What is the inner side of the outer circle? What does Fiona Fang do?

There is a saying in China that "three points of knowledge, seven points of human feelings". That is, a person's success depends three points on knowledge and seven points on the ability to deal with people. This shows how important a person's success in life is.

How to be a man? Is it "square" or "round"? Some people say that it is "square"-not square, adhere to principles; Some people say it is "round"-sleek, smart and exquisite.

Looking back at history, loyal Qu Yuan, upright and upright Bao Zheng, upright and honest Harry, upright and upright Wen Tianxiang, and Bo Yi and Shu Qi who lived in seclusion in the mountains and didn't eat Zhou Su are all typical "practitioners", so they will remain immortal. Numerous examples of sages show that if a person is upright and insists on the original work properly, he will gain people's admiration and trust, thus being invincible forever.

A nurse who just graduated from medical school went to a well-known big hospital for an internship. According to the regulations of the hospital, nurses can become regular employees if they can satisfy the hospital during their internship, otherwise they will face the problem of finding a job. One day, a dying patient in a car accident needed an operation, and the intern nurse was arranged to be the assistant of Professor Fendi, a well-known surgeon. At the end of the operation, when the patient's wound was about to be stitched up, the nurse suddenly said seriously to the dean, "Professor Fendi, we used 12 gauze, but you only took out 1 1."

The surgeon replied disdainfully, "I have taken it all out." Don't say anything more, sew it up at once. "

"no!" The nurse protested loudly and seriously, "We did use 12 gauze."

The surgeon ignored this and ordered, "Listen to me and get ready for suture. I will take full responsibility. "

"You are a doctor, you can't do this!" Nurse interns never give in.

Until then, the dismissive expression on the surgeon's face turned into a smile. He raised the 12 gauze in his hand and said, "You are my most qualified assistant." As a result, she naturally stayed in the hospital.

Imagine what would happen if the intern nurse did not stick to the facts and take them seriously, but catered to and obeyed the surgeon? There is no doubt that she will lose the job. This example illustrates the meaning of "line side".

A "flexible" and flexible person at an important moment has a lot of room for manoeuvre in interpersonal communication, and of course there is a great possibility of success in all aspects.

On the train, a young man is lying in his seat. A mother took her daughter on the bus. The daughter shook the boy and said, "Uncle, I want to sit, I want to sit!" " "

The boy pretended to sleep and ignored it.

Mother gently said to her daughter, "Don't disturb uncle. Uncle is tired. He will give you his seat after lying down for a while. "

Hearing this, the young man got up and blushed and said, "Sit down!"

As can be seen from this case, this mother knows the way of communication very well. "Circle" acts as a lubricant and a transforming agent. If the mother had accused the young man, the result might have been another story.

In the real society, it is inappropriate to emphasize "square" and "circle". As the saying goes: "Too straight is easy to bend." If a person is too square, he is like pig iron, rigid and rigid, and it is easy to break when depressed; However, if a person is too smooth and looks delicate, he is actually very smart and easy to become sophisticated. Therefore, "square" and "circle" need to grasp a degree. A square is a square and a circle is a circle.

The concrete manifestations are as follows: great things should be done and small things should be round; Important to yourself, round to others. Square is the backbone of life, and circle is the secret of life.

"Square" and "circle" are the two wheels of a car, the wings of a bird, and people's right and left hands. They can't be ignored and indispensable. Being a man, we can't just see the meaning of "line square" and ignore "line circle", nor can we just see the importance of "line circle" and ignore "line square". As the book "The Art of War in Fiona Fang" says, the real "Fiona Fang people" are a combination of great wisdom and great tolerance, with brave force and peace with silent wisdom; The real "Fiona Fang people" can bear sudden joys and sorrows; The real "Fiona Fang people" have no failure, only silence, which is the silence of accumulating strength in the face of setbacks and adversity. Huang Yanpei once wrote four words to his son: "Harmony is like spring breeze and autumn frost; Take money as an example, in the outer circle. "Huang Yanpei hopes that his son can be tolerant and kind to people like ancient copper coins, gentle and gentle like spring breeze, and strict with himself like autumn frost.

Looking at celebrities in ancient and modern times, people who are widely welcomed and loved have a "square" soul. When dealing with people, we should pay attention to principles. Only in this way can we maintain our individuality, but it is not enough to have a "square". We also need a "round" package and treat others with tolerance, so that we can have more connotation and show our charm.

