On the second day after receiving the certificate, the mother-in-law borrowed money from her daughter-in-law to buy a wedding room without adding a name. What was the result?

At the beginning of the article, I want to ask you a question. What does a marriage certificate mean?

I have heard many people say that the marriage certificate is a shackle, a pair of shackles for men and women who enter marriage, which proves that the two will be tied together for life and will never be separated. Even if we are separated, it will inevitably hurt our bones, and both sides will be greatly hurt psychologically, physically and externally.

In a word, marriage certificate is very important. Once you get it, you can't divorce easily, because the cost of divorce is extremely high, especially for women. Once you get the license, you are the legal husband's family. No matter whether you are formally married or not, you are already the legal wife of a man. This is an unchangeable fact.

Some things, such as marriage certificate, are proof that a woman is married, regardless of common sense and various reasons. Facts are facts and cannot be changed.

It's not so easy for a woman to get a marriage certificate and then encounter something that she wants to back down and change her mind. For the sake of her reputation, she shouldn't do that, otherwise, even if you are divorced, even if you are a yellow flower girl, who cares? People will only think that you are a "abandoned wife" abandoned by your husband's family, and it will be difficult to remarry in the future. Even if you remarry, it will not be better than before.

Come on, he died early in the morning.

There are always some people, with the old concept of the Gregorian calendar, who think that getting a marriage certificate is equivalent to getting an imperial edict. It is really stupid to think that a marriage certificate is a cage for a woman's life if she doesn't do it.

Indeed, a marriage certificate is very important. It represents a legal marriage, and it represents that two people who love each other have really won the recognition of their families and made a positive result. The marriage certificate is a proof that they love each other and are willing to hold hands for a lifetime. It can be said that it is a cage that traps a woman's life, which is a bit exaggerated.

Aunt Huang just doesn't believe this evil. All women from her time have a sense. Once they have proof, it is impossible for a woman to leave her husband's house. Even if she is unlucky, she can't live without the man she has relied on for most of her life.

If a woman is divorced, how can she live? A woman who will be drowned by her parents' mouths, spit by outsiders and have the courage to divorce will always be looked down upon for a lifetime. She can't imagine how many women can have such courage, and her future daughter-in-law Xiao Mei looks very family-oriented, unlike the little girl now who is so self-centered, uncontroversial and talkative, so she dares to make such a decision.

But who would have thought that this soft and weak little girl actually gave her a loud slap in the face with reality, and then no matter how hard she tried, it didn't help. After all, she said it herself and because of her.

Obviously, I just wanted to help my son film this little girl, but now I have become a sinner of the whole family, shooting myself in the foot, which is what happened to Aunt Huang.

Aunt Huang is 54 years old this year. Her son is called Zhou Cen. She talked about a girlfriend named Xiaomei. Her son brought Xiaomei home for the first time. Aunt Huang looked around and felt uncomfortable all over.

"I don't know what the hell I'm wearing. A girl, wearing a pullover, is like a cloth cover, with a thud, showing no figure at all. I also wear a pair of sneakers with a very thick foundation. My feet are very big, ugly and beautiful.

Xiaomei is actually a very clever girl and doesn't jump clothes. She is just an ordinary little girl who has been dressed all her life, and she is also very sensible. She helps to choose vegetables, grab meals, and pour wine for Aunt Huang and her husband. Her life is natural and graceful, and her speech is very measured.

After all, Xiaomei's family is much better than Zhou Cen's. Her father is a businessman. Although she didn't teach her daughter some business methods, she learned the most important part of life and the art of speaking.

Actually, Aunt Huang is looking for bones in an egg. She should be happy when her son finds a girlfriend, but she is not happy. Aunt Huang secretly wiped her tears after her son sent his girlfriend away. She later revealed the secret to her sister.

"I saw that my son was kind to her, and my heart was particularly uncomfortable, just sad. I had a hard time. You know my husband, you idiot.

When I was young, I was never kind to me. When I gave birth to my son, I almost died of massive bleeding during childbirth. He fell asleep on a bench in the hospital, and the doctor couldn't wake him up if he wanted to sign it.

When I woke up, I was still in trouble. Later, when I came out, he still scolded me, saying that it was so easy for people to have a baby, and it would cost you so much money to have a baby. If you don't see that you have a son, you won't want to go home.

