What are the customs to go to Changle to drink wedding wine?

In a piece of "a month to receive more than one invitation, has been unable to support" the sound of trouble, "do not receive congratulatory gifts" is a bit rare, but in Fuqing, this is not a new thing. The reporter launched an investigation and found that do not receive congratulatory gifts more than a decade ago has begun, and has become a new local custom.

" "The red bomb, is the sorrow is not joy

The red bomb, now become the problem of everyone talking about color. Step into the years of small Weng complained, in 2007, she just entered the company, she met another department of colleagues widely distributed wedding invitations, inviting everyone to drink wedding wine. "Totally unrecognizable, I had a feeling of being 'robbed in disguise'." Since then, the invitations have become more and more frequent, "as many as one month to receive six 'fine tickets'."

With friends walking into the wedding hall one after another, "80" found that sometimes a month's salary, to take out half of the contribution to the wedding banquet. "Everyone just worked not long ago, wallets are flat. Gift at least 200 yuan, a lot of pressure. Good relations to send 800 yuan, 1,000 yuan, is an unspoken rule. I think a friend's wedding is supposed to be a happy event, but when it comes to gifts, defeat."

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"Gift-free wedding banquets are becoming a custom in Fuqing

Compared with the dilemma of most of the "post-80s", Xiao Chen, who is originally from Fuqing, breathed a sigh of relief. "In 2006, I started to participate in the wedding of my classmates back home, and all I had to do was sign the happy book, and the newcomers did not receive congratulatory gifts." He sweetly "complained", "this month rushed four, even with the food, hold me up."

January 12 just held a wedding in Fuqing Rongqiao Hotel, Wu believes that marriage, destined to burn money, just how much it costs. "Now, excluding alcohol, a table of better food money is more than 2,000 yuan." For not charging guests congratulatory gifts, Wu believes that it should be, "Fuqing began a long time ago to default to this custom, drinking colleagues and classmates so many free wedding wine, their own wedding to collect money, say it?"

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"Gift-free originated more than a decade ago

Mrs. Wu clearly remembers that the first wedding wine to participate in not to collect congratulatory gifts was in 1999, the parents of the newcomer east back to their home country, invited good friends and colleagues in Fuqing City, the production of Tang Street, the Ocean Building to do a lively wedding, and finally the gift of money all refunded. The first thing she said when she got home was, "It's so new, there's actually no gift money."

After that, Ms. Wu found that gift-free weddings were no longer new. In earlier years, she said, it was the better-off ones who didn't accept congratulatory gifts, and then it gradually became customary for the ordinary ones to start not accepting gifts, too. Now a year she attended more than a dozen wedding banquets, are happy to go empty-handed. "If all have to follow the gift, every year to spend several thousand dollars it, so how good, everyone happy."

Even in rural areas, many people do wedding wine is also a figure of joy. 2006, Jiangjing Town, Xietang village of Xie Xie and Xiao He tied the knot, wedding invitations on the note "do not accept gifts" in the village to do a banquet, seven aunts and aunts hard to take the red packet to the bride to do the bride gift, Xiao He "resolutely do not accept", relatives said it was "small meaning". Unwrapped after returning home, the red envelope has a dollar, two dollars, more than five dollars, ten dollars. Xiao He said, originally did not intend to receive, are from the family, happy most important.

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"The new custom into the new pressure?

The better-off can afford to be free of congratulatory gifts, but what about the average family?

Wang, who was married at the end of 2009, has a father who is an ordinary worker and a mother who is a housewife, and there is some financial pressure to not accept congratulatory gifts according to the custom. In order to save costs, she held a banquet in her father's country home. "Did not spend too much, discussed not to receive gifts. In my husband's hometown Fu'an, also did a, also do not accept congratulatory gifts, he felt that this is good, along." Xiao Wang said.

Small Wang said, in Fuqing to receive congratulatory gifts, but also depends on the situation of each family. "It's a new custom by default, but it doesn't say it has to be done. Last year, I attended seven wedding banquets, and two of them still received." And there are wedding banquets that are selectively targeting some guests to collect gifts.