Can't be ignored! Pay more attention to these 'overlooked manners' to make you more highly regarded!

I did a question with a coworker a year ago called? "Neglected Manners?" , collecting lists and commenting on many of the various etiquettes that are no longer as valued by modern people, but still have value in our opinion. It's true that some of the etiquette is a bit cumbersome, but most of the traditional etiquette reflects respect for others and is a good social lubricant - and personally, I think etiquette works best when it pleases the other person, but at the very least it keeps them from being upset, so what's not to like? Surely it's not? "essential?" , it's a matter of opinion. Abridged and organized as follows:

The way to be a guest: the host to bring tea and water to, must stand up to say thank you

Learn to make an appointment: the first step to be a good guest is to learn to make an appointment to visit others before informing others, so that they are ready to be a guest. Most of the time a surprise visit does not feel like a surprise to the host, but rather the presumption of a rude guest.

Learn to be on time: it's really not cool to be late, especially as the invited party. Your time must be more valuable than others? Being on time means walking into the host's house at exactly the agreed time, not too early and not too late, arriving too early or having a shock to the host, the most appropriate way is to be on time. And when it comes to the forgotten details of etiquette in the modern world, please remember not to visit during meal times if you are not invited by your hosts, it will only cause embarrassment.

Learn to bring a gift: don't think it's red tape, in fact, it is basic courtesy, empty-handed guests in the eyes of mature people is not understanding. The gift is not in the heavy, there is love can be, even with a little fruit, will show that you have heart.

Learn to dress yourself: long nails, messy hair is a taboo when you are a guest, this time do not think that the unconventional is a virtue, any time, fluffy, messy look appearances will not be popular, and this is too much of a casual appearance in fact will make the hosts sad, ? "So you don't care about me that much.?" Dressing up in front of someone you like should be a basic reaction of modern humans.

Learn to greet warmly: as a guest, the most important basic rule is to show their great enthusiasm, and this enthusiasm from the door to reflect in the positive and the people present to say hello, once again emphasize that this is not unnecessary polite, but only the most basic courtesy. If you are visiting an elder's home, remember to wait for the host to arrange or designate a seat before sitting down, and pay attention to the posture of the seat.

Learning to get up: the guests *** can not always stick to the bench, such as the hosts for their own tea toast, don't forget to get up to say thank you, and those fruits, dishes, remember to ask the elders present to take the first.

Learn to restrain your desires: When you are a guest, it is taboo to do as you please. Here desire refers to appetite also includes wild curiosity. *** food is not full although it sounds too deliberate, but think back to those in the guest also eat and drink students which is not behind the back of the ridicule? The witty ancients summarized the guest four not: not horse food, not cattle drink, not tiger swallow, not swallow. This year, when you go to someone's home to pay tribute to the New Year, please read it silently.

Learning to concentrate: when talking with the host, please look up, don't play with the phone, talk with the host seriously, and those who look left and right eyes, rummage through things should be prohibited!

Learn to say goodbye appropriately: don't gush, there is no banquet that won't end, so when you find your master absent-minded, long pout, frown or look at the watch from time to time, learn to say goodbye in the silence of the two conversations! And after saying goodbye, please leave decisively, those who say go and do not leave the guests most hurt!

The way to eat: the same dish is best not to clip three times in a row

Seating: Seat order, on the seat must let the elders, honored, the younger generation took the initiative to serve tea.

Sitting posture: not cross-brachial, not stretching feet, elbows should not be placed on the table, not knocking dishes.

Host-guest etiquette: the host raises his glass to the guest first, and the guest makes a speech of thanks. If the host cooks the food himself, he must thank the host before eating.

After the master toasts, the guest must return the toast to the master. The younger generation will toast to the elder generation first.

The host does not get up before the guest has finished eating.

When the host rises, the guest is thanked for his hospitality.

When the banquet is over, the host will bring in the towel and tea.

Eating: Use chopsticks to take food, only on your own side, you should not stand up to take food in other directions, especially not to the center of the dish to take food and soup.

It is better not to take the same dish three times in a row, and not to double the amount of food you take.

The spoon should be emptied before it is put into the serving bowl.

Don't eat without sounding your tongue, and don't swallow without sounding your throat.

Coughing should be done by turning backward and not picking one's teeth in public.

