A poem about the exchange of tokens between men and women.

1. Ancient friends had the custom of giving gifts to each other. For example, poetry hairpin, also known as catching the head, is a common token for ancient women to express their love.

It also symbolizes the dignity of the "main room". Zhou Xuanwang's "Ginger" has a good story of "Refusing to pay taxes and persuading politics": it is about neglecting state affairs. In order to persuade him, Queen Jiang retired her hair and knelt down in Yongxiang, expressing her guilt. Zhou Xuanwang was ashamed and tried to cure the country.

"Advocating Songs and Thinking" wrote that a woman carefully made a hair clasp for a distant lover. After hearing that her lover had another love, she burned the hair clasp to show her determination not to be a mistress again. Sachet sachet, also known as sachet and flower sachet, is wrapped with silk thread and a variety of fragrant Chinese herbal medicines are put into the bag.

In the pre-Qin period, young people wore woven sachets to show their respect when they met their parents and elders. Because sachets are personal belongings, lovers often give them to each other as gifts.

In A Dream of Red Mansions, Daiyu gave Baoyu a sachet. Later, she misunderstood that he gave it to someone else. In a rage, she cut the one she was making, but she didn't know that Baoyu was already wearing it. The little girl in love is on the page.

In literary works and film and television works, we often see sentences about skirts. In particular, the phrase "Under the pomegranate skirt ..." has almost become an immortal sentence.

In ancient times, women liked to decorate their skirts to support their love. Roparopa is a relatively private thing, which was used to convey feelings in ancient times and has an indescribable lingering meaning.

"There was a woman with a handkerchief in her hand and a sly smile on her face." I miss that woman, standing in the middle of the flowers, winking at her through the erratic angle of the handkerchief, which not only hides the embarrassment of grinning, but also adds a little charm and makes people feel pity. Many places in the ancient court of Jade Ruyi will display Ruyi for the queen to enjoy.

In addition, ruyi is also a token. The emperor chooses concubines, and the emperor takes the wishful thinking and awards it to the woman he likes. Ruyi is still a noble gift in the palace.

Whenever the emperor ascended the throne, the queen's birthday and other festive days, princes and ministers should offer their blessings to the queen. Xin Qiji, a famous poet of Chai Zi, said in "Late Spring in Zhu Yingtai": "Treasure chai is divided, peach leaves are horizontal, and Nanpu is dark." Wood is not only a single ornament, but also a symbol of love.

In ancient times, there was a custom of saying goodbye between lovers or husband and wife. A woman divides her hair into two parts, half for each other and the other half for herself, and they are reunited when they meet again. Bracelet Bracelet has many names in ancient times, such as "jump".

In ancient literary works, fairies often give bracelets to their lovers. In Empresses in the Palace, Tao Hongjing described that the sepals and green flowers of the fairy gave Yang Jinyu the right to jump.

In Pu Songling's "Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio", there is also a scholar, Wu Shengou, who enters the fairyland and has a wonderful time with the purple fairy. When she leaves, the fairy gives her bracelet to him as a souvenir. Yu Pei "The beauty of jade is like the virtue of a gentleman."

In ancient China, jade was a symbol of a gentleman. A gentleman pays attention to respecting peace and harmony, and warm and distant love conforms to the meaning of jade.

Therefore, the elegant and calm modest gentlemen in ancient times all like to use jade as a token of their love. They are temperate and polite, neither impatient nor alienated. There are many customs of mutual gifts, which are limited by the number of words for your reference.

In ancient times, men and women usually made love, one-on-one kind. What kind of tokens are they? Male to female 1, arm wrapped in gold "why boxing?" "Double gold rings with ten thousand arms" and "Double gold rings with ten thousand arms" refer to armbands, also known as arm-wrapped gold, which is a decoration that ancient women in China wrapped around their arms. Gold and silver bars are wound into spiral circles, and the number of circles varies, usually three to eight, but also as many as twelve or thirteen.

The secret of wrapping gold around your arm is that no matter from which angle you look, you can see several rings that are unrelated to each other, just like wearing several bracelets. Although Su Dongpo's poem "Cold Ware" is about a kind of food called prickly heat, in the poem, "Sleeping at night in spring is thicker than wine, and beauty holds gold.

"This sentence is more reminiscent of a woman wearing an arm wrapped in gold, which brings out a little intoxicating charm in a deep sleep, which also shows the effect of ancient women's arm support. Zhu, a poetess in the Southern Song Dynasty, wrote in Farewell: Zhu and powder are always unintentionally mixed, and it is difficult to feel cold when the arm is golden.

