How did people in ancient China fall in love?

Bound by feudal ethics, ancient people basically had no chance to fall in love, because at that time, girls stayed at home all day and it was difficult to get in touch with men, so most of them got married first and then fell in love, even only marriage, no love.

But there is no absolute thing in the world. Although boys and girls don't have as many contact opportunities as now, they refer to strangers. If it matters, it's different. For example, Jia Baoyu, whose cousins live at home and meet every day, has feelings for Lin Daiyu. They often joke and eventually develop into a relationship of lovers.

Another situation is that some girls don't want to stay at home, so they go out to travel disguised as men, and they begin to associate with the right men. At first, it was brotherly love, and then it gradually evolved into love, such as Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, Guo Jing and Huang Rong, and so on.

In addition to the above love evolved from friendship, there is also a way of love, which we now call infidelity. For example, Ximen Qing and Pan Jinlian met and got together. Although their behavior is a bit nasty, it is also a way of love.