What is poverty and generosity? Why is poverty generous?

As a psychological counselor, I have met many rich people and many poor people. Why is there such a saying that the poor are generous, the rich are stingy? Let me make a few comments.

First of all, the poor care about face. Don't feel that others are poor and lose face. On the contrary, the poor care about face.

For example, a big brother I know has little money. However, he really cares about face. He always acts according to high standards. Even if he borrows money and is in debt, he will do good deeds and make a scene.

He is not stingy with the family affairs of other people in the village. He follows others as he likes, and sometimes even pays more money.

In a word, I'd rather be beaten and swollen than looked down upon.

Later, I went to do social research and found that there were many situations like this big brother. The poor will spend a lot of money to maintain their face and dignity. They don't take others for nothing, and they don't want to admit that they are inferior to others. They always show their generosity.

Rich people don't.

The rich always spend money for a purpose. The rich don't care what others think. It doesn't matter if others say it's stingy. The rich cherish every penny. They always hope that money will make money. Therefore, in the eyes of others, the rich are stingy and stingy.

Secondly, I am already poor. If I am not generous, no one will get along with me. The poor really can't be stingy.

If the poor show a stingy look, seven aunts and eight aunts and neighbors will gossip about themselves And the circle of friends of the poor is highly coincident. Once someone says he is stingy, others will soon know that he will not get along with himself.

Therefore, on the one hand, being poor and generous is to save face, on the other hand, it is to integrate into the environment. As outsiders, we can't blame them too much.