The way of hospitality: every door in the house should let the guest go first

When you meet, you must first greet and salute, and exchange pleasantries with familiar friends, and ask for the name and address of unfamiliar friends;

Whether you are outside or at home, you should let the guest go first at every door;

When you enter the door and go indoors, you must ask the guest to sit down first;

If there are other guests in the room, you should introduce them one by one, and then ask them to sit down first.

The guest should be introduced to each of them.

If the guests need to leave by car or train, they must be sent to the station and watch the car drive away before returning.

The way to write a letter: after the inscription, add ? "I have the honor to open?" "I'd like to thank you for your kind attention." "Honorable so-and-so?" This is actually the format of a Western letter, while a traditional Chinese letter is written in ? "Zhizhao?" which is actually a Western form of letter writing. The so-called? "Zhizhao?" refers to the other party's name, according to the identity of the recipient of the letter are different, know the license language have a lot to pay attention to. If the other party is a general senior, you should add ? "Your Honor?" The name of the recipient should be added to the back of his or her name. "Honorable?" If the other party is a teacher, then you must add? "Hakujo?" "Your Honor?", "Your Excellency? "Joe?" and so on. "Daikan?" "Daikan?", "Daikan?", "Daikan? "Daikan?" for women. "Qingkan?" If you don't know the gender of the person you're talking to. If you really don't know the gender of the person you're talking to, you can use. "Daikan?" It's safer.

The body of the email should mention the other person's reason for being there. "Noojiao?" Showing respect: In a Hong Kong literati email, there will always be a lot of ? "spaces?" or unfinished? "Lines?" This is not an error of computerized formatting, but in traditional Chinese correspondence etiquette, in order to express respect for the recipient, the body of the email must be written one space after the salutation (known as the "move up") and then continue writing, such as the now common use of ? "Please acknowledge receipt?" The traditional format should be? "Please acknowledge receipt?" or in ? "I beg to receive?" or on a separate line after "I beg you? "Received?"

The end of the message should be a "please" line.

The end of the message must include a ? "Please accept?" and? "Hello?". : Modern email writers usually sign their name directly at the end of the body, or if they're a little more intentional, add ? "Good day?" which is actually a big no-no in traditional Chinese correspondence etiquette. "A taboo?" This is actually a big no-no in traditional Chinese correspondence etiquette. Generally speaking, at the end of the body of the e-mail, you need to follow up with? "Please wait?" which is usually followed by. "Please?" and? "Kind regards?" "To whom it may concern", "To whom it may concern", "To whom it may concern". "In honor of?" "Please?", "Please?", "Please? "Kung Fu?" And so on. "Please wait?" followed by a separate top line with? "Good day?" This also has a lot to do with the status of the recipient, generally elders use? "Good day?" "Good day?", "Good day?". "Honorable An?" "Teach me well", "Teach me well", "Teach me well". "Teach me well?" And for students? "Hokki?" For unmarried women under middle age, it's? "Fang An?" etc. If you don't know the identity of the person, use ? "Da-an?" If you don't know the identity of the person you're talking to, "Dae-ahn?" is more versatile. "Please wait?" and? "Good day?" Only after they've been written is the writer's name written, and finally, the name is followed by the words. "Yours sincerely?" The two words in order to show humility.

Gift-giving: Chinese people can't open gifts in person

Gift-giving is a way of saying that it's not polite to come and not go, or to come and not come. "Throw in the towel and return the favor?" is the basic rule of etiquette of gift-giving, but also encompasses the cultivation and virtues of mutual help between friends.

Giving people do not say come to take, and people do not ask what they want.? "A gentleman is prudent in what he does with others?" , not to make gifts haphazardly according to one's own ideas, let alone forcibly, and not to ask others what gifts they want.

When you gift something to someone, you must be humble and respectful. When you give something to someone, you should be respectful and not arrogant, which is the greatest respect and honor to your friend.

The gift of goods, outside the parcel must be used, the exception is wedding and funeral celebrations. Gifts should be given within their means, to the best of their ability to choose a gift, as long as the packaging is appropriate, moderate, it is also in line with the etiquette. Chinese people can not open the gift in person, face to face evaluation, rude. In the West, you can just make a list of gifts and send them accordingly. And it's customary to open gifts in person and show how surprised you are by them instead.

Plain gift, the seat has other guests, must avoid watching and listening, far away and the first meeting, can not be avoided. Gifts should consider the occasion and the feelings of the people around, not because of their own behavior to others to bring inconvenience or pressure.

