What are the concerns of aristocratic families who are unwilling to marry Princess Datang?

As we all know, the Tang dynasty was the most open dynasty among the feudal dynasties of more than two thousand years, so there were not so many rules and formality between men and women. But there has always been a strange phenomenon in the Tang Dynasty, that is, those famous families are unwilling to marry the princess. Why? The princess is either the emperor's daughter or the emperor's sister. In short, she comes from a noble family, and many people want to be attached to her. There is no harm in having relatives and friends with the royal family. Moreover, if she and the princess become husband and wife, it will be the emperor's decision to get rich in the future.

However, it is clearly recorded in the Book of the Old Tang Dynasty that all the gentry in the Tang Dynasty "refused to give up their illness", that is to say, they would rather pretend to be ill than marry the princess. In fact, it's not that they really don't want to, but there are three reasons why they have to do so.

First, the funeral ceremony in the Tang Dynasty. In the Tang Dynasty, the funeral paid great attention to decline, and Cui Zi was the second. It is also recorded in the Book of Rites and Music in the New Tang Dynasty that when his wife died, his husband needed a gift from Cui Zi, but when the princess died, she was in decline. Cui Zi used it for one year, but it dropped for three years. This happened in Tang Wenzong, when Princess Qiyang died and her husband didn't mourn, which made Tang Wenzong very angry and blamed Xu.

At that time, Li Jue, assistant minister of the Household Department, also said: If Ma Xu mourned for the princess for three years now, many gentry would be even more reluctant to touch relatives and friends in the future, which surprised literate Sect and eased this view of three years' decline. Moreover, the princess was born in a famous family, and many people could not climb it. Instead of marrying a princess who is obedient to Nuo Nuo all her life, it is better to marry an ordinary woman and be happy all her life.

Second: the concept of family status, which is very important. In the Tang Dynasty, people attached great importance to it. In their view, in addition to family status, there must be a good family background, even a good family culture and family style. So few families can meet the requirements, it is even more difficult for the princess to get married. Although some gentry also want to climb the royal line, they can think of those family styles and traditions of the royal family.

Third: Many princesses don't pay attention to women's gifts. Marrying a wife as a virtuous man, the atmosphere in the Tang Dynasty was very open, and the princess's life was relatively luxurious, so it was easy to form the habit of being cruel and jealous. Just as Princess Changguang recorded in the Tang Dynasty was very extravagant and wasteful, the story that Princess Hepu married Fang's son was also well known to later generations, and Princess Xiangyang often wandered in the streets, surrounded by many leaders.

So how brave must a man be to marry such a woman home? In the feudal society at that time, there were high demands on women, and more attention was paid to women's tolerance and morality. Who would want to be cuckolded? Even if he is rich all his life, I think some men can't stand it, and the conditions at home are not bad. There is no need to add wealth, so this is the reason why the princess of the Tang Dynasty is difficult to marry.