Is the foreign son-in-law in Nanjing Blind Date Corner very popular?

Recently, a kind of "Chinese-style blind date contempt chain", "Beijing-Kyoto Duhu" and "central city and educational highland real estate" are popular in the circle of friends, which are considered as the most competitive indicators of the blind date market. A blind date shouted: it's heart! Not only was it defeated by hard conditions such as real estate and hukou, but it was also eliminated for some unreasonable reasons. For example, because there is a folk saying that "ten sheep are incomplete", sheep are discriminated against.

So, is there such a situation in Nanjing? In the famous "blind date corner" of Xuanwu Lake, the reporter interviewed around and found that this chain store has no market in Nanjing, and Nanjing people known as "big radish" are not so snobbish.

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Most of the marriage seekers are girls, and the conditions are good.

Recently, the continuous high temperature in Nanjing has made people sweat even if they are not outdoors. However, in the blind date corner of Xuanwu Lake Park, hundreds of parents still braved the heat to give their children blind dates.

The reporter saw that there were about 100 copies of "marriage resume" brought by parents on the ground and beside the flower bed in the blind date corner. Most resumes will indicate the applicant's age, height, personality, education and work unit, and will also list the requirements for the other half.

Among them, women's marriage resumes account for more than 80%, and most of them are post-80 s, with bachelor's degrees and more masters. A girl's wedding resume says: local, unmarried, born in 1989, undergraduate, kindergarten teacher, parents both work in institutions, and there are two suites at home, but her requirements for the man are simple: an unmarried young man, good academic qualifications, good personality, stable work, and especially wrote: it doesn't matter whether he has a house or not. In fact, many women have stated on their resumes that they already have a house and a car, hoping that the man will be responsible, mature and self-motivated.

A man's resume says: I was born in 1985, unmarried, with a bachelor's degree, engaged in software work, with an annual income of about 250 thousand, a house and a car, and no bad hobbies. At the scene, the personal conditions written on the resumes of most male suitors are similar, mainly after 80. Most of them have a house and a car, and they have clear requirements on the age and marital status of the other half, but there are no further requirements in other aspects, and some even specify that the region is not limited.

After a thorough understanding, the reporter found that compared with the online "China blind date price list", the blind date angle did not present a clearly defined contempt chain. Although the resume has certain material requirements for the marriage partner, it does not over-materialize the marriage.

House is not a prerequisite, character is more important.

"How old is your child?" This is the most frequently asked sentence by sister wildebeest in Xuanwu Lake.

Sister Ma, 47, is a native of Nanjing. In recent years, she has "set up a stall" in the blind date corner of Xuanwu Lake almost every weekend, not only recruiting a son-in-law for her daughter, but also introducing the object to the children of relatives and friends.

"Not much, age, height, have a stable job, the room is the best, if not, it depends and the conditions are good. The most important thing is good character. " Although Sister Ma agreed that the economic foundation was necessary, she did not put forward specific "standards". In her eyes, "no bad hobbies" and "good personality" are hard to leverage.

Coincidentally, when Ms. Hu proposed to her daughter, the most important thing was personality. "My daughter was born in 1989. After graduating from college, she worked as a financial officer in a top three hospital in Nanjing. " Ms. Hu said that there are no special requirements for the man, the conditions are quite good, and there is a stable job. "There is no need to ask people to buy a house. That's not the most important thing. What matters is character and personality. "

She said that her daughter had been arranged to meet several suitable boys before, but none of them succeeded. "Maybe there is no eye contact." Ms. Hu admits that the popular online conditions such as "Don't be a sheep" are unheard of. "Before getting married, have a lucky day. If it is accurate, there must be a good life. " The good days after marriage are not calculated, but come out. "

The more you ask, the harder it is to find.

Similar to Sister Ma, 53-year-old Lao Zhang is also one of the "frequent visitors" to the blind date corner of Xuanwu Lake. Although his children are married, he is always happy to come here every weekend, on the one hand, to kill time, on the other hand, to find someone for his friends' children.