Don't haggard after a big fight, thinking that love hasn't reached this kind of affection. In the Southern Song Dynasty, when Neo-Confucianism was increasingly imprisoned, Zhu was a woman who dared to break through barriers and enthusiastically pursued personal happiness. This poem expresses her longing for parting from her lover, which makes her thin and haggard day by day, so that her arms are loosened.

It's a pity that she didn't meet the person she missed after all, because the person she loved finally chose to escape, so Zhu had to write "To be sealed, send to the unfortunate south building". He died of depression.

2. Ring "Why are you diligent? The custom of "about a pair of silver" has a long history in China. In the Southern Dynasties, Liu's Different Gardens recorded that people married women in tombs. When she left, she said, "When I see you, I'll give you a pair of rings, tie my belt and walk you out. "When I see the ring, I can expect to see you safely. There is such a record in the explanation of the whole Tang poetry. Poems with Li Zhangwu tells that in the Tang Dynasty, scholar Li Zhangwu fell in love with Wang's son-in-law in Huazhou. When leaving, Wang's son-in-law gave Li Zhangwu a white jade ring and a poem: "Twist the ring and miss it."

May you play forever and endlessly. "Later, when Li Zhangwu went to Iowa, Wang's son-in-law was anxious and the ring was just empty.

Song Liyun's Taiping Guang Ji says that the souls of Li Zhangwu and Wang's son-in-law will be in Wang's house, which should be people's good wishes for the ending of this love. In the late Tang dynasty, rings were gradually given to women by men instead of men, similar to the way Chinese and western rings were given today.

Dai Fan wrote a story about Wei Gao, a scholar, who met and fell in love with Xiao Yu when he was playing in Jiangxia as a child. Wei Gao gave Xiao Yu a jade ring before returning to China and vowed to marry Xiao Yu within five or seven years.

However, seven years later, the hapless Wei Gao never came. Xiao Yu, who is infatuated with love, cried in despair: "Wei Jialang Jun, after seven years, he won't come!" " I starved to death. People sympathized with Xiao Yu's tragedy, so they put the ring given to her by Wei Gao on her middle finger and buried her.

Many years later, Wei Gaoshi prospered and was able to give up who I was, but he learned of Xiao Yu's death. He regretted it, so he practiced extensively and repented of his past ingratitude. Later, someone gave Wei Gao a singer with the same name and appearance as Xiao Yu, and there was a ring of meat on his middle finger. Wei Gaozhi knew Xiao Yu was in the afterlife and returned to his side. The two finally realized the combination of two generations.

Yes or no? For the happiness of lovers in the world, I have to believe it in vain. There is another story, that is, Wei Gao's skill of calling back a teenager's soul met Xiao Yu's soul, which made the modern human body realize the guilt of an ancient spoony woman who broke her word to a thin lover.

After the meeting, Xiao Yu said to Wei Gao when he was leaving: "My husband is fickle and makes people live and die!" Life and death are separated only because of her husband's fickle commitment to feelings! And complaining is actually said with a smile, but it's just so painful to laugh. Thousands of years later, this passage still makes us deeply moved. The fate of ancient women on which human beings depend is destined to be the only way for Yu Di.

Acacia lost in vain, she was still so attached, missing through autumn water. A ring missed her life, and she will wear it in the afterlife without regrets. Because rings are engaged, unsigned women in ancient times did not wear them.

Ding six niang of Sui Dynasty wrote in Ten Poems: "If you want to be a slim hand, take the ring of Langsuo." It may explain the unspeakable feelings of ancient and even modern women about the ring. This token is the smallest, but the heaviest in a woman's heart.

Full of hope, reach out and let the person you love put it on yourself. Then, maybe you will wear it happily for a lifetime, and maybe one day you will cry for it until your heart breaks. 3. Earrings "Why is it just a district?" Two pearls in the ear "The earliest record of China women dressing themselves up with earrings is found in Shan Hai Jing", "A mountain suitable for young women, with a small waist and white teeth and ears pierced with cymbals". "The History of the Three Kingdoms" Zhuge Ke said: "Piercing the ear and penetrating the pearl will cover the ancient generals. "

You can see the fashion of piercing ears since three generations. Earrings are divided into earrings, ear hooks, earrings, earrings and other styles.

