Why is the relationship between father and daughter and mother more subtle?

Why bitter father and son, not bitter mother and son, nor bitter father and daughter? There must be a reason for this.

Mothers have a maternal aura from the beginning of pregnancy, and both sons and daughters have been attached to their mothers since childhood.

This father is like a self-made entrepreneur with family feelings. There is no natural intimacy between him and his children. He tried to establish this relationship, so from the beginning, it was not easy for him.

As a male species, fathers often have a sense of responsibility and mission. They think they have an obligation to defend their families and go through fire and water. At the same time, they also bear the heavy responsibility of letting their children know books, manners and talents.

Therefore, my father always tries to show his greatness and establish his prestige. His demands are always firm and straightforward, and the communication with children lacks gentleness and transition, so it is also a high probability to be unlovable.

But why are fathers and sons more likely to become enemies? To become an enemy, there must be high pressure, protest, control and escape in this process. These contents are not necessarily obvious, but they may be hidden, but just like the calm before the storm, it is only a matter of time before the outbreak.

Father and son are men, and father will instinctively impose men's demands on him. He didn't dare to resist when he was young, but he will explode when he grows up.

But in the years before the outbreak of the epidemic, the father saw his son's obedience, but never thought it was obedience that had to be obeyed. He thinks he has natural authority in front of his son, who is naturally willing to obey himself. But the reality is that many problems are often hidden because of the unequal family status.

When the son grows up slowly, people will be rebellious. The father used increasing orders to force his son to act in the right way. By this time, who is right and who is wrong is not so important, and high pressure and resistance have become the main theme.

When the father finds that his words are not so useful and his son is no longer the person he knows, he will be shocked and lost.

So both father and son are fighting for dignity. The father thinks that his son does not respect himself, and the son also thinks that his father does not respect himself. The former hopes that the other party will respect his authority, while the latter hopes that the other party will respect his freedom.

My son grew up in a hurry, knowing more and more, doing more and more things, and paying less and less attention to his father. The father became more and more confused when he saw his son go further and further.

After the son got married and had children, he also understood that it is not easy to be a parent, but the relationship with his father is difficult to repair.

The intimate relationship between parents and children is really artistic. The real success is that the children can be trained well and the parent-child relationship is good.

May you be the lucky one.