Yu Shiwei tutor class: That's how I trained two excellent daughters!

Yu Shiwei is a god-like presence on the training ground. He has trained more people than the total number of Koreans. He has been around the world 30 times in 40 years, and he is still teaching everywhere at the age of 70. But all these achievements, in his view, are not comparable to the cultivation of two excellent daughters: smart, high emotional intelligence, high cultivation and strong ability. One of them was promoted to manager after working at P&G for three months, and the other became a professor at the age of 30.

The country has just released the second child, and many people are eager to move, but I always feel that it is easy to have children, but it is not easy to be a qualified parent.

I am 27 years old and unmarried. The reason why I'm studying tutoring with Yu Shiwei now is because I understand that a well-educated child can't grow crooked inside.

Yu Shiwei's tutor course is very practical, combining his own example of teaching girls. At the same time, because he has been to many countries and knows the difference of education at home and abroad, I spent 199 yuan on this course in Himalaya. Now I have compiled some wonderful ideas and cases for you to browse.

My cousin's family has a naughty teacher, who is only 10 years old this year. But no matter who comes to the house, he always looks arrogant, disrespects his elders and plays some practical jokes. Once, he deliberately knocked the grandfather next door to the ground.

In this case, you will definitely be beaten when you are a child. But today's children are spoiled and cherished. Sure enough, my cousin and brother-in-law went next door to apologize. When I came back, I just said, "It can't be like this in the future." The child stared, "I don't care, do you care?" Say that finish, I walked into the room, only to hear the door slammed shut.

I couldn't bear to say to my cousin, "Bao Xiao (the baby's nickname) no matter what you do. If this continues, you will go to heaven. " My cousin's expression is full of helplessness. "Hey, I really can't help him. If you are serious, you will lose your temper. If you don't eat or go to school, you can only squat. "

It's just that uneducated and shameless people are not easy to coax out. Parents who are sucked dry by elderly children are not just coaxed by people who have no education since childhood.

There is a man at the eastern end of our village. He is in his prime. Every time I go home, I see his neighbors talking about it disdainfully. He is too tired to go out to work. At home, he looks like an emperor. His parents, who are over fifty, provide him with food and clothing like slaves. I remember leaving home in the cold winter. In order to catch the bus, I got up at 5 o'clock. I saw his mother pass by the door with a hoe on her thin right shoulder. I asked her, "Why are you so early?" Mother said, "Not only for his son, but also for his son. If he lives long, he will have to be raised for his old age. "

Too many spoiled children don't know how to be grateful, have no empathy and have no dedication.

China's view on human nature is biased towards two sides, namely, the theory of "human nature is good" and the theory of "inherent vice". I prefer the western "whiteboard theory", that is, the human heart is like a whiteboard, and both reason and knowledge come from experience. Therefore, what a person's heart grows into depends on what kind of education he has received.

When Yu Shiwei's daughter was a child, she liked watching TV upstairs, but she couldn't get a meal. Usually, her family always keeps the food hot until her daughter watches TV. One day at dinner, my daughter still said "you eat first", and the couple had a "conspiracy" brewing in their hearts.

After watching TV, my daughter opened the pot and all the food was eaten. Her mother said, "I thought you weren't hungry today, but we all ate up the food." My daughter rummaged around in various places with snacks, but found nothing.

This is a purposeful "conspiracy" carefully planned by Mr. and Mrs. Yu Shiwei. The purpose is to make their daughter change the behavior of not eating and watching TV.

In the middle of the night, my daughter touched her parents' bedside and cried to wake up her wife: "Mom, I'm hungry. Can you cook something to eat? " His wife couldn't bear it, but she had to bear it for planning, so she stayed until morning.

Although the plan was cruel, the result was gratifying. From then on, his daughter ran down to eat as soon as she heard the call, no matter which cartoon was shown on TV.

I especially remember the story of Yu Shiwei, because many of my relatives' children have the habit of watching TV without eating. Parents either bring food to their mouths or heat it carefully for fear that their children will be hungry.

Bad kids are used to it. Children are very happy when they are young, and they don't know how to be polite, honest, ashamed and filial to their elders. When they grow up, they will definitely not be filial to their parents. The essence of doting is moth, and it is also devouring children's future.