In the early Qing Dynasty, Li Daiweng called the small and concise earrings "cloves" and the complicated and gorgeous earrings "twining ropes" in his Essays. Life ". He said that a woman's "one hairpin and one ear can accompany her all her life", which shows that earrings have a very important position in ancient aesthetic concepts.

In the Tang Dynasty, Zhang Ji's "Ode to a Daughter" "Return the tears of the pearl, never get married and never encounter hatred." The "pearl" in the movie refers to earrings.

Is it also because this poem makes people feel sad to take earrings as tokens? At the end of the Yuan Dynasty, Zhang Huilian's poem "On Zhi Zhu" in memory of her late husband must have been written by thinking about things: remembering to pick pearls and buy concubines, combing her hair and inserting eyebrows. Lang, where is my concubine now? I'm afraid to see butterflies flying among the flowers.

4. Why did the sachet knock? The history of sachet has a long history. In ancient times, it was also called sachet, fragrant tassel, sachet, fragrant ball, Pei Wei and purse. The history of ancient people wearing sachets can be traced back to the pre-Qin period. According to the Book of Rites. Internal rules ":"Children are parents and use them around; ..... to suit my parents and aunt. "

In other words, when young people meet their parents and elders, they should wear "tassels", that is, woven sachets, to show their respect. Because sachets are personal items, lovers often give them to each other as gifts to express their love.

During the Anshi Rebellion, Emperor Xuanzong of the Tang Dynasty took Yang Guifei and his party to the west in a hurry, but Ma Yupo's sixth army did not send him, Tang Xuan.

3. Poems about trysts between men and women I live at the head of the river and you live at the end of the river.

Love each other and drink a river.

I take Sichuan to the upper reaches, and you drink Sichuan to the water.

The flow is endless, and each other is sweet.

Cha Sheng Zi Yuan Xi Ouyang Xiu

Last January, the flower market was brightly lit.

The moon rose to the willow tree, and he met me at dusk.

In January this year, the moon and the lights were still there.

See last year, tears Man Chun shirt sleeve.

The thin clouds in the sky are changing, the meteors in the sky convey the sadness of acacia, and the endless galaxy I quietly crossed tonight.

When the golden wind meets the dew, it will win, but there are countless people in the world.

Common complaint against acacia, tender feelings like water, meet each other as if it were a dream, when it is hard to see the bridge.

If two kinds of feelings last for a long time, they are still there, day and night.

Frequent trysts with elegant ladies and gentlemen, fighting and killing. When he said this, he flew away for a while, frowning. Helpless, helpless, two hearts always stay.

From: Banquet Garden Year: Tang Author: Bai Juyi

It's a pity to throw away a happy tryst. Every memory, crazy pursuit of old traces. Long and melancholy. Who should spend money? Explain this mid-range. Tao turns to me, turns to boredom, and dreams are hard to remember. The most important thing is to know, under the romantic, yet I feel the harmonious heart-beat of the Sacred Unicorn. I hope I, Bug Bug, treat people differently and meet them for the first time. Things are getting better and better in spring. There is. Give me a message. Treat Iraq well this time, let alone leave. .

From: Music Requisition Department Year: Song Author: liuyong

Xu can only complain in his heart, but he has also been abducted. See you on the same day at Danxing Wall, and the green window of tryst is all over the floor. The past is clear in the eyes, and the poor dream is hard to rely on. In the old society, they all gave her a poor fate, but today she is heartless. .

From: Qingpingle Year: Song Author: Yan

Once the chicken is dead, it will rest even more if it is reported to be disabled. Make a towel and wash it. Don't say goodbye in the light. The mountain road is dangerous, and the new frost is slippery. Yao Ke rang, the birds got up, the golden stirrups got cold, and the waning moon struck. The western wind is getting tighter and the sleeves are bitter. Pointing at Bai Yujing, I can see the Golden Que. What time does the journey end? What I hate is beauty. Should miss, return to the season. Meet each other, hold soft clothes, have a tryst, and hold fragrant snow. Avoid honeymoon honeymoon, vanity. .

From: Segu Year: Song Author: liuyong

Chang 'an Mozi returned in early spring. Weeping willows dye grass. Singing warblers and whispering swallows reminds me of dawn. It's just a dream, frequent earthquakes. By this time, the brothel was close to the avenue. The place of tryst, the number of feelings between two people. Do not cherish the pearl, take advantage of the young and the old. .