When asked if he cared if the child was a foreigner, Lao Zhang bluntly said: "What happened to foreigners? Outsiders can stay, which means they are excellent. Not to mention Nanjing, even if you are from Shanghai, how many of your ancestors are from Shanghai? "

Lao Wang comes from Datong, Shanxi, and his wife is a factory worker. This is the first time they have come to Xunwu Lake to marry their children. "My son is 29 years old. He went to college in Nanjing and stayed in Nanjing after graduation. Now he is an employee of an IT company in Nanjing Software Avenue ... His units are almost all boys, so he has no chance to contact girls, so he has not found a suitable object so far. "

Lao Wang said: "Now Nanjing has high housing prices. We hope that they can rely on their own efforts to buy a house and fight for their future. "

That afternoon, someone called me through the marriage information left by Mr. Wang. Mr. Wang said with a smile: "They said they were very satisfied with my son and would bring their daughter to see our father and son this afternoon ... haha, it's my first time to take over." I hope this is a good sign. "

"There is no one who can't find an object, only the thinking that can't find an object." Huang Haiyan, a senior matchmaker, bluntly said that these contempt chains circulating on the Internet actually require more, and the more rules and regulations there are, the harder it is to find. This reminds Huang Haiyan of a "long-standing problem" with good conditions. She has been looking for a partner for 67 years and has not yet landed. "This boy was born in 1982. He belongs to a dog. He doesn't belong to a sheep or a chicken. It is said that he will make trouble with him. Girls are required to be beautiful, the organization is compiled, Nanjing locals, and even parents are required to have a good job. "

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Girls in Nanjing get married later than boys.

The reporter looked up the data in recent years and found that in 20 14 years, the average age of first marriage registration in Nanjing was 30. 1 year, including 30. 1 year for boys and 30.2 years for girls. In 20 15 years, the total average age of first marriage rose to 30.4 years, including 30.4 years for males and 30.5 years for females. In 20 16 years, the total average age of first marriage rose to 3 1.6 years, including 3 1.5 years for males and 3 1.7 years for females. In recent years, girls in Nanjing get married later than boys.

"In terms of marriage, we China people are basically' boys are lower than girls', and now girls are excellent. If you want to look up, the natural range will be reduced. As a result, I picked it up and left by myself. " According to the analysis of marriage counseling experts from a matchmaking agency near nanjing xinjiekou, Nanjing girls prefer doctors and university teachers; Boys like to find stable jobs, such as institutions, civil servants, bank employees and so on. They think that girls in these occupations have more time to take care of their families.

The "marriage between the two places" has exceeded 40%

More than 20 years ago, Nanjing girl was bent on finding a local or Shanghai husband. If she introduces a young man from other places to a girl in Nanjing, especially from northern Jiangsu and Anhui, nine times out of ten, she will refuse, and even have no chance to "meet and talk".

Now Nanjing people's mate selection criteria are no longer single. The reporter learned from Nanjing Civil Affairs Bureau that 4 1035 couples got married in Nanjing in the first half of the year, among which "marriage between the two places" showed an upward trend, with a preliminary estimate of over 40%.

According to the sampling survey of two marriage registration offices in Gulou District and Xuanwu District, it is found that residents in Jiangsu Province are the main choice for Nanjing local citizens to choose a spouse, with northern Jiangsu accounting for the most, accounting for 80% of the total, followed by Anhui, Zhejiang, Shandong, Liaoning and Hubei. In the "marriage between the two places", "foreign husbands" are slightly more than "foreign wives", and foreign husbands with good conditions are very popular. It can be proved that more and more people go through the marriage formalities with collective hukou, because foreign college students stay in Nanjing after graduation, and their hukou is either linked to the talent market or directly located in the unit collective hukou.

Marriage needs two of a kind first. No matter how rich the material is, it will not be happy if the spiritual level can't keep up.