2021-08-31 Children's Education

Book Reading "There is Only One Thing in Life"

Author Jin Weichun

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There is Only One Thing in Life, is a good book recommended by FanDeng. I heard the conversation between FanDeng and the author, Mr. Jin Weichun, in the FanDeng Reading App, and I had a good feeling about it. Therefore, I bought it to read it carefully, and after reading it for a long time, I haven't finished it yet. This book has a deep meaning and thick taste, which makes people benefit a lot.

Today, I read Mr. Jin's paragraph on "Children's Nurturing". In his book, Mr. Jin mentioned the traditional Chinese concept of child-rearing: "Early childhood nurtures nature, childhood nurtures righteousness, adolescence nurtures ambition, and adulthood nurtures virtue. "

Early childhood refers to the period between 0 and 3 years of age, when a child's good and pure nature is cultivated. Mr. Jin said that in a person's life, eight words are enough "hard-working and simple, good understanding". This kind of character should be cultivated from the time of the little baby.

After the age of 3, it is the time to start learning. The most important thing at this time is the correct guidance. The most important thing at this time is the right guidance, the word "right".

What is correct, read the classic books, learn the classic learning, like the excellent characters to learn, speak the right words.

A child after the age of 3 is like a white sponge, absorbing whatever he sees. What is around him, he imitates. He is so ignorant of right and wrong that he absorbs both the good and the bad. Therefore, at this stage, the "children's education" is very important.

Mr. Kim, who has had a lot of experience, observed that many families and people seem to have similar "life scripts", and that the root cause of this is the bias in the "childhood" period.

For example, the "escape class" life, childhood, feel that the home is not good enough, yearning for the outside world. After that, when you start a family and start working, you still feel that the present is not good enough, and you want to run away.

For example, the "justice" life, childhood, feel that the father of the family is not good enough for the mother, can not help but want to "justice", the adult is also around to preside over their own "justice", the result of good and bad things. "The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.

Another example is the "unjust" life. When I was a child, I thought I wasn't treated fairly, and I cared a lot about the word "justice" all my life, and I've been fighting for these two words. You can't have a single complaint.

There is also the "bitter type" of life, when I was a child, I felt that my fate was not good, and other people's lives are better than their own.

The root of these stories can be related to the stage of "Childhood". 3-year-old children, many things they can not remember, but at that time the feeling of unhappiness, the feeling of aggression, always remember. It's the bottom of the consciousness, and once it's touched, the feelings come to life immediately.

In The Miracle of Positive Thinking, Zen Master Yixing said, "Let's bring out the child in our hearts, ask him how he feels, ask him what he's complaining about, listen to him, exhale, inhale, and let's be calm with each other, reconcile, and ultimately, get answers.

"There is only one thing in life", Mr. Jin also mentioned, stop, think about their own "life script" in the end how to write, where the source. Mr. Kim also mentioned to stop and think about how he wrote his "life script" and where it came from.

Mr. Kim also mentioned that we need to accompany and remind the next generation to help them find the source of their worries. Once this "thought" has been thought through, it will automatically become "clear" and "right".

There is no lack of "positive" nourishment in our life, but it is a lifelong endeavor to connect our hearts to "positive".

Because I read the paragraph "Children are nurtured by their parents" in "There is only one thing in life", I began to be sensitive to my own words and deeds, and it did not matter that I was aware of it, but once I seriously investigated it, I realized that "the problem is really serious".

For example, this morning, I was going to say to YouYou, "YouYou, Mommy has to go to work, so you're going to have to hang out with me today." This was a "playful remark", but when measured against the idea of "righteousness", it turned out to be too problematic.

I've been a mess for half my life, and it's only in the last few years that I've started to read hard and understand the benefits of reading. So in the past few years, one of the things I hated most about myself was my inertia, which was the word "muddle". Unexpectedly, this word "mixed" has penetrated into the marrow of the bone, and in casual speech, it comes out, not only do I have to be "mixed" myself, but I also have to bring my children along with me to be "mixed". This is a very good idea.

After that, we can no longer say, "Today, you and I mix together! Instead, you should say, "Today, you learned with me, I'm reading, and you're working hard!"

Hearing this, YuYu followed a sentence: "Then you later, can not say that I "threw in the bookstore", threw in Grandma's house, threw in the home ...... these words, I am a human being, and not your backpack! I'm a human being, not your backpack."

This is very reasonable. YuYu is no longer small, is also a person, is a person, should be respected. Therefore, you can't use words like "throw" and "throw away" anymore.

YuYu got energized and followed up with, "That's right, and you're not allowed to call me stupid!"

"Fool!" Such a label makes him heavy-hearted and depressed. Of indeed, it was so wrong.

These are all "wrong" words, and the child is being raised right. Such words should be strongly discouraged.

These are "wrong" words.