Educating children needs "tears", we should have our own principles, be strict with rules, let children know how to be responsible for their actions, and tell them what is right and wrong.

Education refers to basic cultural and moral cultivation, which is one of the important components of family education in Yu Shiwei.

The focus of education is to think of others and have the spirit of serving others.

But there is a banana peel on the ground, and you bend down to pick it up. It's that you would rather hold the garbage in your hand than throw it on the ground. Someone in the dormitory is sick, so you should be caring and attentive. It's that the child next door can't afford toys and you lend them to him.

When Yu Shiwei was in England, he once got into the elevator. As soon as he entered the door, someone asked him "which floor" (which floor? ), the person who asked this question is a boy who is only about 7 years old. He immediately stood on tiptoe to help him press the floor. When Yu Shiwei went out, the child took the initiative to help him hold the door open button to prevent being caught. The whole process was a spontaneous behavior of the child, and his mother stood behind without saying a word.

In China, I have never met such a child, and even adults rarely do.

Parents are born with "role models". As the saying goes, "a dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and a son born to a mouse can make holes." What kind of parents can cultivate what kind of children, and the best education parents can give their children is not a school district, not a bilingual kindergarten, but a good tutor and set an example.

Yu Shiwei's second daughter is the manager of Procter & Gamble Group. She was promoted after working in the company for three months. You know, P&G Group has never been a manager again after three months in the company.

It is said that children are business cards in the hands of parents. Parents like to compare this business card in their hands. If there is a promising child, I can't wait to tell the world that you are his father.

However, some people's business cards are particularly eye-catching, while others are extremely mediocre. How to let children go further and not be inferior, Yu Shiwei mentioned two points:

First, help children build self-confidence.

I used to work in a planning company, and the company arranged an employee to share it every day. After a few months, I found that the difference was really great. Some people are calm and clear on the stage, while others are timid and incoherent.

We or some people around us are afraid to speak in public. Fear of speaking in public is a sign of lack of self-confidence, which should be helped by our parents since childhood.

But have you found that China's parents are good at undermining self-confidence? I have a friend who has excellent grades, but every time he wins any honor, he will be cast cold water on it. "Take the first it's not a big deal. Make sure you get the first place every time. " When he won the first prize, his parents just said "Try harder". He has stuttered a little since he was a child. Usually, his parents won't let him talk at home. The reason is simple: "You stammer and make a fool of yourself."

My friend's stuttering is worse than when he was a child. His height is 1 m 8, and he looks like Eddie Peng Yuyan Yu Yan, but his personality is too withdrawn and his communication skills are weak, so he has always been a dispensable role in the team.

People who stutter sometimes have psychological barriers, are not confident, and fear of speaking will be more serious. If his parents had trained him to speak at an early age, encouraged him more, or sent him to a professional institution to overcome his stuttering, he would certainly not be who he is today.

Second, cultivate children's practical ability.

Some parents only care about their children's grades and don't let him do anything. At this point, Yu Shiwei is interesting. Many things in their family are divided into four parts. Everyone is responsible for the sanitation and plants in his own area. Children's used things must be put in their own places before they can sleep. Their rooms must be cleaned and their own affairs must be done well.

Some famous college students can't even wash their clothes because their parents didn't cultivate their hands-on ability since childhood, which leads them to become full-time players in reading, and they look like fools in other aspects except reading.

Yu Shiwei said that when his daughter was studying abroad, she assembled furniture and repaired light bulbs and water pipes herself, so that such children would not have the problem of arrogance at work.

A child should go through family education, school education, social education and, most importantly, family education.

Some time ago, the glory of the king's games were criticized by the media, but if you think about it carefully, some children's addiction to games is probably caused by their parents. A child said, "Whenever I am lonely, my mother will give me my mobile phone." . I think many minors are addicted to games because of a joint force, one is the pull of parents, and the other is the thrust of game developers, which makes children step into the abyss.

Parents' greatest kindness to their children is not to give them a seed of life, but to cultivate them carefully and make them grow into towering trees. If it leans in the process, straighten it. If it lacks nutrition, fertilize and water it.

Some children who lack family education also perform well, but they need to work harder than ordinary people, learn more knowledge, face the temptations around them with more self-discipline and overcome all difficulties with greater strength. Such people are admirable.

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