Circle is an open-minded, tolerant and educated performance, which is to bring a person's broad mind and tolerance to the extreme and show a flexible attitude. Being a square is the criterion of being a man, which can reflect a person's personality of "being invincible, being poor and immobile, being rich and not being lewd" and his unyielding mentality of not being intimidated by the strong. A really smart person, who knows the balance between "outer circle" and "inner circle", can feel at home in society, win a good reputation of being sociable and approachable, and stick to principles and pursue his ideals without hesitation.

The famous philosopher Fossett once said: "What kind of philosophy of life a person chooses can be decided by who he is."

After the heavy snow, some branches were crushed because they could not bear the weight of the thick snow, but the pine trees were intact, because the crushed branches were always stiff and did not know how to bend, and finally they could not resist the pressure of the snow and were crushed miserably. People will also experience all kinds of storms in their lives and need to actively meet all kinds of challenges. However, all kinds of experiences in life tell us not to haggle over everything, or we may die unsatisfied.

In real life, many unexpected things will happen. In the process of dealing with these things, sometimes we have to compromise, and this compromise is the "circle" in the "outer circle inside". Compromise is not to admit defeat, nor is it a "loss". It is precisely because of this misunderstanding that many people are isolated in society. '

As the saying goes, "A loss is a blessing." Two goats running on the same wooden bridge for their lives are facing each other in the middle, and neither of them is willing to compromise. Then there are two kinds of results: one is to be caught up by the wolf, tiger and leopard behind him; The other is that the two sides fought separately, and both of them could not escape the fate of death, but fell into the river at the same time. Then, why can't we both take a step back for the benefit of both sides?

Of course, it is appropriate to have a degree. If you don't grasp this degree well, you may be hit hard by the obstacles ahead and never reach your desired goal.

On the contrary, "external circle inside" is a practical skill and the way to success in life. If a person can practice both inside and outside, then he can not only open up a new path for himself by relying on the "outer circle" of life, but also adhere to the essence and principle of "inner side".

Mr. Ryan, a famous architect, is a man with a strong sense of innovation. He was appointed to design the city hall in Wenze, England. He skillfully designed the hall ceiling supported by only one pillar by using the knowledge of engineering mechanics and years of practice. A year later, when the authoritative department of the municipal government accepted the project, it was found that it was too dangerous to support the ceiling with only one pillar in the hall, so Ian was asked to add more pillars. Cai Yian was confident that a solid pillar was enough to ensure the safety of the main hall, and cited relevant examples. He refused to accept the proposal of the project recipient.

Ryan's insistence quickly angered city officials. You know, hundreds of years ago, people didn't enjoy the present human rights: if you dare to quarrel with municipal officials, it's almost like quarreling with the British royal family. People have every right and obligation to send you to court or even to prison. Finally, my own design was not only not adopted, but also caused trouble!

In this way, for a long time, Ryan was struggling with his own ideas. Later, he finally came up with a clever plan. He added four pillars to the hall, but didn't touch the ceiling. He just pretended to fool the ignorant but headstrong municipal officials. Hundreds of years is not short, and municipal officials have changed from session to session, but this secret has never been discovered. It was not until the municipal government prepared to repair the ceiling of the hall in recent years that it was discovered that Ryan had "faked" that year.

Sometimes, in order to solve problems more satisfactorily and handle disputes more peacefully, we must learn to "circle outside and inside", which is not worldly, nor is it wily, but based on "square"; Taking "circle" as a flexible table is really a superb art of life.

Society is a complex group, and some frictions and disputes will inevitably occur between people. When dealing with frictions and disputes, we must consider Fiona Fang, be reasonable and not be biased. Only by considering Fiona Fang can justice be done; Only justice can balance and reduce the contradictions between people.

In the Tang Dynasty, Li Bi and Tang Daizong wrote couplets. The first part is "Fang ruoyuan is like a chess piece", and the second part is "Fang ruoyuan is round and wise". This couplet is an excellent annotation of the personality implication of "the outer circle is the inner side".

In a word, a mature and ambitious person is not bound by the environment, moved by petty profits or distracted by trivial matters, and always pursues the goals set by himself unswervingly in order to maximize his own value and realize his own goals. When you are alive, you should be flexible with others and use Fiona Fang freely and appropriately. Don't be opinionated or too tactful and ruin your bright future.

Harmony in the outer circle is not the doctrine of the mean, nor is it hypocritical and smooth. It is the humanistic essence of China's fine traditions accumulated for thousands of years, and the personality embodiment of the most outstanding representative with social conscience in China.