Love the wealth of the people do not think rich. Although you will receive a lot of gifts, but? "A gentleman loves wealth and takes it in the right way?" , the gifts should be thought of as a token of appreciation from a friend, not a means to get rich.

Receive the gift first slightly humbly after accepting, said thank you, over the day must go to worship. The Chinese have a way of expressing themselves euphemistically, so don't push a gift away to avoid offending someone.

The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the gift, and you'll be able to see how it's going to work. The gifts given by the elders should be accepted with gratitude.

The way to travel: this ceremony has been rarely mentioned

Before leaving, you need to say goodbye to your friends and relatives. Conditional can be set? "Farewell banquet?" , 80, 90 after like to K song and bar PA R T Y for the traveler to send off, in principle, by the traveler to pay the bill.

After returning from the trip, you need to tell your friends and relatives at the first time and distribute handmade souvenirs. Local specialties are a must-have on the list of souvenirs, while postcards are a little less polite and sincere.

The first thing you need to know is that you're not going to be able to get away with it. "There are friends from afar?" , should make time to receive the reunion, not? "Too busy, next time?" and other vulgar reasons, excuses to shirk.

Friends traveling back, should host a banquet to wash the dust (can be collectively funded). With friends of ? "Handout handout?" Synchronized.

Distant friends visit, those who can afford it should receive accommodation, or share part of their expenses. For example, the cost of reimbursement, involving *** with the part of the consumption, such as eating together, together with the sauna, etc., should also take the initiative to pay the bill.

Being in a foreign country, should be the first time to inquire, understand the local customs, especially religious countries, must abide by the rules, to avoid touching? "Minefield?"

These are the first time I've heard of this.

In Europe and the United States, it is customary to be quiet and not to make a lot of noise in public places.

When traveling, it is a good idea to tip your hosts and service providers. "Tip?" "without realizing it?" The way to give, do not hold money bully (Europe and the United States countries especially care about this point).

The way to call: I can't figure out the position of the elders, said the teacher is the most appropriate

It is best to only with the same generation or a younger generation of people, with? "pro?" The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal on a new product, and then you'll be able to get it. Although the modern society in the name, for the distinction between young and old has become more and more fuzzy, but the basic elements of common sense or to have. There should be a bottom line on the name calling, at least you can not meet with the first time, the age of 30 years apart, call each other a ? "pro?" . Pro, the word although it will speed up the reputation of personal interactions and bring the distance closer, but treat the elders or to have a certain degree of reverence, where you meet people must be? "Pro?" , there is no pro and congeniality far and near shouting to shout, and finally will only give people left? "will not do people?" The poor evaluation.

If you can't figure out the position and career status of your elders, you can still use? "Teacher?" The safest way to address them is to call them "teacher?". Various books on the etiquette of address have a wide variety of positions or occupations described in the name. For example, to address a person by his or her position, such as director, section chief, manager, and dean; to address a person by his or her professional or technical position, such as professor, engineer, and a certain kind of worker; to address a person directly by his or her profession, such as teacher, coach, doctor, accountant, and police officer. Social occasions most often encountered in the scene is the dinner party, a table at the dinner party, where the age of the people older than you, when you can not feel the other side of the situation, or a uniform to ? "Teacher?" The most important thing to remember is that you have to be able to see what's going on in your life.

Remember the following generalizations, and don't make the low-level mistake of calling them traditional names.

令尊, honorably address the other person's father

令堂, honorably address the other person's mother

令郎, honorably address the other person's son

令爱, honorably address the other person's daughter

令婿, honorably address the other person's son-in-law

令媳, honorably address the other person's daughter-in-law

喬梓, to address someone as father and son

昆玉, to address someone as brother.

Xianqi, to call one's student

Gaofu, to call someone else's student

家父, to call one's father

家慈, to call one's mother

舍妹, to call one's sibling

舍侄, to call one's nephew

内人, to call one's wife

外子, to call one's husband

犬子, to call one's husband

qingzi, to call one's wife

qingzi, to call one's husband

dog's son, calling one's son

little daughter, calling one's daughter

Don't put ? "You?" Drop the ? If there are statistics, ? "You?" should be the word most dropped and forgotten by modern people. When using the second person, everyone is well aware of the importance of using ? "you?" than using ? "You?" to be more respectful. Geez! These are really too important to forget from now on! Did you like this post? Share it with your friends

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