Why do women suffer more than men in unhappy marriages? What do you think?

Marriage is like a pair of shoes, only the person who is wearing it knows whether it fits or not.

In the triviality of the wood, rice, oil and salt, many men and women will feel hollowed out, and it seems to be especially so when encountering the ups and downs of life. Sometimes it is inevitable to be miserable and feel unhappy in your marriage, thinking about taking a break from it and using it as a way to escape reality.

But marriage also means responsibility and obligation, have to be responsible for the other half, responsible for the children and the family, and have to get back up and continue to move forward, although sometimes all the thoughts, but there are happy and happy moments, but we are too forgetful, can not think of those who can make themselves happy or things.

Hui Zi has been married for ten years, and her husband comes home to play with his cell phone, and she is busy with her two children, and has to do handicrafts to earn a living, especially now that her children are still studying at home, and she has to tutor her children, and has to deal with the household chores, and she is tired of spinning around in circles with a gyroscope every day.

Sometimes, she wants to pamper her husband, wanting him to feel sorry for her, but she didn't wait for him to open his mouth, but he was the first to complain, saying how tired he was at work and how hard it was to make money.

As the saying goes, words are not enough, she felt that there is no love between them, in order to choose to make do with the child, the accumulation of contradictions to a certain point in the heart of the cold, and suddenly no longer entangled, feel like a clown, say no more, no one cares, and why bother to force it.

But she felt that her marriage was too unhappy, no love, no money in, and now even more no home atmosphere, really do not know how to hold on. Lying to herself not to expect her husband to be good to her is just a compromise she chooses to make because she knows she won't get it.

She regrets that she married him in the first place, and feels that her husband is not a good man, and that he can't give her the life she wants, and doesn't love her, so what's the point of having such a life?

With such thoughts, she felt more and more unfortunate marriage, the more to see their own husbands do not see eye to eye, the days of chicken and dog, want to escape from it, but no courage. On the other hand, her husband is like nothing, seems to be quite satisfied with the marriage in front of her, so she is even more reluctant, do not understand why the pain is only her?

The warmth and coldness in a marriage sometimes depends on how you face the problem at hand, because there are two sides to everything.

In an unhappy marriage, why women suffer more than men is simply because they don't see these things.

First of all, there is no acceptance and understanding, excessive pursuit of a perfect marriage

Take Huizi's marriage, married for ten years, the couple's relationship has returned from the period of passion to the period of calm, she paid for the family tired for sure, but the man in the call of tiredness, she did not listen to the end of his words, but instead, he did not think that he understands her, it is a manifestation of do not love her and shirking responsibility.

But her husband is working in a logistics company, from work to work, only to take a break for lunch, usually on his feet and busy, this type of work is also tired.

Then both husband and wife are tired, Hui Zi want to find her husband to tell their tired, is to get the husband's comfort and recognition, her husband called tired and her same psychology, is nothing more than to let Hui Zi to him to say a word of hard work.

But Huizi excessive pursuit of a perfect marriage, that the man called tired is disgusted with her at home, put her husband in their own opposites, the heart of the husband is determined to be malicious, simply can not see each other's needs are the same.

Into the marriage will find that women and men are not the same degree of perfection of the pursuit of marriage, the woman is too much pursuit of perfection, but the man because there are multiple pivot points in the marriage, to be busy with their careers, or their own hobbies, etc., he put in the marriage of the energy is limited to the perfection of it is not so much as a request.

Women are different, after marriage, most of the children because of the housewife, some even put all the energy in the marriage, at the same time, the requirements of the man is very high.

If the marriage does not meet their expectations, the woman will be disappointed, the first doubt is the ability of the man, blame the man can not give their own happiness.

But a man's ability to choose to get married has been decided, forcing a man to become good, is nothing more than with their own faults, can not accept the shortcomings of the man, can not accept the ordinary life of the bottom, fantasizing about flying life, but forgot to look at the strength of the two.

Understanding that marriage is imperfect, find a way to make both of them get along, do not overly force a man to understand themselves, as men do not force you to be perfect is the same reason.

Secondly, forcing a man to give himself a sense of security

Most women in marriage are insecure, a small thing will force themselves to add drama, that men do not love, or change their hearts, like to go to make, want to attract the attention of men.

For the straight-line thinking of men, the woman did not say a word of tossing, he simply can not feel the head, do not understand what the woman in the trick, see more than annoying, habitually take a blind eye, waiting for the woman to take the initiative to say their own requirements.

But, women like to let men guess their own minds, think that it is no fun to say, see the difference between men and women's thinking.

The more a woman forces a man to give her security, the more she will feel unhappy.

Hui Zi wants her husband to give her money, give her sweet words, is to want her husband to express her concern and love, but for many men, love is real estate, when it was said, you know on the line, there is no need to say often.

Women want can not get, it is thought that men do not love, or that they have no charm, is nothing more than the performance of insecurity.

Women feel unhappy in the marriage, the biggest source of pain is not in the man, even if they encountered a bad man, if they have enough security, but also in time to stop.

But when a woman is insecure, she will suffer from the problem of love or not, and have no time to grow.

Forcing a man to give security is a waste of time and energy things, have a difficult time for their own time, it would be better to increase the bottom line for themselves, to do what they want to do, whether it is economic or spiritual, can pursue a higher realm.

Focus on yourself and you won't suffer as much, and of course doing so isn't about being selfish, it's about meeting a better version of yourself.

When a woman is secure enough, she doesn't suffer for one thing, instead she learns to solve problems.

Finally, early clear each other's bottom line and rules

In marriage, women want to live happily, have to go as early as possible to clarify the bottom line, such as household chores how to divide the work, who is responsible for counseling the child, how to manage the money and so on, the earlier the division of labor is clear, the more enjoyable the cooperation between the two people.

Many women just entered the marriage want to gain a good reputation, do not dare to show their bottom line, and like to take charge, more afraid to talk about money, until the end can not stand to put forward, the man has long been accustomed to this way of getting along, in addition to the difficult to change, but instead of thinking that the woman has changed, so that the woman can not speak of the pain, feel more aggrieved.

Marriage, in the end, is like opening a company, the more the system is clear, the operation is efficient, the earnings are also the most amazing.

So, women should not be bound by their own thoughts, to dare to create happiness, as early as possible to simplify the problem, the development of each other can comply with the rules, but will save a lot of heartache.

So, the real happiness in the world, the original is extremely simple, as long as you want, then go for it!