Educated- When you fly like a bird to your mountain - the meaning of family of origin and education

Educated- When you fly like a bird to your mountain ? --Educated- The significance of the family of origin and education

? 1, the family of origin

Tara Westover grew up in a family where the parents were firm and obsessive about their own perceptions and judgments of the world, and demanded that all their children conform to their system of thought, but "education" began to create a difference of opinion between her and her family, and she eventually chose to leave.

In the video interview, Tara says, "We grow up in families that are molded into certain patterns, and we think we can break free and reinvent ourselves. But once we go back to our old environment, we go back to the dead cycle, or worse. Many children who grow up in unhealthy home environments will look for those who can repeat the dead cycle with us in the outside world, unable to break free for the rest of their lives.

Talking about family of origin and its influence on children, it reminds me of a saying: the lucky ones heal their whole life with their childhood, and the unlucky ones heal their childhood with their whole life. It can be seen that the family of origin and childhood experience has a great influence on people. Confucianism, as the mainstream of traditional Chinese culture for thousands of years, has y rooted the belief in filial piety in our culture. One of Confucius' explanations of filial piety is not to go against the wishes of one's parents ("no disobedience"), that is, the family is everything, and that the family is the beginning and the end of mankind.

But when you realize that your family of origin has had a negative impact on you, and is even binding and confining, running away from your family of origin is another option. It doesn't mean betrayal of your family or an end to your love for them, but rather a process of self-discovery and self-destruction, a process of reconfiguring your personal worldview and values. As Tara says: You can love someone and still choose to say goodbye to them; you can miss someone every day and still be glad they are no longer in your life.

After countless moments of self-doubt, Tara chose to walk away, choosing a very different path from her family of origin.

Things gained and things lost.Sometimes you have to forget where you come from so that you can Sometimes you have to forget where you came from so that you can create a new version of yourself. She finally decided to flee as a bird to her mountain.

She finally decided to flee as a bird to her mountain.

2 、Education-- What is education? What is the meaning of education?

1. Discover yourself- Education is the process of self-creation and self-discovery

? 1) Distinguish between yourself and your loved ones

? When talking about what she would say to her childhood self if she met her, Tara replied: nothing. Because a child will see themselves and their loved ones as one, an attack on their parents will be interpreted as an attack on their world. To go ahead and talk to their own self at that time about their parent's wrongdoing, that child may not be able to accept it. Being able to distinguish oneself from the person one loves is an ability that develops gradually during the process of education.

Reject antiquated definitions - even of those you love

Education let me learn to reject antiquated definitions of what I was and what I was capable of doing. Definitions of me that have been given to me by other people that I'd believe in my whole life. You don't have to believe something about yourself just because someone else believes it even if it's someone that you love.

2) Distinguish between what's the obligation you owe to yourself and what's the obligation you owe to your family

What's the obligation you owe to yourself

? What's the obligation you owe to your family and what's the obligation you owe to yourself

Tara has to accept her brother's violent behavior if she stays in the past, or leave the family. But she ultimately chooses to leave because her education has enabled her to distinguish between what she owes to her family and what she owes to herself.

3) Distinguish between the world you want and the world you are given

When we are young, no matter what our parents' ideas or behaviors are right or wrong, and no matter what kind of childhood we have experienced, children think that this is the way the world is supposed to be, and they are convinced that "we are right" and "they are wrong". "They're wrong". Because this is the only world we see, the world we were given.

And the process of getting an education is a process of breaking down the old world of the given and remaking a new world of our own. We learn to question, to reflect, to choose, to leave behind what we continue to hold on to, and to discard what we no longer recognize.

Education is the process of figuring out?what bits of that world was built for them in a childhood are they going to hold on to and what bits are they going to let go of. Education is a whole process of working out who you are from who you were, the identity you choose from the ones other people give to you.

4) Distinguish between your own perceptions and those given to you by the community you live in

We live in the same world, but we are all shaped in different ways. Stories that make it to us is largely created for us by other people. Stories that make it to us is largely created for us by other people. We go to the internet, and we see news they want to show us, we are told things they want us to believe. And day by day, our mindset and worldview are shaped by the community we live in.