Then I was fooling around outside. After I found out, before I could say anything, he hit me and told me to go home, making me a fool of myself.

Thought about divorce, but dare not leave. My son is still young. Who will take care of him when I'm gone? Will he have a good life with such a dead fool?

I'm also afraid of being looked down upon. The woman's family doesn't stay at her husband's house and go back to her mother's house. She doesn't like it, and she has to be pointed at by others. No matter why, others will know that you are a woman. Divorced, just don't want it.

My husband is right to me, and he is even more unscrupulous to me. Every time I quarrel with him, he tells me that you have had enough of me. Why don't you get out? Divorce me if you can.

I'm speechless.

I have suffered a lot for my children. I put up with it for so many years. It can be said that the son was brought up by himself. How much contribution can he make to the children? I didn't even pay a few dollars, and my contribution was not great.

In other words, my son is the only motivation in my life. He is obedient and sensible. He often wipes my tears and tells me not to cry, saying that when he grows up, he will take me to their home and live with him. He also said that he would always put me first and always be the best for me.

However, seeing that he brought his girlfriend back, he asked her if she was hot or cold. I feel really bad. I feel as if something important has been taken away. "

Later, when Xiao Mei and Zhou Cen got married, Xiao Mei's family asked for a bride price of180,000 yuan. In fact, this bride price is affordable for Aunt Huang's family, but Aunt Huang has suppressed it, not because she really doesn't want her son to get married. No matter how selfish she is, she will always put her son's happiness first.

She just thinks that the girl can't live too smoothly in her own home, give her some setbacks, and let her know that her daughter-in-law is not so good, and she must hold the girl down for whatever she says.

Xiaomei is a good girl and doesn't care. She didn't think much. She understands that it is not easy for Aunt Huang and her wife to make money. In the end, she only got a bride price of 80,000 yuan and brought back a dowry of100,000 yuan.

Aunt Huang is naturally happy. Ordinary people get hundreds of thousands when they marry a daughter-in-law, and their family can marry a daughter-in-law with good family conditions. It's so easy to handle, and it's a big bargain in vain.

In order to prevent the girl from going back on her word, Aunt Huang quickly prepared a bride price. After the wedding date was set, Aunt Huang urged them to get the marriage certificate quickly, but both young people said they were in no hurry and had no choice but to do it themselves. Aunt Huang chose a so-called good day and dragged them to the Civil Affairs Bureau. The prepared speech is also quite good.

"I will forget. Today is the luckiest day for you two to get your certificates. Mom can't fool you. Hurry up! "

In this way, under the urging of Aunt Zhou, the future daughter-in-law Xiaomei also kindly refused. She had planned to wait until she got married, but now her mother-in-law has screwed up the plan, but she can only accept her mother-in-law's kindness and simply close her eyes and get the certificate first. In the future, the enemy will have a way to resist.

After receiving the certificate, Aunt Huang finally felt relieved, thinking that she could never run away again, and then began to think. I have heard from my son several times before that Xiaomei has a good job and her parents are very kind to her. The girl has saved a lot of private money in her hand.

Recently, my family is preparing the final payment of my son's wedding room, which just happens to be a little tight. Now that they have got the marriage certificate, Xiaomei is already a member of the family. Why is it difficult to borrow some money at this time?

Aunt Huang thought very well and said it was borrowed. It is more important to borrow money and pay back the money at home. Even people are their own homes. Neither she nor her family belongs to him in the end. If she borrows it, she will give it. It will be difficult for her to ask for it again in the future.

But look on the bright side, Aunt Huang definitely said to borrow it, and she is not stupid. She said that if someone gave it, she wouldn't agree without being a fool.

The next day, she went to Xiaomei and said this:

"Daughter-in-law, you know, the condition of our family is not good. In order to give you the final payment of this house, we even took out the coffin book, which is still not enough. I heard that you had some private money before, but you don't need it anyway. Lend a cushion to my aunt first, not much, not much. A little more or less will do. Don't worry, I'll pay you back as soon as I have spare money, aunt.

Who knows Xiaomei didn't answer immediately after hearing it. She was silent for a while and threw a question to Aunt Huang.

"I can borrow it, but does this house write my name?"

