard to come by, and everything depends on fate.

Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.

When a woman wakes up and understands what this sentence means, happiness may slowly begin again.

3. Women should be independent before and after marriage. Loving themselves is the last trump card for women after divorce. Independence is the support for men to love themselves in marriage, and it is also the foundation for standing in society after divorce.

Money is not an important factor for a woman to live a good life, but it must be an indispensable condition. If a woman has the ability to make money on her own, she will always have her own confidence no matter what she does.

In today's society, we all shout that women should be independent, their status should be improved, and we want women's rights.

But all this is based on women's economic independence.

The independence of concepts and thoughts we advocate requires economic support.

A woman must at least have the capital to support herself. No matter how much love you have or how much someone loves you, financial independence will always be your best weapon. You don’t have to wrong yourself for money, and you don’t have to please others for money.

Being financially independent for a woman is not only a wake-up call to be prepared, but also a strong support point to give herself enough confidence.