Everybody learns a specific version of everything, and the trick is to try to step outside of that. Step outside of our comfort zone, recognize It is really only when we start to read things that is a little bit outside of that box. It is really only when we start to read things that is a little bit outside of that box. It is education that broaden our horizons and give us various angles to see the world. 1) Stay humble ?

There are four levels of human cognition:

Don't know: don't know that you don't know;

Knowing that you don't know: know that you don't know;

Knowing that you know that you know:know that you know;

Don't know that you don't know, don't know that you know.

The more you know, the more you know you don't know.? As the famous ancient Greek philosopher Zeno said, human knowledge is like a circle, inside the circle is known, outside the circle is unknown. The more you know, the bigger the circle becomes, and the more you don't know.

Therefore, education is not a source of arrogance; it is not a weapon to bring others to their knees. On the contrary, education raises the level of cognition, widens the boundaries of cognition, and makes people more humble and tolerant.

If you are trying to cross someone's reality, trying to get someone's perspective, humility is the secret to most things. Most things having to do with respect and education. A good education let us be exposed to more ideas and be exposed to a wider world. The Government of the Republic of Korea has been working on this issue for a long time, but it has not been able to do so because it has not been able to do so. It should be a source of arrogance.

Instead, education should always be something that make us want to learn more about others and not just tell people more things. Education is more about enquiry and not just about knowing. I would like to emphasize the importance of the role of education in the development of the world, and I would like to say that it is a very important part of this process. I would like to thank you, Mr. President, for your contribution to the work of this Conference.

Education is more about enquiry and not just about knowing, not just about already having all the answers.

Education should be an expansion of ideas, a deepening of empathy, a broadening of horizons. It should not make our prejudices more stubborn. If people are educated, they should become less certain, not more certain. They should listen more and talk less. They should be passionate about differences and love ideas that are different from theirs. Education helps people listen more y to each other.

2) Talk to people with different views

People always want to characterize people. We take a really simplistic view of someone and we think we know what that is. We take a really simplistic view of someone and we think we know what that is. But the fact is everybody is different, each situation is different. We all come from different families, be raised in different ways, have been through different things. That's why it's hard to understand a person completely.

Education should be radical. We should read things we would not normally read. We should talk to people we are nervous to talk to, with people who we perceived to be different from us. We should talk to people we are nervous to talk to, with people who we perceived to be different from us, with people who we disagree with.

That's something we should always keep in mind.

3. Discover the world:? Education gives us perspective, and beliefs that can be changed

Perspective: Education means gaining a different perspective, understanding different people, experiences and histories. Education gives people the opportunity to step out of their own paradigm of thinking into the thinking of others. These brief journeys into the mind allow us to realize that our life is only one of many possibilities and that there are many other possibilities in the world.

Faith: There is a biblical saying that faith is the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.? And education gives faith. The valuable thing about faith is that it gives people the belief that there is a better world, a different world, that we can live another life that is different from what we have lived before, and experience love as you have never experienced it before.

But to let go of the past and imagine the future requires a combination of belief and education. Only when the two complement each other can you meet an unknown life and expect a different kind of change.

Education can take us out of our narrow, dim reality and show us a brighter world. Education allows us to imagine a life that we have not directly experienced, to break the old patterns and try a new life. Education allows us to believe in love that we have not personally experienced. Education allows us to strive to see life as it could be, not just as it is now.

In the End

The family of origin gives us life, and the family of origin helps us to establish our initial connection to the world. But as we grow up, our thoughts begin to collide with those of our parents, our original perceptions are challenged and questioned, and we are left to wander, to search, to feel, to revise, to doubt...and education is the process of giving us faith and helping us to break through the boundaries of our thinking.

Education gives us courageous to fight against the world.

Education lets us understand ourselves more, understand others more, and understand the world more.?

Education leads us to explore new answers and build a new world.?

Education is the process of self-creation and self-discovery.

No matter what problems or confusions you encounter in life, reading, thinking, and being educated will lead you to new answers and a new world. We will never deny or forget our love to them, but we should build our own world and write our own stories.? Just fly as a bird to your mountain.