My daughter is in the third grade, and her grades have always been ok. The lowest score is 86. She studies very hard. She usually solves problems well. The math score in this exam is 78, female.

Feel it, I hope it can help you. First of all, I don't know if you have noticed. You hope your children are not careless at ordinary times, but do you always say that your children are careless every time you fail the exam? Children are a mirror of parents. When you encounter setbacks in the process of educating your children, are you always blaming your children? If so, please put down your status as a child's parent and review your education methods. The "root" of the child is likely to be on himself. I remember when I was a child, whenever I finished the exam, the first thing my father said when he saw me was how did I do in the exam? Careless again. No. When the test paper comes down, look at my score first. Although my father never beats me and scolds me when I don't do well in the exam, he always says that what I shouldn't do is always wrong and I am careless in every exam. Then he will take pains to give me political lessons and tell me stories about how he studied when he was a child. He goes to herd cattle without studying. If I don't study hard, I will be worthless in the future. Usually before the exam, I didn't do well in the exam, even if my classmates came. At that time, my psychology was a typical rebellious psychology, but I dare to say it, because he is a parent, parents should have the dignity of parents. Therefore, my father earnestly said that my left ear and right ear are haunted, and I will fail in the next exam, especially afraid of the exam, because I know that I can't get 100 every time, and I will always do so. The experience I got from everyone is that parents should not care too much about their children's scores, and children attach great importance to their parents' reaction to their children's exam results. If they give their children a negative message, it will directly affect their interest in learning. So no matter what you do, you should pay attention to its process and don't pursue its result too much. When children's test scores, especially when they don't do well, don't ask their scores immediately, let alone put pressure on them. Criticism or beating can easily cause psychological stress to children, and giving them a relaxed learning atmosphere can avoid their nervousness. The more children with poor grades, the more they need encouragement. While encouraging, let him know that he does have a gap, but let the child believe that he can learn well. Establish the concept that I can do it. And analyze the problem with the children and find out the reason. The key is to teach children to solve problems and master learning methods. This way, the child will think that you are sincere to him. Secondly, don't compare your child's grades with other children with high scores, which will make your child completely lose confidence. You should compare yourself. For example, you scored 80 points in the last exam, and one more point this time is victory. Parents should give affirmation and encouragement. In addition, I once discussed the so-called "carelessness" of children with a class teacher in a middle school. She said that the so-called "carelessness" is actually a vague concept of children, and they do not fully understand this problem. As long as you say it below, or try it, the child will understand it again immediately, but it will be blurred when it comes to the exam. When parents see that everything is wrong, they think it is "carelessness". In this way, if children are always labeled as "sloppy" in the form of preaching, then children will have a strong rebellious mentality, and even feel afraid of exams, and they will not be able to do well in exams. So I think the most critical problem for you now is not how to correct your child's problems, but how to adjust your mentality. The most important thing is to communicate with your child and gain his trust in you. One is to be equal. Equality is the premise of creating a good family psychological atmosphere that everyone feels comfortable. In such a family, children's mentality is stable and normal, and children are easily educated by their parents. The second is to be rational. Treat children's grades correctly and don't label them "sloppy" at will. In the long run, children will have the wrong impression of "sloppy". This is not conducive to the formation of stable psychological characteristics of children. The third is to open up. If parents are always aggressive when children make mistakes, let them admit their mistakes immediately, so that they don't understand where they are wrong and how they made them. Only when children know the reasons for their mistakes can they effectively avoid repeating similar mistakes. Be serious and calm when criticizing, don't get angry, stick to positive criticism, don't be sarcastic, and don't nag after criticism, otherwise it will make children rebellious and reduce the effect of criticism. The fourth is listening. Listening is the premise of helping. Listen carefully to your child's thoughts and see what help he needs. If parents use advice instead of listening, children will remain silent. Fifth, don't expect too much from children, be tolerant, don't be in a hurry for utility, ask less, be detached and relaxed, and be induced harmoniously and naturally, so as to achieve subtle spiritual edification and get twice the result with half the effort. Otherwise, it is easy to make children's endurance exceed the limit and lose their interest in learning and enterprising spirit forever. Of course, China has its own national conditions, and the future generation will face more competitive pressure from Yanjun. Learning more skills will help children's development. When I say detached, I mean to reduce the psychological pressure. Sixth, choose the right time to educate children. For example, it is the best time for parents to talk to their children before going to bed after dinner every day. Mothers can whisper to their daughters, and fathers and sons can talk about what they saw and heard during the day. Parents give advice and suggestions to their children's troubles, and encourage and support their children's good deeds and correct ideas. * * * and * * going out to do housework together is also a good opportunity to talk. When the child gets grades, the child feels the joy of success and is in a particularly good mood. While praising and encouraging their children, parents should seize the opportunity to point out their shortcomings and put forward further requirements (but grasp a degree). In this case, the child is willing to accept it; When children fail, don't scold them, but help them analyze, affirm their achievements and find out the problems. In this way, children not only learn how to get out of the predicament, but also deepen their feelings with their parents and are willing to listen to their parents' teaching. The ancients said: "People are not sages, to err is human, to correct mistakes, and to be good is nothing." . Parents should realize that the right things are obtained by constantly summing up mistakes, and so are children. Only by constantly making mistakes can they really learn and grow! I believe that as long as you can communicate with your children often, and you and your children often put themselves in other's shoes, your children will be smarter and cuter! P.S. I'll give you five sentences that Mr. Isabella Chow once said. I transcribed them and posted them on the wall at home as a souvenir of my parenting, hoping to inspire you. First, parents' evaluation of their children is always two sentences: great, except for the wrong places; Great, only a few people lost two; Great, only nine questions are wrong; Great, just read the water into a pile.