From: Spring Festival Music Year: Song Author: Yan Shu

4. What are the tokens of love between men and women in ancient times? Anything in ancient lovers may become a token of love between two people. A Yu Pei, a bunch of hair, a sachet, and even a bamboo horse used by a boy for fun can all be tokens of love between men and women. Besides, every symbol of love has its reasonable explanation.

Yu Pei is usually a token of affection between cultural people, showing a warm and distant, restrained and polite love. Of course, this needs a certain economic foundation, otherwise in ancient times when materials were scarce, you couldn't even afford a piece of Yu Pei! The sachet is the most commonly used token between lovers, because in the pre-Qin period, the sachet was an item worn by young people every day, and it was convenient for couples to exchange it as a gift.

5. Excuse me, what kind of red beans did ancient men and women plant when they went out with the wind? Before and after the Qingming Festival, the valley breeze was blowing gently and willow leaves were like eyebrows. I can't help but think of the slang that Wenzhou drummers sang, "Go out and plant willows with the wind, and go home with golden apricots."

Wenzhou people have the habit of going out to work and do business. Every year around Tomb-Sweeping Day, in spring and Qingming, they organize their families to go out for business. His family and neighbors all hope that he will succeed in making money and expanding his financial resources elsewhere. Where you plant it like a willow, you will take root there and make a career, with lush leaves. When I go home after autumn, the golden apricots will be full of fruits and red as fire.

Although this is an ancient auspicious greeting, it has enabled millions of Wenzhou talents to start businesses and make money in foreign countries like willows in the north and south of the motherland, inside and outside the Great Wall, and even across the ocean. Countless Wenzhou villages and cities are the portrayal of Wenzhou people planting willows with the wind when they go out, and they are also the pride of Wenzhou people.

Willow is not only the mascot of Wenzhou people, but also the poetic material recited and entrusted by the Chinese nation, which embodies the accumulation of traditional culture in China. The word "willow" of willow is homophonic with the word "willow", which refers to the artistic conception of willow in people's minds to retain guests and relatives.

As early as the Han dynasty, there was a feeling of farewell and hospitality. Sui, Tang and Song Dynasties were more prosperous.

A poem "Farewell" written by an anonymous person in the Sui Dynasty wrote: "The willow green hangs low and the flowers are long and sultry. The wicker is broken and the flowers are flying. Will pedestrians come back? " In the Tang Dynasty, there was a Baqiao bridge on the Bashui River in the east of Chang 'an, which was the only way to Luoyang in the east. Beijing people send guests here as a sign of staying.

So willows were planted on both sides of Bashui. Jiang Lang, a gifted scholar in the Southern Dynasties, once said, "It's just to bid farewell to those who are fascinated." Later generations renamed Baqiao to ecstasy bridge.

Pei Shuo's poem "Willow" in the Tang Dynasty: "Dangerous buildings are high in dust and low in dust, so what can you climb on Baqiao Bridge? Considering that it is a heartless tree, I don't understand it and can only give it away. " Complaining about willows is heartless, and complaining about leaving others is also heartless.

Baling, mistakenly attributed to Li Bai's poem "Qin Yi E", refers to this charming bridge: "Qin Louyue, willow color every year, Baling is sad." It's hard to hold back tears when people leave the bridge to say goodbye.

Shake Goodbye written by Li Shutong, a close friend, is often heard in modern music circles: "The evening wind blows the flute, and the sunset is over the mountain", which also expresses the sadness that friends will break up again after "close friends are separated"! The ancients also regretted and complained about the broken wicker of Fujian tourists. Tang Dunhuang tune in Looking at Jiangnan: "Don't climb me, climbing me is too eccentric. I am a willow tree in Qujiang forest pool. I want to throw it away from that person and love it for a while. "

The poet used willow branches on the banks of the Yangtze River in Yangzhou as the call sign of a geisha with tragic fate. This person folds it away, and that person throws it casually. Love is only temporary. How snobbish it is, it can be described as vivid.

All the above sentences reveal a sad and miserable mood. Or "Ruan Langgui" by Ouyang Zuiweng in the Northern Song Dynasty: "Green plums are like peas and willows, butterflies fly far away" is vivid and lively.

It is attractive and seemingly joyful to write out the cheerful mood of a girl who bathes in spring while enjoying spring. His book "Raw tea leaves the west", "On the willow shoots and the moon, people meet after dusk", reveals the expectation for lovers.

