What is a secret engagement? What are the modern customs in Nan 'an, Quanzhou?

Secret engagement is an extension of marriage customs in southern Fujian. Generally speaking, in southern Fujian, no matter whether engaged or married, we should have a big banquet to entertain relatives and friends. This is a custom for hundreds of thousands of years. But throwing a big banquet is very extravagant and wasteful. Those with strong economic conditions can cope with it, and those with poor economic conditions can also cope with it. You can only choose dark warfare in the engagement link. On the one hand, it saves a very complicated and wasteful procedure. Second, save money for a big banquet. And quiet, relatively low-key. For the house of the richest man, I often like to choose a dark engagement. Because keeping a low profile can eliminate some unnecessary troubles. Secret engagement is gradually accepted and widely used by modern people. If you choose a secret engagement, as long as both parents and key members have dinner together, wearing a ring in front of both parents is an engagement. It's very simple, there is basically no complicated link, just eating a meal. As for your relationship, because it has already involved marriage. So I suggest that you seriously consider it and don't make any decisions too hastily and rashly.