The experience of learning marriage customs in Jinjiang! 1000 words or so

The ancient marriage customs have been preserved to this day.

It is understood that the marriage custom of high dowry in coastal areas has a long history. As early as the Western Zhou Dynasty, the "six rites"-acceptance, asking names, concubinage, acceptance, invitation and congratulations were the six major procedures of marriage:

Nacai: The man's parents asked the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's parents.

Ask the name: after the woman promised to talk about marriage, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman to ask about the name, zodiac, date of birth and other specific circumstances related to "fate", and went to the ancestral temple to divine and determine good or bad luck.

Najib: Just engaged. The ceremony can be simple or complicated, but the exchange of engagement rings is an essential "procedure". Usually, the man goes to the woman's house accompanied by several cousins and matchmakers, and the two sides personally dress each other.

Expropriation: that is, the man sends the bride price to the woman's house, and whether the marriage is actually established is judged by whether the woman accepts it.

Invitation: Shortly after conscription, the man sends a matchmaker or directly agrees with the woman on the date of the wedding ceremony. In the past, most people had to tell fortune and choose the auspicious day of the zodiac.

Kissing: The groom goes to the woman's house to marry the bride. According to the regulations, plus the entourage, it must be singular. In the evening, weddings are usually held to entertain relatives and friends.

This marriage custom is passed down in this way. Even if there are small changes, it is "consistent". Quanzhou is a famous historical and cultural city, and all kinds of traditional customs and etiquette are well preserved, including this important custom.

In recent years, capital has been rising steadily.

In the Tang Dynasty, the betrothal gifts were usually things like silk, satin and the like, and the quantity could be more or less, and wine and food were not included. While inheriting the tradition, the coastal people endow this custom with some times colors.

The contents of dowry in Song Dynasty are rich and colorful, including gold and silver jewelry, cloth, stove, quilt, towel, hat, shoes and socks, utensils, cups and plates, pearls and jade treasures, toilet mirrors, washing utensils, Four Treasures of the Study, antique treasures and so on.

In the 1950s, it was fashionable for the groom to wear a suit and the bride to wear cheongsam. The "wedding car" is a flower sedan chair hired; Drum music is the beating sound of the waist drum team; There is generally no banquet, only a simple meeting as a wedding.

60' s: A wedding photo, together with the parents' dinner, is the whole process of the wedding. Gifts include quotations from Chairman Mao, badges, washbasins, thermos bottles and towels. 2 yuan is the least gift, and 8 yuan is a "gift". The heaviest dowry, of course, is clothes supplied by ticket, as can be seen from the lyrics of "nylon stockings wants four pairs of four shirts" at that time.

In the 1970s, more than 600 dowry, sewing machine and bicycle were invited for 20 banquets, and a total of 3000 yuan was spent. At that time, it was a luxurious wedding.

80' s of last century: It was the fastest changing period. The "wedding car" was first a bicycle, then a motorcycle, and then a car appeared. As for the dowry, it was popular at first, that is, sewing machines, bicycles, watches and radios, then televisions, washing machines, refrigerators and air conditioners, and then passbooks, houses and cars.

In the 1990s, the passbook for dowry became more and more expensive, the house became bigger and bigger, motorcycles became more and more luxurious, and the scale of banquets became higher and higher. Take Chen Dai in Jinjiang as an example. The "wedding car" was first an ordinary motorcycle, then a big black shark of more than 20,000 yuan, then a prince car of 40,000-50,000 yuan or even 70,000 yuan, and finally it was replaced by a car.

New century: With the development of economy, the level of dowry is further improved. The highest record is: a Mercedes-Benz 320, a BMW 725, six shops facing the street, cash 6.5438+0.5 million yuan, US$ 6.5438+0.5 million yuan. Other most luxurious and fashionable furniture and household appliances are ignored-it is said that the woman bought them according to the standard of 654.38+100,000 yuan.

Take Chen Dai's four places in Jinjiang as an example. The dowry of 300,000 yuan, 500,000 yuan and 6,543.8+more than 0,000 yuan is the "price" of low, medium and high-end weddings respectively. Jewelry is not measured by grams, but by kilograms. Generally, a wedding costs 2 to 3 kilograms of gold. The "market" reserve price of the gift money sent by guests is 200 yuan, and it is not uncommon for 500 yuan or 1000 yuan or even several thousand yuan.

The bride price is mainly composed of jewelry, cash and food. Jewelry includes rings, necklaces, earrings, bracelets, bracelets, anklets and other sets, mainly gold. With the change of fashion, jewelry, diamonds and platinum have become "new favorites".

Cash includes engagement money, gift money and cloth money. The bride price money is given to the woman's client, and tens of thousands to millions of yuan are returned in full as part of the woman's dowry. Cloth money is equivalent to ancient silks and satins, which generally costs 10 thousand yuan. Food can be as simple as a bucket of cooking oil and a box of exquisite biscuits, or as complicated as candy, canned food, fruit and dried seafood. Candy alone costs about 80-90 thousand