In fact, Wenzhou's "going out to plant willows with the wind" is the most confident, and the spring breeze will be proud and the cause will be successful. Living with the soil is more promising and full of sunshine than attaching to the native land.

Speaking of nostalgia for their homeland, it is no wonder that people in China are affectionate. Because China people have been living a farming life for thousands of years, the homesickness rooted in agricultural production is particularly strong.

As early as 2,500 years ago, in the last chapter of The Book of Songs, Xiaoya Cai Wei, there was a saying, "I have been there, and the willow is the Yi Yi". The veteran, who has been in the war for a long time, recalled that when he went out for the first time, the graceful willow branches in front of the door seemed to be holding hands with him and holding clothes.

Through the image of wicker, it has become a farewell image, and even sublimated into the artistic conception of nostalgic homeland, which is really touching. Wang Zhihuan's Four-line Poem "Qiang Di Why Blame Liu? "Spring breeze is not about Yumenguan" is a sad willow. It's not that it doesn't know spring and doesn't sprout, just because Yumenguan is in the spring breeze! It also compares the harsh environment of frontier fortress recruitment.

Love is the eternal theme of mankind, and it is more meaningful to write lovers' farewell with willows. In the Southern Song Dynasty, Lu You revisited Shenyuan in his twilight years, and the traces of his hometown aroused the memory of his dead lover Tang Wan. There is a saying that "the dream is broken and fragrant for forty years, and the old man in Shenyuan does not blow cotton."

Old willow in Shenyuan and old man in Jianhu shed tears, which makes people cry. There is a saying in Wang Shifu's Farewell to the West Chamber, Pavilions and Pavilions in the Yuan Dynasty that "the willow silk is long, but the jade is difficult to tie". Although willow silk is entrusted by acacia, it can't be a horse.

After tortuous pursuit, the lovers who finally got married separated. No wonder Yingying "looked at Shili Pavilion from afar and suddenly lost her jade muscle". Poplar and willow belong to the same family and different genera, which has always been called willow in China.

She is not only covered with tender branches, but also with catkins and flowers that arouse infinite feelings. Shi Shuo Xin Yu, compiled by Liu Yiqing in the Southern Dynasties, records: "Mrs. Xie got together on a snowy day and told her children the meaning of the paper, but suddenly it began to snow.

Gong said, "What is snow like?" Brother Hu said,' The difference between sprinkling salt and air can be simulated.' My brother and daughter said,' If the catkins were not due to the wind.

Laugh loudly. Teacher Xie An of the Eastern Jin Dynasty wrote one on a snowy day. His brother, also his daughter, used catkins dancing with the wind to describe snow, which is both physical and mental, wonderful and unparalleled, and has become an eternal story.

Xie Daowen was praised as a talented woman. Later, people wrote a lot of catkin poems.

Among them, Su Dongpo's "Shui Long Yin, Zi Yun Zhang Fu Hua Yang Ci" is the most famous. The first sentence of this word is "like a flower is still like a non-flower", and the word says "sad, sleepy, wanting to open and close."

Dream with the wind Wan Li, looking for lang, also be warbler. "That sentence is" spring scenery three points, dust two points, water one point.

Fine, it seems that it is not easy, it is a crystal tear. "Sue than people, very appropriate, better than his colleagues.

Before Su Ci, Huayang's name was not very pleasant to hear, and it was compared to a fickle woman, so it was called "Yi De". Dongpo rehabilitated her innocence and her true colors, a pure, heavy, resentful and affectionate daughter.

Willow will thank him! Standing on "Yang Liuan" and singing "Twilight of the Moon", let us spread our imagination wings and gallop in the vast sky of China traditional culture, let the catkins of poplars edify our temperament, delight our hearts and improve our quality of life. This is very interesting.

6. What are the most suitable poems for lovers to give to each other? Recommend a flowering tree.

May the Buddha let us meet at my most beautiful time,

For this reason, I have been chanting Buddha for 500 years. Let's form a dusty Buddha, so I turned into a tree and grew on the roadside where you must pass.

The sunshine is full of flowers carefully, which is the hope of my previous life.

When you approach, please listen carefully to the trembling leaves, which is the passion I am waiting for.

And when you finally walked past the friend who fell behind you, it was not a petal, but my withered heart.

I think it's good that Xi Murong recommended this song to you. It's quite classic and will leave a deep impression on couples.

Then I recommend Haizi's love poems. It really feels like spring flowers are facing the sea. Couples will feel very warm after listening to it. If you are satisfied with my answer, I will thank you.