The traditional custom of looking at the sky

After determining the month of marriage, both men and women will negotiate whether the date is at the beginning or the middle of the month (Han folk customs generally don't get married at the end of each month), and the specific date will be decided by the man's "smart man". Don't trust the numerology of some network software and some "masters" on the network. Then choose the auspicious day of the zodiac in the zodiac or the day that is clearly marked as "suitable for marriage", and some find out the choice according to the "Zhou Tang Tu Marriage" handed down. The map of marrying Zhoutang is to arrange the words "husband, aunt, hall, Weng, land, happiness, stove and kitchen" in a circle. The specific search method is as follows: If the "wedding month" is a big month (30 days), search in the direction from the husband to menstruation; if it is a small month (29 days), search in the direction from the woman to the stove. As long as there are no days with the words "Weng" and "Gu", it is ok, but the word "Tang" is the best, followed by the first, kitchen and stove. People usually choose the first two words, and the last two words are rarely used. From this point of view, although dating is for others, there is still a lot of choice for men and women. This time-honored custom of "looking at the sky" is still widely popular in rural areas.

"Looking at the sky" must first determine the wedding month according to the woman's zodiac. The woman marries according to the animal sign, commonly known as "looking forward to the old age."

In the folk customs of the early Han Dynasty, there were also animal taboos that were not suitable for marriage all year round: Shen, Zi, Chennian snake, chicken, cow, Si, You, Ugly Year tiger, horse, dog, Yin, Wu, Wuxu pig, rabbit, sheep, hai, Mao, immature dragon, mouse and monkey. But now this taboo has received little attention. Beginning of spring has two years of widowhood in the lunar calendar, and the year without beginning of spring is the year of bachelor. This is not ancient, but it has a great influence on the marriage customs of the Han nationality. Whenever there are "two springs" or "no spring" in the coming year, there will always be a wedding peak before the Spring Festival. Later, many years ago, it became popular for women to eat at men's homes (in some places, they stayed at men's homes for one night, accompanied by prospective mother-in-law or sister-in-law).

Men are optimistic about their lives. Generally speaking, the matchmaker will verbally inform the woman's family, and some people will seriously send it in writing to show their respect for the woman's family. This is what people often call "the next marriage book". But no matter how "see" or "communicate", once the wedding date is determined, it cannot be changed. In the old custom, while looking at the date, we should also determine the taboos of wedding and seeing off relatives according to the animal signs and birthdays of both men and women, and anyone who is in trouble with the other party is not allowed to attend. It also stipulates the direction of getting up, dressing and dressing up, the direction of getting on and off the sedan chair (car), the time of getting married, going home and worshiping heaven and earth. To avoid evil and pray for good luck and peace. This Han folk custom cannot be simply attributed to feudal superstition.