Aunt Huang was stopped at that time, but immediately replied with a smile: "Of course not, we borrowed the money and will pay it back later, so we should still buy a house in full." Besides, you are only a few hundred thousand, and our house is worth 700 thousand. I'm afraid you don't have enough money. " Xiaomei has understood. She calmly refused her mother-in-law: "That is to say, if you don't admit the money and don't pay it back, I will have both money and people?" After divorce, nothing can be left.

Aunt, don't think too much. It's not that I don't believe you. But my private money was invested. My aunt should believe me, too "

Hearing Xiao Mei's answer, Aunt Huang got angry. She felt that a little girl's film was actually playing Tai Chi with her here, as if she had seen through it, which made her very angry and simply stopped beating around the bush.

"Financial management is not can't take it out, what are you doing out? Now that you and my son have been certified as husband and wife, you are a member of our family and you don't want to borrow some money. Do you still want to live with my son? " Aunt Huang's aggressive questioning forced Xiaomei to hand over her private money, but Xiaomei just spoke lukewarm, and Aunt Huang was even more angry.

"License can be proud? Can I divorce my son if I don't talk and promise? Divorce if you don't get married. I think you can have the courage? Really divorced, you don't want to get married in the future, think about it yourself! "

Xiaomei finally spoke, but she just said "then give me some time to think clearly" and got up and left directly. Aunt Huang was quite happy at first. She felt that her threat had worked. The girl was afraid of movies, but the next day, she handed in Zhou Cen for a long time. After she came back, Zhou Cen came back, and her face was very bad.

"Son, what's the matter? Did the little girl agree? "

Zhou Cen looked at his mother, without saying a word, took out the things in his pocket and threw them directly on the ground.

"Good idea, don't even tell me to find her, private money, why do you want to ask her? This was originally a secret between the two of us. When she questioned me, I was ashamed and didn't dare to face her.

Now it's okay, now it's okay, your goal has been achieved, you are satisfied, are you happy? "

Aunt Huang picked up something on the ground and looked at a divorce certificate. She read it many times, and it was true. Aunt Huang was dumbfounded.

It turned out that Xiaomei went home and told her parents about it without saying anything, and said she decided to divorce. After listening to this, her parents agreed with her daughter very much. After the family made up their minds, they found Zhou Cen and divorced her directly.

Aunt Huang couldn't believe this fact for several days, and her son didn't talk to her for several days. The truth is right in front of her eyes. Even if Aunt Huang can't believe it again, she has to believe it, because her kindness has made this irreparable tragedy.

To say that Aunt Huang is really hateful, but it is also very pitiful. She is also a woman with a rough fate. She was once bound by a divorce certificate all her life.

In the past, it may be true that women's status was relatively low and the public's tolerance for divorced women was low. In many cases, even if there are great marital problems, women will not choose to divorce unless they really have to. They are not afraid of anything but gossip. They are afraid of the contempt of others and even those around them.

The so-called fear of hard work, but fear of being stabbed in the back, has become the biggest stone in a woman's heart, which is the real shackles that imprison women.

But in this era, it is very different from the past. The family status of women is rising day by day. Although some people say that this is also a bad trend, women really lack a lot of self-loathing inferiority complex. You know, self-confidence is a good thing.

As the saying goes, confident women are the most beautiful. It's true. A confident woman will not underestimate herself. Although there are still many unfair slanderous voices against women, they have their own ideas and opinions and will not let other people's voices affect their lives.

Perhaps the times have influenced the mentality, or perhaps the mentality has influenced the times. In short, today's women are not playthings that were bullied in the patriarchal era in the past, but really be themselves.

It can also be said that women in the past have long died, and today's women are all kings of cattle.

It is not that the square face deliberately raises women. Perhaps some women portray the rise of women too biased, but most women in the new era have three views. They may not know what they want, but they must know what they don't want.

Their thoughts have really started to connect with the world, and the spiritual world is no longer poor. In fact, this is not a sign of the progress of the times.

Some people, however, always stand still and try to tie women down with outdated routines. This is ignorance and fearlessness.

It's actually easy to tie a woman. Remember, girls are actually very easy to deal with, just eat soft rice instead of hard rice, just use your heart.

Really want to use those tough means, scheming, selfish, those girls will not sit still and let you get what you want.

Advise some male families, a drop in the bucket, please think twice before you do.